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Happy Family

Guiding Your Child With New Family Members

When you take pains to include all the relatives from your current marriage as well as your children from your previous marriage, you will have one big happy family. You would need to take pains to ensure everyone feels comfortable for each one you must remember comes from a different background with a different thought process. It is important for everyone to respect each other’s privacy and opinion and give them space. Their culture and value systems would have been influenced from the environment that they have grown up with and brought up by their other parent.
No child would be willing to or wanting to accept a step parent in the place of one’s own parent unless of course the bonding with the step parent gets to be very loving and stronger. To a large extent the quality of relationship and acceptance would depend upon the way the child is treated and approached by the step parent too. If there is a natural understanding and empathy in the case of the child, then the relationship with the step parent is likely to be smooth.
The children are further likely to get upset emotionally or resent the arrival of new siblings into the family in due course of time. But then a large part of their reaction could be managed by parents who can learn to handle the situation very maturely and thoughtfully.
The children are likely to often fight and be aggressive towards each other exhibiting jealousy, resentment as well as anger with an underlying resentment of each other and wanting the attention of the parents to oneself.
If you as parents work together and are willing to focus on bringing all children to accept each other as well as get them to understand that they are all loved by you as parents equally and each one is important, then you can build one happy family in no time. These guidelines might come in handy for you:
It is important for each parent to spend quality time alone with each child. Only with one to one communication can you reach out and get the child to communicate with you as well as build the trust and comfort level.
You get a marvelous opportunity to get to know the child better and understand his personality, his likes and dislikes as well as his interests etc. This is the best chance that you get while spending time with him to let him know that you love him.
It is important for you to spend all your free time with the child and do things that he enjoys doing. It helps to get involved with his life and stand by to support his activities as well as interests. When he finds you being there to support and not only to criticize, he will naturally accept you as the parent over a period of time and perhaps call you mom or dad.…

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Balance Work and Family Tips

Finding The Right Breakfast For Your Family

From the “breakfast of champions” (a popular cold cereal in America) to KimChee (a fermented cabbage made in Korea), breakfasts around the world can feature a wide variety of food items. Taking into consideration what is grown in a country and its availability to the folks, compare the simple breakfast of boiled eggs, olives, cheeses and fava beans in the Middle East to an American full morning meal of bacon or sausage, fried eggs, hashed brown potatoes, toast or biscuits with butter, jam or jelly and coffee or tea.
These are a couple of ways to ‘break’ your ‘fast’ after going the entire night with no food. The first meal of the days is said to be the most important, supplying the required nutrients to start a busy day, no matter where you are located. Especially important for children.
These two breakfasts are an example of a simple, easy and quick meal and one that is more complicated, demanding and time-intensive. That is not to say that both countries, and others worldwide, do not have both. It depends on the day of the week, in many cases, and how much time is available as to whether a quick meal is best or one that is prepared and eaten in a more leisurely fashion is desirable.
‘Fast food’ became popular as people became busier but still wanted to eat something, preferably healthy, in the morning. Even in Thailand, Japan and China, for instance, one can purchase their food from street vendors, extremely convenient and trendy now-a-days.
On many of the continents will be found fast food establishments that have been adopted from the United States of America by countries. Starting out sacrificing health, perhaps, for quick and speedy, many of these vendors have now adjusted the items they have available to include more healthy choices, including English muffins, biscuits or croissants filled with your choice of sausage or bacon, egg, cheese. Some countries have a very extensive menu of foods that one can choose from, any time of the day. Thai residents have been known to say that they can have whatever they want for breakfast!
In planning the nutritional content of breakfast, one would attempt to supply carbohydrates, protein, dairy and as many vitamins and minerals as possible. Many countries are not able to accomplish this, but do the very best they can with what they have. Breakfast around the world can include such items as eggs (fried, boiled, scrambled and made into omelets), rice, veggies, fruit and so forth.
So far discussed has been eating the morning meal at home and choosing from street vendors or fast food establishments. There are restaurants, as well, that cater to the first meal by serving individually prepared meals from the menu or by offering what is known as the ‘buffet’. The buffet is a huge variety of food items from which one can choose as they like, many stores operating with ‘all you can eat’ buffets at a fixed price. This may not be the healthiest option unless one is able to control their appetite and choices. However they are very prominent and fashionable.
Healthy breakfasts in America and Europe, for instance, often include eggs prepared in such ways as soft boiled with toast, a small bowl of fruit or fresh fruit and a beverage. Omelets are acceptable too, as in some of the African cultures. France citizens also put together “omelettes”, and include in their healthy breakfast perhaps a baguette with large bowls of latte or hot chocolate! Wherever a person lives, fixing up breakfasts that are healthy as well as tasty often include eggs, fruit and veggies.…

