You know when you are feeling down and depressed so you pick up a magazine and check out the glossy photos to pass the time and take your mind off of your feelings.
What do you see? Celebrities looking all glammed up and you think “my life completely sucks. Look at these beautiful people! They go to fancy restaurants, they don’t have to go to a dead end job like mine, working with people who don’t care about anyone but themselves.” WHY CAN’T I BE LIKE THEM?
Okay, before you reach for sharp objects let’s take a look at a few things for a second.
FIRST: You do not want their life!
• They cannot step out into the street without someone taking a photograph of them – otherwise you wouldn’t be drooling over their picture in the magazine.
• They are constantly criticized in those magazines. She’s too fat, she’s too thin, is she having a baby – who’s the father, what a tramp, Oh, isn’t she lovely, oh what a bitch – did she really say that?
• The photo’s aren’t real! Please get that – the photo’s aren’t real. The doctor the photos so they look perfect when they want to be nice. They doctor the photos to make imperfections if they want to be nasty. At the time of Christina Aguilera’s marriage break up a magazine showed a slim figure and said “look at how thin she was”. The showed a ballooned figure and said “Oh dear, poor Christina is not taking the split very well”. At the same time she was promoting her movie called Burlesque, where a very slim Christina danced and sang. There is no possible way she could have put on that much weight in that short amount of time. I have also seen a program showing a photo of a model wearing a backless dress – the moles on her back were quite noticeable – until they were erased completely.
• Sometimes their private life is splashed over the front of the magazine with news which their own family have not heard. Daniel Jones from Savage Garden received a phone call early one morning to radio jocks asking about the band splitting. His response? “Have we split?”
• Imagine trying to get married and having to invite a million viewers who scrutinize every single detail.
• If you’re envious of a good body, they probably work really hard to get it – every day. No binge eating or drinking on a regular basis. Kelly Osborne was enjoying the attention for her new thin body but was sick of the hard work that goes with keeping her body that way. (How could she do this much easier? My Blog will follow an amazing journey of shedding the weight without a diet or exercise program) – Impossible??
• If celebrities dare to step out of their house without makeup you can be sure this will be a feature somewhere.
Personally, I’m not that fond of wearing makeup, especially when it is so hot that it slides off your face quicker than you can put it in place.
So, while you are sitting there in your pyjamas at two o’clock in the afternoon still smelling of yesterday, you might want to think about how good you’ve got it.
SECOND: Don’t wish you were like a celebrity. Try to appreciate the life you have.
– Go to the park and take a big breath of fresh air knowing there are no paparazzi waiting to see they can snap you in a position which looks as though you are picking your nose. And no one can see the tiny blemishes on your face.
– Notice the freedom you have as thousands of people are not rushing up to you trying to get a photo with you or getting your signature and you’re not tripping over them as they get so close that you can hardly see the ground in front of you.
– Enjoy the fact that you can go to any restaurant through the front door and know that you can eat an entire meal without interruption.
– Feel ecstatic that you are not a radio competition prize where you have to spend an evening dining with a complete stranger who is gushing over you.
– Congratulate yourself that you don’t have to answer the same stupid question for the twenty eighth time that day, thrown at you by a lazy journalist who thinks he is funny, while you are on a promotional tour, away from your family.
– Never mind trying to have a happy family situation. If a normal relationship is not hard enough for most people, the demands of being a celebrity is enough to cause problems for the strongest of players. …
You know when you are feeling down and depressed so you pick up a magazine and check out the glossy photos to pass the time and take your mind off of your feelings.
When you make that decision to work from home, either as a home based business owner, or a freelancer, you must make sure your family understands, what does that means.
The fact that you’re at home all day, doesn’t mean that you’re not working and can take care of all the chores as well. You must set aside hours when you will work, and let your family know, that now it is your work time and they must not disturb you. It is perfect if you have your own room – you can close the door and let your children and spouse know that now you are busy working, but once you have done your goals for today, you will be available for chores, play and whatnot. The only difference when working for yourself from home, is that you can more or less choose the hours when you work, but do not make the mistake that people who work from home sit at the front of TV or play all day.
