No Picture
Balance Work and Family Tips

How To Keep Your Man Happy

Sounds like a 1950’s how to booklet on relationships, right? Well it’s not, but back then they had things right. Our grandparents learned long ago how to keep a marriage long and happy. They had the right priorities; families come first.
In today’s society, we have a me mentality or a what can I do for me, or more specifically, what can you do for me? And sometimes we don’t care who we screw over to get what we want. Even our spouses.
Not only are we more concerned about ourselves, we are also impatient to find out what comes next. I like to call this the hurry-up disorder and the I’ll-be-happy-when disorder. We are never happy with what we have or else it isn’t good enough. Our houses aren’t big enough, our cars aren’t new enough, and we’re not moving up the corporate ladder fast enough. I don’t know who we’re competing with.
I will be the first to say that we work hard for what we have and we deserve to pamper ourselves from time to time. It’s only money, we only live once, we can’t take it with us, and any other cliche we can come up with to make us feel better. But when it really comes down to it, it is just stuff. And what’s more important, the stuff or our families? Our families of course.
But more specifically, our husbands. Once the stuff is gone, once the children are grown, what will we have left? Hopefully our husbands. Your marriage should be the most important thing in your life. It should trump all the other things, but sadly most of us do not value our husbands.
What I’m about to suggest may seem like I lost my mind and set women’s rights back 50 plus years, I’m not. This really works. What I want you to do is to put your husband before all else, including the children. I know it’s a radical thought, but trust me when I say, you will be pleasantly surprised by the results.
Your husband should be king of his castle. He should be greeted with a smile and a kiss when he walks in the door in the evenings. Admit it, how many times have you passed a screaming baby off to your husband as he walked in the door. Or met him complaining that the washing machine broke and has flooded the basement? Ok, that one might be a little important, but it should not be the first thing he has to hear. How do you think that makes your husband feel to be greeted with chaos and bad news? My guess is he probably doesn’t want to come home.
Our homes should be a welcoming place of relaxation. It should be a place where our husbands want to be in instead of the local corner bar. Maybe even staying late at work instead of coming home to more complaints, screaming kids, and a messy house. If you don’t want to be in that environment, what makes you think he does?
Your goal is to tidy the house, cook a nice dinner, make the kids play quietly in their room until dinner is ready (bribe them if you have to), freshen up yourself a bit, and put on a smile for your hubby as he walks through the door. Home from a long hard day.
A happy home makes for a happy family and a good marriage is the foundation for it all.…

No Picture
Balance Work and Family Tips

Family Tips – Tips For Moms

It’s not easy being a mother. Everyone has an opinion or an idea that you can use so that you can be a better one, even though all you really want to do sometimes is take the car keys and flee for some solitude and sanity. A well-meaning person can think too highly of their suggestions, but some tips for moms can actually help.
For expectant mothers, tips regularly involve the nutrition they get. It’s important for an expectant mom to consume nutrient-rich foods that contain vital elements like folic acid, vitamins A, D, C, B6 and B12, as well as calcium and iron. Regular exercise should also be a priority before and after the baby is born as it helps moms stay in shape and recover from the exhausting effects of childbirth more quickly.
Becoming a mother is one of the most exciting and frightening things a woman can experience. Well-meaning baby care advice comes thick and fast in the first few post-natal months, but all new moms would do well to carve out some me-time! The simple acts of dressing up or going out for lunch with friends help break the feed-burp-change monotony. Chances are, your baby would take to the break in routine as well!
If you’re a mother of two kids or more, it’s likely you have no need for tips, especially if they’re boys. In fact, you’ve probably come up with a few of your own to save time on housekeeping! Efficient moms know that no one checks under the bed for dust-bunnies, therefore, you can put off vacuuming there for a little while longer. Savvy mothers also pick their battles. If the child doesn’t want to eat his Brussels sprouts, sneak them into the meatloaf the next night.
In a perfect world, all loving mothers would receive awards for honor, valor, diligence and perseverance, but they don’t. They have to settle for the next best thing, so always be nice your mom and give her a hug today!…