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Family and Children

How To Create And Sustain Bonding In a Family Relationship

The family is the basic unit of society. No nation, they say, can be greater than the quality of its families. Family life, which had hitherto been revered, is facing a ferocious corrosive attack from various elements in the evolutionary process of man. Religious people believe it is the handiwork of the devil that the family is under attack these days.
We know that divorce rate is rising rapidly worldwide. In addition, delinquency among children is becoming the norm rather than the exception. There are no easy answers available. The inspiration and call for family activities that would grow bonding in the family is one way to assist in this effort.
Most people, when they look into the eyes of their spouse on their deathbed, realize that it is their marriage, the primary relationship in their life, which is eternally meaningful. Too many people realize in those parting moments that they should have done things differently. Intrinsically, we all know what is really important. However, we forget and get distracted.
The following activities were collected from a survey and have been found to be helpful:
• Taking Long Walks In The Evening Together: This is a crazily busy world. Some couples are all out there working to make a living. They have to rush out early in the morning and return home in the evening. A couple has reported that they have found taking a long walk in the evening around their neighborhood, holding hands, talking, sharing thoughts and plans about the future has helped them bond, sweeten their relationship and grow their friendship.
• Family Physical Fitness Activity: A couple credits coming together in the evenings to exercise and do other physical fitness activities as having been healing and supportive of growing their relationship. Physical fitness together as family or with spouse creates opportunities for communication, which has in turn enhanced bonding and improved emotional attachment. A couple has credited it with power to arouse sexual attraction as well as providing opportunity for the children to pay attention to what their parents are saying. Exercising as a family is a great way to stay in shape and spend time with the kids.
• Family Prayer: A family that prays together stays together. Several couples contributed this point. They have found out that doing everything they can to have the whole family coming together morning and night for family prayers and sometimes scripture study has helped them to see things the same light. This, they note, has helped in building up their connectedness.
• Family Home Evening: This is an evening in a week set aside for the family to come together to learn and to play. Family Home Evening is a program of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints which members believe is revealed to modern day prophets to support families in these trying times. The latter-day saints hold their program every Monday evening. The program of activities in a typical evening include singing, dancing, studying the scriptures, sports, cooking, a special meal together. Activities can be indoor or outdoor or both. A tradition of family home evening has greatly enhanced family ties and made our hearts desire the things of eternal life while finding great joy in spite of the challenges of family life.
• Eating Together: In a fast-paced world, this tradition is also fast fading away. However, several couples reported a growing attachment with each other as they assemble at meal tables at least once a day to share their meal. Family members are enjoying it so much that each time one member is not around, he or she is greatly missed.
• Doing Chores Together: Chores are chores. Nobody really likes them. Nevertheless, chores are chores and need to be taken care of. Couples have reported that coming together and taking care of family chores as washing dishes, cooking meals, cleaning up the rooms and compound has created fondness among them. In African societies where chores are seen as a woman’s beat, a number of wives report feeling so tender each time their husbands assist with chores that they are aroused sexually and have ended up obtaining mind blowing sexual intimacy afterwards. Men, if you have been missing getting your wife where you want her, why not try joining her next time out.
• Always Telling Your Family The Truth: A female contributor suggested that telling your family the truth even when it hurts is very helpful to building up bonding in the family. No matter how it hurts at the time, it is usually appreciated afterwards. It creates trust, which is supportive of family unity.
• Keeping The Commandments of God: Parents learning and keeping the commandments of God have been found to keep the family united. The children learn in the …

