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Co-Parenting With a Partner – The First Year

If you’re like me, I really thought that, despite my decision to breastfeed, my husband was so gung ho about being a Dad that we would share the parenting responsibilities pretty equally once our first child was born. I was in for a rude awakening. Breastfeeding meant that much of the time I was literally attached to my new baby, and when I was not, I had an easier time calming him than my husband did. And even when I didn’t, I couldn’t stand to have my husband trying to comfort our fussy baby without stepping in and trying to help. Whether due to biology or psychology, I was so attached to my new baby that I couldn’t tear myself away long enough to really get a break. As a result, I became more comfortable in the baby care role, and he became less.
There are many reasons why fathers often take a backseat in the early days with a new baby. Whether because of a hormonally-afflicted “helicopter” Mom, an inexperienced Dad, a baby who is more easily calmed by the mother, or gender-related attitudes about who does what, newborn care often falls disproportionately to the mother. And since Mom is generally recovering from childbirth, likely adjusting to breastfeeding, undoubtedly sleep deprived, and in the throes of huge hormonal changes, this disproportionate share can become a BIG PROBLEM. You know that saying that “if Mom isn’t happy, nobody is happy?” I think the truth of that statement is widely underestimated.
So, we’ve got a Mom who can’t let go to allow her partner to care for the baby, a Dad who is either mildly incompetent or feels he is (or is being treated like he is), a baby who’s getting used to being cared for by Mom, and a Mom who is at the end of her rope and feels like she just can’t get a break (and is not sure she would take one if she could). Not a recipe for a happy family.
Negotiating who does what, recognizing the barriers to fairly allocating parenting and household responsibility and actually making and carrying out a plan to address those barriers and create a cooperative, supportive and fair allocation of workload is one of the major tasks of the first year of parenthood. Working out a plan for who does what, figuring out how to set goals for change if change is needed, and implementing those changes, can make a world of difference.
I once read a study (and I don’t have a citation, but I like to believe that it is true) that claimed that of all the factors that might predict the well-being of children as they grow up (e.g. praise, affection, discipline, structure, etc.), the one variable that is most predictive of a child’s future well-being is the degree to which his or her parents have a cooperative relationship around parenting. So, if that is true, it matters less who does what (or if it is done correctly), and it matters more that parents are supportive of each other as parents and partners.…

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Relaxing Vacations In Ski Chalets

When one mentions the word chalet, often images of skiing in the Swiss Alps come to mind, but one does not have to go to Switzerland or be a pro-skier to experience a chalet vacation! Travelling to any ski resort, whether in the USA, Canada, or Europe, chalets can provide an excellent opportunity to relax, have a mug of hot chocolate by the fireplace, and unwind in the isolation of snowy mountains surrounded by loved ones or strangers about to become new friends.
The dictionary defines a chalet as a wooden home with a sloped roof and overhanging eaves, common in Switzerland and other areas in the Alps, but these days it’s not restricted to Switzerland at all. Most cottage or lodges built to resemble chalets in the Alps are called chalets. In some parts of Quebec, any vacation home built near a ski hill is called a chalet, whether or not its built in the traditional style.
Chalets were originally used by dairy farmers in Europe during the summer months. To prevent the milk from spoiling during transport, they would stay in the chalets and make milk or cheese. In the early years of the 20th century the idea came about to use these chalets as a holiday, an extension of the country house weekend. In the early sixties, chalets were accommodations that one would share with eight or ten guests to share. Sharing the one chalet also meant sharing one hot water tank so guests would race to be the first people back inside after the lifts stopped. Those that came after the first one back were rewarded with afternoon tea as a consolation prize. The warm tea became a staple of chalet-living and continues to this day with either tea, hot cocoa or good quality wine.
Guests visiting these rustic ski resorts can also partake in some obvious activities: skiing, snowboarding, snowshoeing, or some indoor activities like board games or some friendly rounds of poker. If you do decide to partake in some sports activities, skiing is a fairly popular sport that people of all ages and ability levels can participate in. It can be a great idea for a family vacation, and a good opportunity to bond with your children as they learn to make it down the bunny slopes!
If you’re feeling a bit more adventurous, you may want to try your hand (or foot?) at snowboarding. Snowboarding is much like skiing on one wide ski, but requires much more core strength and can challenge your balancing abilities. Those who have much experience with downhill skiing may want to try snowboarding for a more challenging experience.
Those considering a skiing trip should also consider the arrangements that need to be made about their equipment. Most chalets have the ability to provide ski/snowboard rental as well as boot rentals. You’ll also need to ensure you pack snow gear such as a ski jacket and ski pants, as well as snow goggles and of course hats and mitts.
Once you’re done your outdoor activities for the day, plan to take a dip in the warm jacuzzi or take a few moments to sweat out some toxins in the sauna. Or, feel free to grab a mug of something warm and curl up in front of the fire with a loved one. There’s plenty of peace and quiet to enjoy once you’ve made the time to vacation at a ski resort.
Whether you decide to go to a chalet in a secluded mountain cranny in the Swiss Alps, or find a luxury resort in the Canadian Rockies, once you’ve had a wonderful travel experience like this you’ll be coming back for more every year!…

