No Picture
Good Relationship

Preparing to Meet Your Partner’s Family – Tips For Making a Good First Impression

Meeting the family of someone you love and hope to have a long future with can be nerve wracking, to say the least. You know that you really click with your partner’s personality, but will the rest of his family be just like him or totally different? You have heard all about the family members you will meet (good and bad), but exactly what has your partner told them about you?
These are just some of the questions that run through your mind, increasing the insecurities and nervousness by the moment. Following are just a couple tips that should help you shake those nervous jitters and put your best face forward to meet your loved ones family.
Talk to Your Partner
Many people are too scared to bring up questions about meeting the family to their partner. They aren’t sure if it’s proper to ask questions or they simply don’t want their partner to know how nervous they are. Yet, there are some questions that you should bring up to your partner before going to meet their family. After all, who is going to know his or her family any better than they do themselves?
For instance, don’t hesitate to ask upfront if you should bring a gift and what type of gift might impress their family members. Some families are more casual and laid back and wouldn’t ever expect or anticipate a gift while others are more formal and may be expecting you to bring something when you visit their home.
Don’t assume that the personality of your partner will be the personality of the family. Always ask!
Getting Personal
How much should you reveal about yourself when first meeting the family? This is a big question that many people wonder about and which can increase your anxiety tenfold.
You do want to treat your partner’s parents as if they were any other adults that you may meet for the first time. This means you should be respectful and appreciative and watch your language. In the best of all worlds, respect and appreciation will continue on for the rest of your relationship.
That said, you also want to get to know the family on a more intimate level if they seem to be open to that. If they are asking you a lot of personal questions, ask some in return about them. Give and take as much as they are willing, or back off if you sense some uneasiness about the direction of a conversation.
Being Yourself
It’s one thing to try to make a great impression, but another thing entirely to come off as someone you are not. Don’t put up an illusion that you are someone that you are not because eventually the real you is going to come shining out. Plus, your partner will be there and they love the real you!
The family will pick up on it if you are pretending or being phoney, so just try to relax and be yourself. If you are shy at first, that’s fine. Just try to open up some and get past the nervousness so you can be yourself.
Meeting the family is a big step and a sign that your partner cares for you in a more serious manner. That alone will speak on your behalf to the family, so relax!…

No Picture
Love Daddy

A Happy Mom Is A Happy Family

Moms are so much more powerful than they realize. How they are feeling on a particular day can have significant effects on the entire family. A Mom can and does influence so many things in her environment. And that can affect how she feels, and in turn how the other family members feel.
When she is feeling good, happy, relaxed so are her kids. They have more energy, laugh more and get along better. On the other hand, if she is feeling frustrated or bogged down by all the things going on, the kids seemed to know that, and they argued more, were hard to keep busy and were less focused.
What Mother hasn’t felt at her wits end with her kids? The colicky baby who won’t stop crying, the kids who won’t stop arguing, the lack of time she has to herself and the limited adult interaction. She’ll call a girlfriend or her own mother to talk for a few peaceful minutes to vent or to get advice. She will put the kids’ favorite movie on so they’re occupied and we can have a few minutes to ourselves. It would never fail, after a few minutes into a conversation the kids will start to call for Mom. They need to ask a question or they need a referee because, “he hit me,” or they want some juice. On it goes when a few minutes ago, they were fine. We try to appease them, even leave the room or multitask in some manner. When nothing seems to work we hang up feeling irritated and frustrated. Low and behold, all’s well and the arguing stops. It’s as if that big white device in our hand was a signal to start vying for mom’s attention, and in a way, to our children it was. Yet the feeling of frustration lingers for the mom, long after she has hung up and peace is restored. It can affect the rest of the day, and by the time our spouse comes home, she’s more than ready for them to help, even takeover.
It only makes sense then that our thoughts affect our relationships as well. Take this example, with a stay at home mom in mind. Their husbands are off at work, and their kids are off at school, so these moms spend their time doing as much as they can around the house. They will straighten, pick up, put away, clean or whatever needs to be done. If they walk around with negative thoughts, such as; “I am always picking up after everyone else,” and “no one puts anything away,” and “I always have to do everything myself” and “this house is such a mess” and “I never get to do anything I want” and on and on. By the time these people get home, they will be so worked up and upset, that they might yell about it, or want nothing to do with them. Either way it affects the entire rest of the day, for the whole family and in a very negative way. The frustration produces more frustration in others, spreading it around and bringing more of it into the home.
Being a mother and raising a family is one of the, if not the hardest thing a woman will ever do. It would be helpful if kids came with instructions, but they don’t. Therefore, a solid support system is essential for every mother because taking care of your home and your family is hard enough without leaving much room for self care. There are often feelings of frustration, isolation and an inability to do what they want. There are simple and effective things you can do to make all this easier and to feel more like ‘a happy mom.’ I have listed three of those ways below:
1. Schedule me time in to every day. Time for yourself is so critical because moms are called upon to give so much and to sacrifice so much that we need to replenish our energy ‘supply.’ We can be very quick to drop what we are doing for someone else that having ME time scheduled in to our day makes it more likely to happen. It is important for these activities to be quality, things that bring us joy and nurture our spirit.
Treat this time like a doctor’s appointment, one that you wouldn’t cancel on a whim. It is okay to say that you are busy or that you have other plans when others make requests during this time. I would also like to promote that moms don’t feel guilty for taking time for themselves either. You need to be cared for and nurtured in order to fully care for others, and feel good about it.
2. Connect with friends every day …