It is best if you explain to your family, what it is you do in front of your computer all day – because, they most likely will judge from their own experience and conclude, that you’re just playing games or browsing internet. You must make sure your family understands that the computer is your work tool, your business asset, and in front of it you’re working. Of course, if you want them to believe you, you must actually work.
Working from home, making money online is hard because of all the distractions – there are even more of them if you use your computer as a main work tool. Make a habit of not visiting social networks, news etc. while you work.
Main thing to remember is – always communicate what you’re doing with your family. This way, they can support you, and that support will carry you a long way.…
For men, living in your father’s shadow can be one of the most soul destructive positions to be in. It will strip your will and the joy out of your life. It places you in a no-win situation. Imagine being Donald Trump Junior; how can you ever outdo Donald Trump? Are you going to be able to make more money? Be more famous? Or be more controversial? For some sons the choice is to go the opposite direction. They become alcoholics and drug abusers to get out from under the shadow.
Men live under a double-edged sword, one of love and competition. On one side we have our deep need to be loved by our father and on the other side we have our internal competition to outdo our father; to have more and/or be more than our father. The problem is no matter which side of the sword we choose we eventually get cut by the other side.
One of the things we fail to realize is that every generation has the same problem, the same issue. So the question is what to do and how to survive. The first step is to honor our fathers. They gave us life. They gave us a direction. The second step is to figure out if the direction that they gave us is the one we wish to proceed on.
It is my belief that the best way to get out from our fathers shadow is to step away from it, so that we can create our own shadow in the bright sunlight of life. Men have a bone deep need to create something on our own; to achieve something. We judge each other by our actions, and it doesn’t matter if we decide to step away from our father’s shadow, but remain in the same business, we need to create something of our own. If we fail to do that, we end up turning our anger and frustration inward. The more that we turn our emotions inward, the more we have a tendency to lash out at the world around us.
To do this we have to let go of the need to compete on our father’s level. Not because we can’t do it, but because no matter what we do or achieve, we cannot win. We are connected biologically and spiritually to our father, and the more that we try to get away from that fact the more that we end up running around in circles. Remember there is a huge difference between honoring or respecting your father for being a father and actually liking your father as a person. Your father loved you the best that he could. He may not have been able to show it in a way that was healthy or even sane. It was only the best that your father, an imperfect man, could show you his love; even if that meant walking out on you, or abusing you.
So appreciate the path your father took. Appreciate the size and scope of his shadow. Then step away from it. Find a place in your life that is yours truly and completely; a place of your creation, of your vision, where you can take action to build what you choose, and more importantly how you choose to build it.
You have to find your own life in order to make your own shadow.…
What makes some families more happy than others? The short answer is they are aware of doing things that make them happy. They have probably taken the time to explore what they like to do, what makes the members of the family happy and importantly make the time to do those things more regularly than the things that they don’t particularly enjoy.
It sounds simple and it is. It is about not being lazy! People who are happy are more aware!
Aware of what you may ask, and that’s a great question. Individuals in the family are aware of what they like and actually go out regularly and simply do those things. Most importantly, they do those things together. Hence the saying has arisen that the family that plays together, stays together!
Here are 5 common habits of happy families.
1 Being Grateful for everything in their lives. Having gratitude for the things that they have. Gratitude comes from an awareness of acceptance of what life is offering to each of us at any given moment. If you do not have acceptance in the present moment, than it is more difficult to be grateful. Acceptance and gratitude are the foundations for enthusiasm which brings for the feelings we all desire which is happiness.
2 Acceptance of the consequences of our choices and finding an appropriate level of satisfaction leads to happiness. When you have the habit of acceptance or satisfaction of what happens, you enjoy life more. People who try and “maximse” everything that they engage in are usually to wrung out at the end of the day to enjoy anything. They are never satisfied and are continually chasing their tail, so to speak. Simply limit the number of choices on offer to you is helpful.
3 Focusing on one thing at a time is a habit for happy families. The power to pay attention to what you as a family are wanting is a great habit to engage in because it limits the choices, focusses each family member and everyone can take some ownership of the family experience.
4 Simply being together and hanging out together. Being comfortable with not doing things all the time.
5 Love yourself first and then love your family by spreading the magic of love in each moment. Human beings thrive on close personal relationships. Human beings do not like to be on their own most of the time.