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Ensure That Your Family Eats Healthy – Build a Healthy, Happy Family

Ensure that your family eats healthily this year by following these tips:
o Work to add fruits and vegetables into the daily routine. Aim for a goal of at least five servings a day.
o Keep fruits and vegetables on hand and ready to eat, therefore making it easy for your child to choose healthy snacks. Healthy and tasty snacks include low-fat yogurt, peanut butter and celery, or whole-grain crackers or bread and cheese.
o Serve them with lean meats and other good sources of protein at meal times, such as fish, eggs, beans, and nuts.
o For more fiber in their diets, choose to have whole-grain breads and cereals.
o Limit their unhealthy fat intake by avoiding deep-fried foods and choose to have healthier home-made cooking methods, such as boiling, grilling, roasting, and steaming. Choose low-fat or non-fat dairy products.
o Limit your family’s fast food and other low-nutrient meals and snacks, such as fast food, chips and sweets.
o Limit sugary drinks, such as soda and fruit-flavored drinks. Serve water and low-fat milk instead.
o Establish a predictable set schedule of meals and snacks. It prevents nibbling as the family knows when to expect the next meal.
o Don’t force your children to clean their plates as it encourages them to overeat. Let them eat till they are full and let them leave whatever is left on the plate, at home and anywhere else you eat as well. This is a habit that can easily be carried through their entire life.
o Don’t bribe or reward kids with food or snacks.
o Don’t use food as a way of showing love. When you want to show love, give kids a hug, some of your time, or praises your attention and your unconditional love.
These are only a few tips on how to build a healthy happy family this year. Start today, love your family and give them the best you can give them.…

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Your 40 Week Journey: How To Best Manage Your Pregnancy

Finding out you are pregnant can be an exciting, but stressful time. It’s always a miracle, but you may have many questions floating around in your head. For instance, how often should you visit your physician, when should you tell the world, and just what physical changes should you expect? The following article will get you up to speed on all the basics you need to be aware of.

Get prenatal vitamins from your doctor or over the counter and make sure you take them on a regular basis. A good prenatal vitamin will take care of the needs of both you and your new baby. Make sure that your vitamin contains 0.4 mgs of folic acid for optimum brain development.

If you experience any vaginal bleeding when you are pregnant, it is important that you go to your doctor or to the emergency room right away. Although it may be nothing, vaginal bleeding could be a sign that the baby is in distress, or worse, that you are having a miscarriage.

If you are pregnant, it is crucial that you take your prenatal vitamins every day. Even though you are feeding your unborn child when you eat, they require more vitamins and nutrients than what food gives. Also, unborn children take the vitamins from their mother, which means the mother is losing out on essential vitamins if she is not supplementing.

When planning your family, remember that it may take about a year for you to get pregnant. If you are still not pregnant after a year, schedule an appointment with your doctor. Your doctor is the one best able to determine if you have any medical problems getting in the way of pregnancy.