No Picture
Financial Family

5 Common Habits of Happy Families

What makes some families more happy than others? The short answer is they are aware of doing things that make them happy. They have probably taken the time to explore what they like to do, what makes the members of the family happy and importantly make the time to do those things more regularly than the things that they don’t particularly enjoy.
It sounds simple and it is. It is about not being lazy! People who are happy are more aware!
Aware of what you may ask, and that’s a great question. Individuals in the family are aware of what they like and actually go out regularly and simply do those things. Most importantly, they do those things together. Hence the saying has arisen that the family that plays together, stays together!
Here are 5 common habits of happy families.
1 Being Grateful for everything in their lives. Having gratitude for the things that they have. Gratitude comes from an awareness of acceptance of what life is offering to each of us at any given moment. If you do not have acceptance in the present moment, than it is more difficult to be grateful. Acceptance and gratitude are the foundations for enthusiasm which brings for the feelings we all desire which is happiness.
2 Acceptance of the consequences of our choices and finding an appropriate level of satisfaction leads to happiness. When you have the habit of acceptance or satisfaction of what happens, you enjoy life more. People who try and “maximse” everything that they engage in are usually to wrung out at the end of the day to enjoy anything. They are never satisfied and are continually chasing their tail, so to speak. Simply limit the number of choices on offer to you is helpful.
3 Focusing on one thing at a time is a habit for happy families. The power to pay attention to what you as a family are wanting is a great habit to engage in because it limits the choices, focusses each family member and everyone can take some ownership of the family experience.
4 Simply being together and hanging out together. Being comfortable with not doing things all the time.
5 Love yourself first and then love your family by spreading the magic of love in each moment. Human beings thrive on close personal relationships. Human beings do not like to be on their own most of the time.
So it is in the understanding and being aware of the things we do regularly as a family unit that offer the level of satisfaction or happiness of being part of a happy family. From here you can live a rich life.…

No Picture
Family and Children

Celebrating Father’s Day – Lessons From Dad Are Important!