No Picture
Balance Work and Family Tips

Befriending the Defiant Tween

Children aged ten to twelve, also known as tweens, often become rebellious and defiant. Of course, as the parent, you obviously become their arch rival and enemy in life.
Instead of being their adversary, examine ways to become your child’s friend. Build trust with him or her, it won’t just help out now, but it will certainly help out during the dreaded teenage years – building a strong family relationship that gets respect from your child.
They want to feel trusted and respected. Don’t nag him or her to clean his or her room or complete his or her homework. Instead, explain to them that you trust them and you know they are old enough to complete their own responsibilities.
Tweens are desperate for their own independence, and you should try to provide it to them. This is an important time to let your tween make his or her own decision, and allow them to learn from their mistakes – it’s the best method of learning after all.
Always try to keep your voice down. If your tween got a failing grade in a particular subject, don’t yell. Instead, explain the importance of good grades and how studying harder will ensure he obtains higher grades.
Sometimes it might be hard, but try to take an interest in you child’s activities. For example, every kid has a favorite show, so watch it with him or her and discuss it with him or her during the commercial. This can be a fun activity for the two of you to do, and the two of you will feel a connection.
It is important to build their confidence and self-esteem. Always talk your child up, and avoid using negative phrases like “I’ll explain when you’re older.”
Raising your child is extremely difficult. You may feel confused and lost at times, but it’s important to press on. Don’t watch your child age, instead, age with him or her and build a relationship that will never break.…

No Picture
Balance Work and Family Tips

Happy Family Life – Facts and Myths

It is not easy to be a married couple. People always try to give you advice about something. Of course it is always done out of the best and noble motives. Naturally, it is all useless. Throughout the years of living together the couple inevitably breaks all the rules and taboos at least once. So how does it affect their life?
It is time to crush the most popular myths about family life. We have decoded the secret meaning of all the advice that husband and wife hear from the very first day they tie the knot.
So myth number one: you should not go to sleep without making up after a fight. Well, it sounds quite reasonable – why risk it, what if overnight the fight that has started over something trifle will only flare up and become a real problem? It is better to make up and go to sleep with a clear conciseness and have a fresh start the following morning.
Our opinion: just make a deal with your other half to postpone the continuation of the fight till the morning – especially if it is past midnight, you are exhausted, and there is no foreseeable end to the fight any time soon. After all, not every argument can be limited by time restrictions and unfortunately not all of us can stop at the right time.
Of course it is bad to go to sleep feeling irritated after the fight. But there are certain pluses to it too, even if sometimes you sleep on opposite sides of the bed or separate bedrooms, you will be OK – just as your marriage will be OK also.
The second myth is that the birth of the child makes you even closer with your spouse. Very often after the baby is born (especially if it’s the first baby) the spouses gain a countless number of subjects for conversations. Although all of them are connected to the baby one way or the other…
It seems like the relationship has risen to a new level, but then the husband leaves to work and the baby starts fussing or gets sick. The joy and amusement that this tiny being has aroused at first are gradually replaced with tiredness and irritation – what else can you expect after sleepless nights, nonstop breastfeeding, and diaper changes? Naturally, not a single decent mother will take her frustrations out on a baby, and the righteous anger falls on the one who happens to be nearby. And most often it is the beloved husband.
Our opinion: the birth of a child is above all a test of your relationship. Is there a solution? Yes. You should just accept the fact that all married couples go through a crisis and usually at the time when they expect it the least of all.
Furthermore, a woman needs help taking care of the baby – it is impossible to manage it on your own. The help and support of the loving husband do help a woman to not forget about the roles she has besides being a mother such as a role of a wife and a business woman. If a new mom still cannot even think about going out or is afraid to leave the baby with the dad, other family members, or a nanny, then do not rush things, let everything follow its course.
Another myth: a husband and wife should not only be in a romantic relationship, they should also be friends. It sounds great, doesn’t it? After all, a wife knows her husband better than anybody else, so why not consider him the best friend?
Our opinion: romantic relationship is different from a friendship. Do not have illusions that one person will manage to become a personification of both passionate love and fond friendship. It simply does not happen like that.
In other words, do not blame yourself if you do not feel a friendly attachment to your spouse – this is what you have your girlfriends/guy friends for. The important thing is to keep that connection with each other, and what you are going to call it is up to you. Always take an interest in your spouse’s life. When leaving in the morning, ask about your spouse’s plan for the day and when you see each other in the evening make sure to inquire about how the day went and how successful they were with their to-do-list.
The next myth is that unsatisfactory sex life is not a problem. The first few months after the baby is born, the hormones, exhaustion, and excessive irritability do not contribute to the improvement of your sex life, therefore you should not force things to happen. A husband should treat the situation with understanding and store up on patience.…