In late pregnancy, you should avoid sleeping on your back, if possible. If you find it difficult to stay off your back, try propping a pillow behind you so that you are not able to roll into a completely flat position. There is no need to panic if you do occasionally wake up on your back; generally, you will feel very uncomfortable in that position before causing any harm to yourself or your baby.

Baby-Sitting

It is important to learn how to take care of a newborn. Baby-sitting other people’s toddlers and newborns is a great way to learn this experience. Caring for other people’s newborns not only helps make some money on the side, but also gives you the life skills you need to take care of your own child.

Mom And Baby

Exercising in pregnancy is good for mom and baby. The benefits include decreased risk for gestational diabetes, less complaints of constipation and back pain and a quicker recovery from birth for mom. Stop exercising and see your doctor if you have signs, such as shortness of breath, dizziness, fluid leaking, uterine contractions or vaginal bleeding.

You are to be congratulated for the amazing life experience you are about to enjoy in about 9 months. Get assistance from friends and family and use the medical advice in these tips to have better days ahead.…

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The ABCs Of Great Parenting Made Simple

Parenting can be extremely stressful, and at times can make you want to scream. It is important to learn how to quickly calm down when your children have pushed all of your buttons. This article will give you some great tips on how to calm down during the moments of little-kid crisis.

When you have a newborn in the house, be sure to split the parenting responsibilities between both Mom and Dad. Splitting up the responsibilities will keep both parents from becoming exhausted, and give each parent a little alone time once in awhile. It will also help to allow each parent to get some much needed sleep, especially through the night.

Preschoolers often do not handle transition easily. Switching from one activity to another can cause a child a great deal of duress and can result in temper tantrums.

If you have kids, have your home tested for lead. Young kids put just about everything in their mouth. When they accidentally ingest paint that has lead in it, they can become very sick and in some cases, they can even die. If you think your child may have ingested lead, bring them to the doctor to get a blood test.

Many children hate the bitter, chalky, or sour taste of commonly prescribed liquid antibiotic medications and vitamin and mineral supplements. Ask your pharmacist about medication flavoring options; some medicines can be prepared with a bitterness suppressor and sweetening agent. Popular flavors include cherry, banana, bubble gum, and even chocolate silk pie.

Do you want your child to value reading? Show them that you value it yourself by providing a number of age-appropriate books, and incorporate reading into your daily routine whenever possible. Read your child a bedtime story at night, and let them see you reading a favorite book just for fun.

Close Family

As a parent one should make sure to set time aside specifically for the family. This is important for maintaining a happy and close family, because with our busy lives it is easy to let other outside activities such as sports and work get in the way.

Good Relationship

As unfortunate an event it may be, divorces happen all of the time. In order for you, a divorced parent, to hold a good relationship with your college aged and older children you must never get them in the middle of your divorce. This will push them away for you and your ex-spouse.

Mom And Baby

Look into slings and baby carriers designed for twins. They do exist, and they are fabulous. There is a learning curve for getting two babies into a carrier, but the benefits to mom and baby are enormous. Wearing your babies will allow you to get things done with your hands free, and the twins get the emotional connection and intellectual stimulation from being right with you.

As stated at the beginning of this article, it is important for parents to learn techniques to calm themselves down. Hopefully this article has given you some great ideas to help you quickly calm down when your kids are pushing the limits of your patience. A less-stressed mommy, makes the world a better place!…

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Need Aid With Parenting? Follow These Suggestions

With parenting, there are no definitive rules on how to do anything, exactly the right way. While this may seem to be a daunting fact, remember, that every person new to parenting always feels the same way. However, with a bit of sound advice, you can get off to a great start with your child. Follow these tips and advice, if you want to begin your career as a parent on the right foot.

Make sure you listen to what your child has to say. Listening can be anything from listening to them babble as babies, listening to how their day at school went, or listening to their problems. Kids want to know that you care enough to listen to them. If you listen to them, they’re more apt to listen to you.