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Good Relationship

Are We Losing Our Children? Learn How to Build a Healthy Happy Family

The breakdown of the family unit is the ultimate reason for the deterioration of our children’s behavior. Estranged family relationships, materialistic ideals and broken homes affect our children, read on to see how these affect our children and what we as parents can do about it.
Somehow it seems that our culture has shifted from adult oriented to peer oriented, as children spend more time with their friends than their parents. These friends they emulate in terms of lifestyle choices, morals and language.
The breaking away of children from parents can be seen as a natural progression to independence and a sign of the child’s individualism or maturation, but it should not be this way. The interaction and attachment between a child and a parent is very necessary, as it creates a strong foundation from which the child navigates their life. In order to build a healthy family this relationship need to be well developed otherwise the child would experience an orientation void, this is then when the peers substitute the parents.
Attachment needs to be intentionally nurtured as it does not always occur naturally. We as parents often use our position incorrectly, we tend to resort to threats and force and this only alienates the child. We should rather resort to meaningful communication and show empathy rather than use behavior that divides the relationship to build a healthy happy family.
At times our kids do vocalize their complaints about our parental control, but at the same time they assume that these minor battles are normal, and do not interfere with their happy family relationships. This should reassure us that our middle schoolers expect and do accept guidance from us. It does mean that they do hear our message, even though they are rolling their eyes at us in apparent protest. So do not back off too much, as they still need us to guide them.
In today’s consumerist culture characterized by wealth accumulation, status and commodities, we as parents spend more time working, and mothers are increasingly expected to work as well in order for the family to cope with the increasingly high cost of living. Our children are then in turn catapulted straight into the materialistic ideals of us as parents. Popularity has always been an issue in school, but somehow kids today are absolutely certain that the problem is more intense for their generation that it was for their parents. Kids believe that the right clothes, labels, makeup, piercings and appearance are the most crucial critical ingredient for achieving popularity. How do we manage to build a healthy family with all this pressure? According to some statistics, 50% of children between the ages of 6 and 7 have television in their bedrooms. And some studies have shown that children only spend about 40 minutes a week in meaningful conversation with their parents. Comparing to the average of 1680 minutes a week they spend watching television. We need to find ways as to how to build a healthy family.
The internet on the other hand also seems to be a cause of the break down in today’s family relationships. The internet, but in particular the use of social networks play a huge role in emotional, psychological and social development of our children. Our children perceive anything on the internet as valid, regardless to whether it is good or bad, correct or incorrect information. We struggle even more to build a healthy happy family as our children retreat into the virtual world, thus letting go of the more personal connections with people, and letting go of the personal connections with us as parents.
Then the broken single parent homes are associated to our children reaching puberty earlier than they used to before. Especially our girls are reaching puberty much earlier. Precocious puberty is the term used for reaching puberty early, which is the development of secondary sex characteristics, such as the growth of pubic hair and the development of breasts. Although, the age for the onset of menstruation has largely remained unchanged. And although this trend is more pronounced in girls, our boys are not trailing very far behind. According to some studies, boys appear to be beginning puberty earlier than before as well.
Obesity seems to be the most significant contributor to precocious puberty, because fat tissue produces estrogen, which leads to breast development amongst others. Obesity is linked to a type of lifestyle that is characterized by a lack of parental care and largely sedentary accompanied by excessive television viewing and little exercise.
To build a healthy happy family, we need to look at the impact of divorce on our children as well. One of the alarming findings from a study on divorced or remarried homes is that the girls seem to mature sexually at much younger …

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Happy Family Tips

Saving Your Sanity, Teaching Children Respect and Creating a Happy Family!

Teaching Children Respect
It is always with astonishment that I see parents bully and belittle their children and then complain that those same children are hateful or disrespectful!
Honestly, how loving and respectful can a child feel about someone who constantly criticizes and frightens them? What must it be like for a little kid to be yelled at constantly? I wonder how it must feel to have Mom or Dad, the most important people in your life, always demanding that you DO something, eat right now – or else! Go to sleep this instant! Can you imagine always being threatened and being told to shut up! Sit down! Go away! Wow! It is an echo of our own childhood that is behind this crazy parenting behavior. We feel justified because it feels so normal and familiar. In reality there is no justification for such abuse towards the smallest and weakest among us. We should not condone this treatment of children and we should challenge ourselves to become better more enlightened parents.
The attitude of “spare the rod and spoil the child” is rampant in our society. Many parents that would never physically strike their child may still use the “rod” of words. Words can sting much more than a spanking and may never be forgotten. Think of your own childhood, and chances are that you still have a few hurtful sentences running around in your head! I know I do.
Children are born sensitive beings. From the moment they are conscious they are watching us. Learning from every example, every word spoken, every attitude that we project. The idea that children should “Do as I say, not as I do” is ridiculous! It might make a struggling parent feel better to say that, but it’s just not the way it is. Children learn what they see. They model the behavior that is in front of them. Parents are the most important and influential role models for their children. Hands down. I suspect that the saying “The apple doesn’t fall far from the tree” is more from modeling than genetics! I certainly hear my Mothers words randomly coming out of my mouth!
Being a parent is a very challenging journey. It never ends, and children will always reflect back the dysfunction within a family. Perhaps the greatest challenge is not just the daily work of raising kids, the feeding, clothing, watching their every move, but rather in the personal growth that is demanded of a parent. My own on going journey through Motherhood has brought me to my knees more than once, and forced me to examine and challenge my own attitudes about everything. It has pushed me to mature and grow in ways I couldn’t have imagined possible, and at the end of the day has brought meaning, joy and connection to my life that has made it all worthwhile. More than worthwhile…Priceless!…

