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De-clutter Your Life Inside and Out and Create a Happier Life

Reflect on your families’ present state. In many cases you know that  you need to change the way you are managing your family. You can’t always put your finger on what is making you frustrated, unsettled or down. Your own desires can be muddied by concern for your children or spouse and by simply being out of touch with your feelings.

I find that the best way to do this is to write down my thoughts, concerns and desires. 

I know that this is not easy for everyone so, you may want to follow the following strategies;

Make a diary of a day in your life. Write down from the moment you and your family wake what happens and how it makes you feel. Pretend you are talking to a close friend at the end of a hard day.

Sum up the present state of your life as though you are writing a letter to a very close friend and catching them up on what is going on in your life at this time. Limit this to one or two pages.

Create your own wish list. Be outrageous. It would pay to divide it up according to what is possible, likely, requires a miracle then short and long term goals. Be positive, as what limits us most in life is our thoughts and fears of failure.

‘What if I only had one year to live?’ I ask myself  this question when I need perspective in my life, as should you. Map out what you can do to ensure your families future and the direction that you desire for your children.

Personal values. Write down what you care most about and what your philosophies are. How does it relate to the family as a unit and each member individually. Evaluate your children’s responsibilities to themselves and others? What motivates each one of you most? What is the balance you believe should be for work, family and friends?

Once you have had a chance to review everything that you have written down it will be time to come up with a plan of action. When listing your final plan and goals, make sure your plan has the following:

Specific time frames. Put specific times in which each undertaking should be completed by.

Attainability – Your goals should be in sink with your personal strengths and weaknesses.

Measure it – Don’t be general. Set a specific goal and its outcome…

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Why Nursery Gliders Are Important For Babies

A nursery glider is a piece of baby furniture specially designed for the special needs of babies. Next to baby crib , a glider rocking chair is another important furniture in the nursery room. But, you should know that gliders come in different styles and designs. Choose the glider that suits your taste. It is helpful to know the things about baby gliders to help you decide which glider is appropriate for your baby.

Design: A good quality glider chair is produced by Little Castle glider. They use high quality, solid base hardwood rockers that could last for generations. All parts are guaranteed to withstand time and quality use. Little Castle has produced different designs of fully upholstered swivel chairs and recliner glider chairs. Each glider is handcrafted for superior quality. They have included detachable cushions for extra comfort and for quick replacements. Moreover, it is designed for superior comfort that can carry extra weight and widely spaced for ease of movements during feeding time.

Durability: A quality nursery glider should be made of high quality wood products. Little Castle glider, the name that dominate the market for the baby glider industry. It has a guaranteed smooth and long gliding range even for long hours of use. They see to it that their designs are consistent, and produced according to company standards. Made in the United States, each chair is made of closely spaced of nine gauge sinuous springs and steel tubular ring bases that allow greater stability of position and efficient swivel actions.

Beauty: Find a nursery glider that can last for years. Even if your child outgrows their gliding chair, Little Castle sees to it that it has quality and style that could easily adopt the latest fashion of ordinary chairs. You can be proud of your Little Castle glider, you can have it reupholstered to fit into your living room or office as an effective means to avail of quick nap anytime of the day. Just like your Nollie covers, the makers of quality infant seat covers, they use quality fabrics that can endure long hours of use, with gorgeous vibrant colors and shades for a customized design.

Gliding ottoman: Little Castle produces swivel and recliner glider chairs that come with gliding ottomans as well. They also have stationary ottomans for a variety of selection according to your need. They also provide gliding accessories like extra cushions, footstools and nursing pillows. Extra cushion increases comfort and convenience of use especially for heavy babies and grown up kids.

Safety: The traditional rocking chairs are prone to minor accidents like pinning, pinching of toes, fingers and even your pet’s paws and tails. With Little Castle glider, these worries are eliminated. The smooth horizontal movement of your nursery glider is superior over the rocking motions of your traditional rocking chairs.