A tip that goes unheeded by far too many parents is the suggestion that they remember to take time for themselves. Setting aside some personal time to decompress and maintain hobbies and interests will help moms and dads stay energized and engaged in the lives of their children. This will lead to a happier, more fulfilled family.

Let the baby nurse as long as he is still actively sucking with deep drawn motions. If the baby starts to slow down, hold down on your breast for a few seconds to release more milk. If he is still hungry, this will get him going again. If he does not respond then try switching sides as he may have emptied that breast.

Limit the amount of television your child watches each day. Too much television is bad for your child, mentally and physically. It is one cause of childhood obesity, can lead to poor eyesight, and contributes to feelings of anxiety. Have your child play with toys or go outside instead.

Close Family

As a parent one should make sure to set time aside specifically for the family. This is important for maintaining a happy and close family, because with our busy lives it is easy to let other outside activities such as sports and work get in the way.

Good Relationship

As unfortunate an event it may be, divorces happen all of the time. In order for you, a divorced parent, to hold a good relationship with your college aged and older children you must never get them in the middle of your divorce. This will push them away for you and your ex-spouse.

Mom And Baby

Look into slings and baby carriers designed for twins. They do exist, and they are fabulous. There is a learning curve for getting two babies into a carrier, but the benefits to mom and baby are enormous. Wearing your babies will allow you to get things done with your hands free, and the twins get the emotional connection and intellectual stimulation from being right with you.

Parenting is not a science, so while not everyone will agree on particular thing, you can choose and try different things to see what works for you. This is important. Take the advice that you feel will get the results that you want from your child. You now have solid information and advice; the next step is up to you. Good luck!…

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Baby Matters: Your One And Only Pregnancy Guide

Finding out you are or trying to become pregnant is one of the most stressful and rewarding chapters in a woman’s life. It represents the permanent life-altering shift from being an independent adult or wife into motherhood. The stress may be unavoidable, but when you enter into this journey with some of the wisdom in this article, you can find the path far less unknown.
Keep exercising. Especially in those first few months when you may not feel so great, it is even more important to discipline yourself to stay active. Go for a walk in the morning or in the evening. Do some light weight lifting. This will keep your body toned during pregnancy and make losing weight after the birth much easier.

Pack your bags early. Don’t wait until you are 37 weeks or later to finally pack your bag for the hospital. Obviously, you want your baby to reach full gestation, but you never know when something is going to happen. Having your bag packed will give you peace of mind in case there is an unexpected event.

Eat plenty of fruit during your pregnancy. Many women get a boost of energy during the day from caffeine products; since these are not recommended during pregnancy, try fruit instead. People who consume bananas and apples, often notice an increase in their energy levels. This comes from the natural sugars that these fruits contain.

Take pictures and keep journals during your pregnancy so that your child can see them later on. Children get a big kick out of this. Snap a few pics and add notes to them that the kids can see.

Make sure that you communicate with your partner (if you have one) about your feelings and your needs. You may know that you need to be touched or loved more often to feel supported, but they don’t. You have to tell them what you need before you can expect to receive it.

If you find it hard to stick to a healthy diet during pregnancy, ask your partner to join you as you change your old eating habits to new healthy ones. It is always easier to make the right choices when you have a helpful partner to support you. Both of you will see the benefit of eating more vegetables, whole grains and fruit.

Baby-Sitting

It is important to learn how to take care of a newborn. Babysitting other people’s toddlers and newborns is a great way to learn this experience. Caring for other people’s newborns not only helps make some money on the side but also gives you the life skills you need to take care of your own child.

Mom And Baby

Exercising during pregnancy is good for mom and baby. The benefits include decreased risk for gestational diabetes, less complaints of constipation and back pain and a quicker recovery from birth for mom. Stop exercising and see your doctor if you have signs, such as shortness of breath, dizziness, fluid leaking, uterine contractions or vaginal bleeding.

Now that you have read up on some facts about pregnancy, you know more then you did at the beginning of the article. Keep these thoughts in mind as you consider or explore and enjoy pregnancy. Armed with this knowledge, bringing a new life into this world can also be the beginning of a new life for you.…