I love that we celebrate fathers passed and present. I lost my dad more than 20 years ago yet I think of him and cherish with gratitude the life lessons he taught me. Some lessons I learned long after he passed. Why? Because I wasn’t wise enough in my younger years to get the lesson. Reflection is good. Think about your dad, what he represents, what he stands for, what he taught you by his actions, his words and how he showed up each day in your home.
Here are 6 things dad’s can do that will leave a lasting and positive impact on the lives of their children:
1. Teach your children the importance of play. Turn off the TV. Spend time with your kids having fun. Play evokes fun and laughter, which have enormous benefits. Play not only makes us feel good, it’s good for us because it brings balance to all components of the immune system. Studies show that play is at the core of creativity and innovation. A success skill for life. Play shapes the brain, making your children more adaptable and smarter. Play and laughter are the joyful threads that run through a family’s life creating some of the very best memories that bind you together. There is nothing like rekindling those fun and happy cherished memories that make us feel good as time rolls on.
2. Feed your kids with good news, good books, positive people, and positive activities. It affects their mind, their happiness and how they view the world – friendly and happy or hostile and pessimistic. Research shows that happy people have better outcomes in life than pessimists. You can help to enrich and nourish their thoughts and dreams into life by sharing positive experiences of life.
3. Your words are powerful and effect young minds. Be at your best by giving away all the words of encouragement, acknowledgement and motivation that you can at every opportunity. Speaking positive, good words breathes a new sense of life, light, and happiness into your children, as well as creating a deeper sense of your love for them.
4. Speak with optimism. When you are optimistic you create a sense that the world is a friendly place conspiring at every corner to help you. It helps create resilience. You see the best in everything and everyone. You’re children will pick up on your vibe and learn a valuable skill for life. Teach them that “every cloud has a silver lining” so that when adversity, setbacks, failures, and hardship happen, they can turn them into something positive by finding greater meaning in life from them. Optimism gives your children the motivation to continue to persist to find solutions even in the bleakest of situations. Optimism has a way of creating a ripple effect of positive and good energy. Research shows that optimists tend to succeed above others in life and are physically healthier, more productive and do better at work, school and in sports.
5. Act out with gratitude for the smallest of things. It’s a way of cultivating an attitude of appreciation. It teaches your children to learn to count their blessings not other peoples which mass media focuses on, depleting young minds so they feel that they or what they have is not enough. This is not true. Only the practice of gratitude can shift this mindset. Too many walk around sabotaging themselves by believing they are not enough because they never learnt this skill. Teach them to value what they have including what most people take for granted, for example their legs that gets them to and from school and teach them to appreciate everything that others do for them.
6. Teach your children forgiveness. Unforgiveness can be crippling. It is a burden in the mind and heart. Forgiveness is about freeing yourself. Teach your children to free themselves from the hurt and time and energy it takes away from their life. Teach them to learn the lesson, the gift in every situation, for example, if someone presented with a quality that hurt him or her, get him or her to see that the lesson is not to take on that quality in their own life, to learn to do and be better. Forgive the person, learn the lesson, let it go and be free.
So dads strengthen your children for life’s journey ahead, deepen the love between you and leave a great inheritance to your children by teaching them valuable life lessons just like my dad did. Happy Father’s Day!…

No Picture
General Article

Toxic Chemicals and Increase in Childhood Cancer

Toxic Chemicals and Increase in Childhood Cancer

Since 1975 cancer in has increased in American Children especially childhood leukemia and brain cancer. At the same time, approximately 80,000 chemicals have been produced in the U.S. to create commonly-used products. These include known carcinogens such as asbestos, formaldehyde, lead, cadmium, trichloroethylene, and vinyl chloride, with practically no government oversight.

The use of toxic chemicals has risen considerably in the last 50 years. They are now at a point where they are just about everywhere in the environment. Although it is not clear exactly why childhood cancers are increasing, an extensive amount of evidence suggests that these chemicals play a large role

The President’s Cancer Panel reported in 2010 that they had strong confirmation that exposure to toxic chemicals is an important and under-recognized risk factor for cancer.

They advised the Government to take immediate action to reverse this trend. In fact, the Panel stressed the need for Congress to revise the failed 1976 Toxic Substances Control Act (TSCA), commenting that this law is “the most egregious example of ineffective regulation of chemical contaminants.” The panel also noted that weaknesses in the law have prevented the Environmental Protection Agency (EPA) from being able to properly control known and alleged carcinogens.

A toxic tort involves the exposure of individuals, often in large numbers, to harmful chemical or biological substances.

When this exposure results in serious injuries or health problems and you can show that those problems were caused by the negligence or carelessness of others, the law says that those who are injured or suffered the loss of a loved one due to wrongful death are entitled to compensation.

Toxic tort cases can be challenging. There are often multiple parties at fault and any legal claim must consider all avenues of potential liability making it extremely important to select a toxic tort law firm with experience necessary to successfully pursue a claim.

If You Have Been or Are Being Exposed to Toxic Substances

The first step that you should take if you suspect that you or your child has been exposed to toxic substances is to contact a doctor immediately. After getting appropriate medical care, consult with an attorney who has handled toxic tort claims before or seek to obtain additional information by contacting the Department of Public Health in your state or county.