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Love Daddy

Gear Up For a Great Year and Build a Healthy Happy Family This Year

Tips for a smooth school year start with creating a shelf, a basket or an area by the front door for each family member to store what he or she will need the next morning. Then make the lunches for the next day the night before and refrigerate them. Check the weather report so you have in mind the clothing items needed for the next day, and already put these out the previous night as well. If you think about preparing a fancy healthy breakfast for the next day, prepare what you can the night before and just re-heat everything the next morning. Start your families’ day the right way with a big healthy breakfast that will help you build a healthy happy family every day.
Preparing for school is a formidable task for both the parents and the children. After the holiday your children probably have developed some bad habits like sleeping late at night, and waking up later and being glued to the television set for most of the day. Now you on the other had also have to wake up extra early to get the kids ready for school, and to get them to school on time. According to some studies parents who prepare their children for the transition between holiday and school can help ease stress for the whole family.
Establish some rules before the school year begins again. Lay down some firm rules about waking up times, going to sleep times and doing homework times for example. With this have a meeting with the children and also take in to consideration their input.
Build a healthy family and break the bad habits. And number one on your list should be your children’s sleeping and waking up times. You can make the transition from holiday to school bedtimes easier by making them go to bed 15 minutes earlier each night for about two weeks before school starts.
Reinforce the right behavior and build a healthy happy family. To keep your children on the right track, reward them to keep them motivated. For example, let them sleep a bit later on weekends if they adhere to the rules during the week.
Ease your child’s worries and anxieties about the school year. Children have a lot to content with in their schooling career, peer pressure and bullying for example. A good way to give your child control over the uncertainty is to confront them in the beginning of the school year, and to involve them in preparations, such as letting them choose their lunch menus.
Get them to eat healthy family meals and build a healthy family. Family meals are a comforting ritual for the family. It adds predictability to life and relief from the stresses we all encounter every day. An also according to research, children who eat healthier are more likely to eat fruits, vegetables, grains and are less likely to snack on unhealthy foods and also less likely to smoke, use marijuana or drink alcohol. Give them good healthy food and build a healthy happy family.
Work on your marriage and build a healthy happy family. With the ever alarming increasing rate of divorce these days, parents need to work on making their relationship more than ok, for themselves and for the sakes of their children. Parents are the foundation of the home, to build a healthy family. Parents are the model of how relationships should be for their children. Marriage takes a lifetime to perfect, so see how far you get this year. Therefore to build a healthy happy family, parents need to stay independent. To have separate interests is a good thing; it ensures you have something unique to bring to the conversation. Experiencing the same thing day after day gets really dull. Do not take each other for granted, everyone needs to feel needed and wanted. Tell and who your partner how important they are to you every day. Talk to each other more often, share everything that happens to you in your day to day life, and get closer to each other and build a healthy family. Be intimate with each other; do not get boring once you have kids. Be the same people that you once were. Book a babysitter and go on dates with each other occasionally, of even stay over at a hotel for the night.
Then just remember to keep your goals for your family in mind throughout the year, implement and think of them regularly even as the excitement of the New Year starts to wear off. Your reward will be a happier, healthier and richer family life. Start today to build a healthy family.…

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Family Tips

Family Massage

Did you know if you massage your family members and they return the favor, your family can become a very happy family? Studies have shown families that massage one another are far more likely to have close relationships with each other.
Sharing is caring too. But the problem is, you might not know how to go about it. For example, your family member might not want to remain still when you are trying to massage them. Likewise, it is also difficult to get your brother or sister to massage you. Everyone has their own privacy, their own space and their own things to do. But you are the only one that is into this whole massage thing. What can you do about it? How can you convince everyone to jump into the massage boat with you?
Here’s the magic steps you can take to convert them into masseurs and masseuses.
Give a foot massage to the member who always seems to be watching the television on the couch.
If you are a parent, give your children a nice massage after they finish their homework.
If your wife cooks a good dinner, give her a good back rub after everyone has eaten.
Go slow at first and massage them while they are fully clothed. You don’t have to force them to be naked and lie on the bed if you want to massage them!
If they don’t want the massage, respect their decision even though they clearly need one. But do point out to them the cause of the pain and where to apply pressure on their bodies to solve the problem.
What if someone finally agrees to your massage? Then you should always start with a gentle and soft stroke. You can always go harder the next time around.
You must be the one who are willing to offer the massage first. Don’t expect them to convince themselves by instructing them to massage you at first!
Remember, you must be the giver. There can be no other ways.…