Come and complete your nursery rom requirements! Include Little Castle glider in your list. You will have the best return of your investment that is… excellent bonding time with your baby and even your grown up kids who want extra attention from Moms and Dads.…

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Teach Your Kids How to Fight The Right Way

It would be lovely to think we could have an argument free family but whether we admit it or not, every loving and happy family has arguments and disagreements. We can even have the kind of arguments that no one even remembers what it was all about.
However it is important to remember in a loving family, the members understand the importance of creating a sort of safety zone where no one ends up getting hurt. You might be asking yourself is that truly possible? And the answer is absolutely yes.
Before looking at ways to develop this in your own family it is important to understand that loving families understand they can argue about something and it not affect their relationships. In fact they realise it can be a way for them to learn something new about each other. They are never threatened by these disagreements.
Below are six ways you can help your family to create a safety zone so no one ends up getting hurt.
1. Physical violence is never permitted. There are no exceptions to this rule. Not only would you never hurt a member of your family physically, you would never destroy or break their property either.
2. Insults and name calling are never permitted. We all have those soft places, those easy targets. But members of a loving family will never go there. These areas are absolute no-go zone.
3. Understand arguing is never about winning. Whenever we have this need to prove ourselves right, it tears a family apart more and more each time. If your child or any other member of your family is upset, take the time to find out why. Working together towards a solution, that is best for EVERY member of the family, forms solid and happy foundations.
4. See an argument as a sign there is something that needs to be worked out in your family unit. At the end of the day we are all different and it is those differences that makes us so special. Learn to appreciate those differences and look for ways to find a solution for everyone.
5. Blaming each other is never allowed. If someone is upset or hurt everyone in that family unit feels it. Blaming the person who is angry will not solve the situation. Something has happened for that person to be angry. By looking at resolving the problem, rather than blaming a family member, it will build stronger connections.
6. Always say sorry. Our children learn their habits and patterns of behaviour from us, their parents. It is a great idea for parents to be the first to apologise. And never ever, ever go to bed without making amends. Even as parents we aren’t perfect, so if you have made a mistake apologise to your children. They will appreciate it. Ideally parents shouldn’t argue in front of their children, but if they do, be sure your children see you apologise.
By learning and teaching your children how to disagree in a way that empowers each member of the family you will see your children be more confident in themselves. Most importantly it will help re-enforce a great self-value and self-belief.…

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A Happy Mom Is A Happy Family

Moms are so much more powerful than they realize. How they are feeling on a particular day can have significant effects on the entire family. A Mom can and does influence so many things in her environment. And that can affect how she feels, and in turn how the other family members feel.
When she is feeling good, happy, relaxed so are her kids. They have more energy, laugh more and get along better. On the other hand, if she is feeling frustrated or bogged down by all the things going on, the kids seemed to know that, and they argued more, were hard to keep busy and were less focused.
What Mother hasn’t felt at her wits end with her kids? The colicky baby who won’t stop crying, the kids who won’t stop arguing, the lack of time she has to herself and the limited adult interaction. She’ll call a girlfriend or her own mother to talk for a few peaceful minutes to vent or to get advice. She will put the kids’ favorite movie on so they’re occupied and we can have a few minutes to ourselves. It would never fail, after a few minutes into a conversation the kids will start to call for Mom. They need to ask a question or they need a referee because, “he hit me,” or they want some juice. On it goes when a few minutes ago, they were fine. We try to appease them, even leave the room or multitask in some manner. When nothing seems to work we hang up feeling irritated and frustrated. Low and behold, all’s well and the arguing stops. It’s as if that big white device in our hand was a signal to start vying for mom’s attention, and in a way, to our children it was. Yet the feeling of frustration lingers for the mom, long after she has hung up and peace is restored. It can affect the rest of the day, and by the time our spouse comes home, she’s more than ready for them to help, even takeover.
It only makes sense then that our thoughts affect our relationships as well. Take this example, with a stay at home mom in mind. Their husbands are off at work, and their kids are off at school, so these moms spend their time doing as much as they can around the house. They will straighten, pick up, put away, clean or whatever needs to be done. If they walk around with negative thoughts, such as; “I am always picking up after everyone else,” and “no one puts anything away,” and “I always have to do everything myself” and “this house is such a mess” and “I never get to do anything I want” and on and on. By the time these people get home, they will be so worked up and upset, that they might yell about it, or want nothing to do with them. Either way it affects the entire rest of the day, for the whole family and in a very negative way. The frustration produces more frustration in others, spreading it around and bringing more of it into the home.
Being a mother and raising a family is one of the, if not the hardest thing a woman will ever do. It would be helpful if kids came with instructions, but they don’t. Therefore, a solid support system is essential for every mother because taking care of your home and your family is hard enough without leaving much room for self care. There are often feelings of frustration, isolation and an inability to do what they want. There are simple and effective things you can do to make all this easier and to feel more like ‘a happy mom.’ I have listed three of those ways below:
1. Schedule me time in to every day. Time for yourself is so critical because moms are called upon to give so much and to sacrifice so much that we need to replenish our energy ‘supply.’ We can be very quick to drop what we are doing for someone else that having ME time scheduled in to our day makes it more likely to happen. It is important for these activities to be quality, things that bring us joy and nurture our spirit.
Treat this time like a doctor’s appointment, one that you wouldn’t cancel on a whim. It is okay to say that you are busy or that you have other plans when others make requests during this time. I would also like to promote that moms don’t feel guilty for taking time for themselves either. You need to be cared for and nurtured in order to fully care for others, and feel good about it.
2. Connect with friends every day …