No Picture
Balance Work and Family Tips

Finding The Right Breakfast For Your Family

From the “breakfast of champions” (a popular cold cereal in America) to KimChee (a fermented cabbage made in Korea), breakfasts around the world can feature a wide variety of food items. Taking into consideration what is grown in a country and its availability to the folks, compare the simple breakfast of boiled eggs, olives, cheeses and fava beans in the Middle East to an American full morning meal of bacon or sausage, fried eggs, hashed brown potatoes, toast or biscuits with butter, jam or jelly and coffee or tea.
These are a couple of ways to ‘break’ your ‘fast’ after going the entire night with no food. The first meal of the days is said to be the most important, supplying the required nutrients to start a busy day, no matter where you are located. Especially important for children.
These two breakfasts are an example of a simple, easy and quick meal and one that is more complicated, demanding and time-intensive. That is not to say that both countries, and others worldwide, do not have both. It depends on the day of the week, in many cases, and how much time is available as to whether a quick meal is best or one that is prepared and eaten in a more leisurely fashion is desirable.
‘Fast food’ became popular as people became busier but still wanted to eat something, preferably healthy, in the morning. Even in Thailand, Japan and China, for instance, one can purchase their food from street vendors, extremely convenient and trendy now-a-days.
On many of the continents will be found fast food establishments that have been adopted from the United States of America by countries. Starting out sacrificing health, perhaps, for quick and speedy, many of these vendors have now adjusted the items they have available to include more healthy choices, including English muffins, biscuits or croissants filled with your choice of sausage or bacon, egg, cheese. Some countries have a very extensive menu of foods that one can choose from, any time of the day. Thai residents have been known to say that they can have whatever they want for breakfast!
In planning the nutritional content of breakfast, one would attempt to supply carbohydrates, protein, dairy and as many vitamins and minerals as possible. Many countries are not able to accomplish this, but do the very best they can with what they have. Breakfast around the world can include such items as eggs (fried, boiled, scrambled and made into omelets), rice, veggies, fruit and so forth.
So far discussed has been eating the morning meal at home and choosing from street vendors or fast food establishments. There are restaurants, as well, that cater to the first meal by serving individually prepared meals from the menu or by offering what is known as the ‘buffet’. The buffet is a huge variety of food items from which one can choose as they like, many stores operating with ‘all you can eat’ buffets at a fixed price. This may not be the healthiest option unless one is able to control their appetite and choices. However they are very prominent and fashionable.
Healthy breakfasts in America and Europe, for instance, often include eggs prepared in such ways as soft boiled with toast, a small bowl of fruit or fresh fruit and a beverage. Omelets are acceptable too, as in some of the African cultures. France citizens also put together “omelettes”, and include in their healthy breakfast perhaps a baguette with large bowls of latte or hot chocolate! Wherever a person lives, fixing up breakfasts that are healthy as well as tasty often include eggs, fruit and veggies.…