So it is in the understanding and being aware of the things we do regularly as a family unit that offer the level of satisfaction or happiness of being part of a happy family. From here you can live a rich life.…
A home is not a home when there is no family living there. Likewise, a family is not a family when they don’t live in a place like home.
The edifice is of no importance. It is not the structure that we call home. It is the presence of a family where they feel comfortable and relax and very, very happy.
A family living in a shantee or a treehouse like Tarzan, can call it home because they are with their loved ones sharing whatever they have.
On the other hand, a prince staying in a palace cannot call it a home with all its extravagance and luxury when he has no one but himself. Even with manservants and valets present to do his bidding, would only be just part of the trimmings of the palace.
Wealth and riches can be part of a family but it can never create a family. More often than not, it may cause the fall of a family.
However the structure looks, it is the happy family that makes it a beautiful home. Even to the eyes that see them.
A house can only be a home when a family lives there full of love and care for one another.
We can never extract bickering, fights and petty quarrels within the family, that is undeniable, but because of love. peace will always prevail in a home.
What creates a home is a happy family. What creates a family is not only siblings and parents but everyone, whether related by blood or not, as long as they are together and loving one another.
Considering all this, are “U” home with your family now?…
Is money more important or love?A� This has been a debate for centuries.A� A balance of both is ideal but what is considered a balance of both?A� Is a balance means having a roof over your head, food on the table, clothes on your body and a happy family or does it mean a condominium with facilities, dining out every other day and branded clothing once a month and a family with career oriented parents and children that have money to spend on their needs?A� The latter does not sound overly ridiculous either as some will associate providing for the family as love.
In this day and age “No Money No Talk’ and “No Money No Love” are common catchy phrases that even little kids could utter.A� When finding your life partner, what is the weightage that we put in money compare to compatibility?A� For example, if you meet someone you fancy but he/she is not able to provide you with the luxury you crave, do you ‘let go’ of the possibility of having a beautiful relationship on the basis that without money could ultimately lead to disappointment or sufferance?
There is no straightforward answer to this matter.A� Money is definitely important as love alone cannot fill the stomach.A� However it is not necessary to have the best of everything in life.A� Living within your means could be the yardstick to use.A� Having lots of money is also not necessarily a good thing.A� There are cases out there where children from career minded and rich parents, and get any material things they want actually crave for love and attention to the extent of breaking the law to get the attention.
If you meet someone you love and he could provide security and love, with adequate food for the family, do not covet your friends or neighbours that could afford an extravagant lifestyle.A� Sometimes what you could see on the outside may not necessarily depict what is happening behind closed door.A� Is it not better to have a loving happy family than a rich but unhappy family?A� For me, I use to choose money but now I just want a fulfilling life that is true and happy and not one that have to live with a fa?�ade.A� Money sometimes comes with a price to pay – you might lose yourself.…
It is not easy to meet all of the needs within a family. What can make one person happy may not satisfy the other family members. It can be very stressful for trying to meet everyone’s needs. However, there is a lot at stake. Usually, the health of the entire family is generated by parents, but families are dynamic and the balance can be delicate. Over time the needs of young children that usually are in forefront may shift, if the parental relationship particularly is not healthy. All of the members in family are important, so this can be difficult to stay targeted on the health and happiness. At this time, this article is going to give you several tips that will guide you to form a healthy and happy family.
This can be very useful for having family meetings since it presents the opportunity for all of the members for getting their needs met. Besides, it can also offer the opportunity for every family member for talking about what makes them happy.
Moreover, families can change across the development. The developmental stages of the children are clearly delineated as they progress through the life stages, physical changes, and the school grades. Also, parents and relationships go through the developmental stages, even when they are not as evident or clearly delineated.
Furthermore, families operate in the “homeostasis” or the natural balance. Even when the changes occur, the family will try to regain balance naturally. The balance is a familiar way of behaving, whether this is healthy or unhealthy. The family is drawn toward the familiar patterns of relating, and it can take awareness and also a plan for changing the behavior to make the shift in the homeostasis.
The parental communication which is open and respectful will allow for the each adult to disagree yet still parent in the cooperative manner. The key to the happiness and the healthy family is for respectfully behaving toward all of the family members regardless of the age, the role or the position within the family.…