If you or a loved one were exposed to a toxic substance and suffered injury contact The toxic tort attorneys at the Strom Law Firm, L.L.C. to discuss your situation in more detail and for further information about our practice. We welcome co-counsel opportunities and regularly accept referrals in toxic tort cases from lawyers practicing in other parts of the country.…

No Picture
General Article

The Call of the Quest – An Intuitive Call to Story

The Call of the Quest – An Intuitive Call to Story

Though I consider this month the dead of winter, it has been particularly warm these past few days, so my son and I spent a lot of time on the balcony doing our homeschooling.

This afternoon, he told me twice as he was waiting for me to come out there, that he had seen several geese. I promised we would look it up in our Animal Speakbook but then I began to read one of the stories on our agenda for today.

Within minutes, I, myself, heard the geese, and my son and I stopped reading to look at each other in surprise.

Are you aware of your power animals?Although goose is not one of mine, power animals can join you for a time if they have an important message to impart. When that is the case, they come back again and again, in unusual or striking ways so that you can’t help but take notice.

That has been my experience for over a year now, with geese!

The goose is a totem reflecting a stimulation of the childhood thrill and belief in stories and legendary places. The story(s) we most loved in childhood often reflect the life quest we have come to take upon us in this lifetime. That is why it resonated with us so strongly.~~Ted Andrews, Animal-Speak

The goose also reflects a few other ways of helping…

1) It can help you write and communicate better. Meditating on a goose feather or using a quill pen can bring you the goose energy you need for the writing project you’re working on, whether that is a short story, a book, an article or a letter to the one you love.

2) It calls you to a spiritual quest. The honking noise it makes is said to be that call. its return in spring signifies your success in pursuing your quest.

3) It may be calling you to an entirely new path, predicting an upcoming change you aren’t aware of yet. Geese lead each other in “v” formations, which signifies that when you pursue your quest, you will make it easier for others to do so.

4) It also can signify that you are about to heal and release old childhood wounds and as a result, step into your power in a whole new way.

But its primary purpose is the call of the quest and the reminder to consider which childhood story is your life theme. Which childhood stories were your favorites?a…

No Picture
General Article

Childhood Diabetes is Becoming More Common

Childhood Diabetes is Becoming More Common

When a child gets diabetes then it is named either juvenile diabetes or type 1 diabetes, most of the time. This disease causes the pancreas to not be able to produce insulin or affects the body’s ability to use the insulin it produces, correctly. Insulin is a chemical which allows the body to use starches, carbs and sugars. Kids who are diagnosed with type 1 diabetes are also considered to be insulin-dependent. They will have to take insulin for the rest of their lives.

Type 2 diabetes is more common in adults over the age of 40. A recent development has caused much confusion in the science community. More and more children are being diagnosed with type 2 diabetes because of unhealthy diet and lifestyle. In the case of type 2 diabetes, the body produces the insulin but the body is not able to use it correctly. Therefore, medication or additional insulin must be supplemented in order to stay healthy.

Diabetes cannot be diagnosed at home. You will have to seek the advice of the family doctor, naturopath, endocrinologist or a homeopath. If there is any question in your mind about your child’s health, especially if they are obese, you should seek an opinion as soon as possible. Diabetes tends to run in families so if there is a history then this is a cause for added concern. Diagnosis is easily done by use of a blood test. The levels of glucose are carefully measured.

Symptoms that you should be looking out for include: blurry vision, frequent urination, excessive urination, recurring infections (like athletes foot and UTI (Urinary Tract Infection)), chronic fatigue, tingly or numb hands and feet, loss of weight while not dieting and abnormally slow healing cuts and scrapes.

Science has not determined exactly what causes diabetes to happen in children. Many believe that a virus or auto-immune response might be responsible. It is a myth that it is caused by consuming excessive amounts of sugar or a result of obesity, alone.

Unfortunately, children must take daily doses of insulin if they are plagued by type 1 diabetes. It cannot be taken as a pill because the stomach acid breaks it down too much. A new and healthier diet must also be followed. The amount of food and time in between meals should be monitored closely.

Some herbs and minerals are also helpful for those suffering with type 1 or 2 diabetes. Gymnema Sylvestre, Galega Officinalis, Bilberry and Chromium Picolonate all can help your child if he/she has been diagnosed. Talk with a naturopath, homeopath as well as your doctor before starting them on a natural regimen.…