No Picture
Balance Work and Family Tips

Finding Your Niche in Life – How to Be a Better You

The concept of finding our niche in life is not a new one. As a child we start to think about what we want to be when we grow up. Some of us actually grow up and become what we dreamed about. This group is the lucky one. Unfortunately, too many people go through life with their activities governed not by their abilities, but by their circumstances. They take the first job offered and that becomes their career. If it turns out to be the wrong decision, it becomes an albatross hanging around their neck and weighs them down emotionally and financially. They do not decide what they want and go after it, but live “under” their circumstances.
When twenty percent of the individuals in a group provides 80% of the value or does 80% of the work, it is obvious that only a small percentage of individuals truly find their niche in life. How do we go about becoming one of those producers? There are a few points that can help us all determine what we should be doing. Whether we are talking about being part of a functional, happy family; being the top producer in our company; or being highly proficient in a sport; finding what our gifts and abilities are is the first step toward achievement.
The process of finding and utilizing our talents requires: (1) believing we have talents; (2) finding out what those talents are; and (3) selecting those talents that we enjoy using the most to use and improve upon. After that, the rest is easy. We do what we enjoy the most and have the talent for. As Mark Twain once said and I paraphrase; “A man who does what he enjoys never has to work”. So, lets take the process of finding our niche one step at a time.
We have to believe we have gifts, talents, & abilities. It has been said by some psychologists that each of us has thousands of abilities. Admittedly, some of these abilities may be small ones and may seem insignificant to a lot of people, but they are talents and abilities nevertheless. Some abilities are obvious to us. Some are only obvious to others. We can make use of our abilities the best when we are aware of what they are. Unless we realize that we have abilities that can be significant in life, our successes and failures for the most part will be accidental occurrences.
What are we good at doing? Sometimes we are blinded to our own abilities. Most of us do not give ourselves proper credit. We cannot see the value of our abilities in the same way an outsider does. Making a list of what we think are our abilities is a good start. A better way is to ask those who know us the best what they think we are good at. We may be surprised at the answers. Add both lists together. Once we have the combined list, the next step is easy.
We do what we enjoy. It we like to travel and write, we become a travel writer. If we are highly proficient in a sport, we may become a professional at it or become a teacher of others who are interested in the sport. If we like nothing better than making a presentation before a large crowd, we may become a professional speaker or trainer. The key is doing what we like within the parameters of our individual talents. There is nothing worse than spending our lives doing activities that we hate.
If we really want to find our niche in life, we can’t depend on other to decide what our niche is. We must actively search out our talents and abilities, decide which ones we enjoy the most, and build our family life, our careers, and our recreation around those abilities. When we find our true niche, we become a better person, and one that others want to be around.…

No Picture
Balance Work and Family Tips

Your 40 Week Journey: How To Best Manage Your Pregnancy

Finding out you are pregnant can be an exciting, but stressful time. It’s always a miracle, but you may have many questions floating around in your head. For instance, how often should you visit your physician, when should you tell the world, and just what physical changes should you expect? The following article will get you up to speed on all the basics you need to be aware of.

Get prenatal vitamins from your doctor or over the counter and make sure you take them on a regular basis. A good prenatal vitamin will take care of the needs of both you and your new baby. Make sure that your vitamin contains 0.4 mgs of folic acid for optimum brain development.

If you experience any vaginal bleeding when you are pregnant, it is important that you go to your doctor or to the emergency room right away. Although it may be nothing, vaginal bleeding could be a sign that the baby is in distress, or worse, that you are having a miscarriage.

If you are pregnant, it is crucial that you take your prenatal vitamins every day. Even though you are feeding your unborn child when you eat, they require more vitamins and nutrients than what food gives. Also, unborn children take the vitamins from their mother, which means the mother is losing out on essential vitamins if she is not supplementing.

When planning your family, remember that it may take about a year for you to get pregnant. If you are still not pregnant after a year, schedule an appointment with your doctor. Your doctor is the one best able to determine if you have any medical problems getting in the way of pregnancy.

In late pregnancy, you should avoid sleeping on your back, if possible. If you find it difficult to stay off your back, try propping a pillow behind you so that you are not able to roll into a completely flat position. There is no need to panic if you do occasionally wake up on your back; generally, you will feel very uncomfortable in that position before causing any harm to yourself or your baby.

Baby-Sitting

It is important to learn how to take care of a newborn. Baby-sitting other people’s toddlers and newborns is a great way to learn this experience. Caring for other people’s newborns not only helps make some money on the side, but also gives you the life skills you need to take care of your own child.

Mom And Baby

Exercising in pregnancy is good for mom and baby. The benefits include decreased risk for gestational diabetes, less complaints of constipation and back pain and a quicker recovery from birth for mom. Stop exercising and see your doctor if you have signs, such as shortness of breath, dizziness, fluid leaking, uterine contractions or vaginal bleeding.

You are to be congratulated for the amazing life experience you are about to enjoy in about 9 months. Get assistance from friends and family and use the medical advice in these tips to have better days ahead.…