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Parents’ Involvement In Schools Is Critical

One way to help your child to succeed in school may be to drop by for a visit.

A little involvement can go a long way, say experts at National Parent Teacher Association (PTA). You don’t have to spend hours at school each week. Even a monthly visit can make a difference.

When parents get involved:

� Students have better attendance records.

� Students achieve higher test scores and grades.

� Students have higher graduation rates and are more likely to pursue higher education.

� Students build stronger relationships with parents.

According to National PTA, only one in four parents are actively involved in their children’s education. For working parents, that number drops to only one in nine.

“When parents take an active role in their children’s education, it has a very positive effect,” reports Warlene Gary, CEO of National PTA. “Parents need to stay involved from kindergarten through high school to assure that their children get the kind of education that will help them succeed.”

National PTA and The Advertising Council have launched a campaign encouraging parent involvement in schools. Through various forms of media, the campaign encourages parents to join PTA and offers a Web site to connect parents with simple tips and ideas to get involved in their children’s school and education.

Here are a few ways to get started:

� Talk to your child’s teacher. Let her know all about your child’s interests and ask how you can support learning at home.

� Plan a lunch date with your children in the school cafeteria.

� Attend parent-teacher conferences.

� Join the PTA.

� Go to school events such as back-to-school night.

� Keep current on school policies, schedules and rules.

� Attend school board meetings.

� Check your school’s Web site.

� Talk to your child’s school counselor if you have any concerns or questions.…

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5 Tips for A Happy Marriage

I have been blessed to grow up in a happy family. My parents are now married for over 40 years. When I got married, I determined to ensure that I give my children the same gift that my parents gave me. I believe that one of the best gift you can give your child, is a happy and healthy couples today quickly rush to the divorce court, without ever seriously working for the success of their marriage. Marriage like everything else, requires great care and patience. It’s like a garden, you have to work on it every day, patiently removing the weeds, planting good seeds, watering and nourishing it. How is it, that we can tend our garden with so much care, but allow weeds to over run our most cherished possessions – our home.
Here are 5 tips that will help to nourish and bring fulfillment to your marriage:
1. TRUST: You must learn to trust your spouse. I found this especially difficult when I newly got married. You see, my wife is really very beautiful, and am quite jealous, so I kept bugging her every time I saw her with another man. Finally I had to learn to trust her or ruin our happiness. As a direct consequence, her own trust in me, also increased.
2. TOLERANCE: You must learn to tolerate. There are bound to be differences in your opinions, behavior, and general conduct. You must not insist that everything must be seen through your eyes. Always have a formula for conflict resolution, and believe me, you will have many conflicts.
3. FORGIVENESS: There is a concept I practice, for lack of a proper name, I will call it ” Advance forgiveness”, When I meet a person that I like, I give him/her an “advance forgiveness”. What this means, is that I believe that one day, this person must offend me in one way or another. So I make up my mind to forgive, even before I have been offended. The best person to give advance forgiveness, is your spouse. Make up your mind to forgive, even before offence comes, because, you will be offended, and you will be hurt. FORGIVE.
4. CARING: Every body knows that one should care for his/her spouse, but how many people actually care? We are too busy with our work, our kids, our Facebook friends, that we actually forget our spouse. We even care more for our boss, than we do for our spouse. Think of your spouse for a change.
5. TIME-OUT: We always talk about quality time, but what we really need to do, is just spend time with our loved ones. Go for Vacations, picnics, travel to Africa, visit that cave or valley nearby. There is something magical about such time-outs, it has a way of revitalizing your relationship.
So, go back and build your home. Wish you luck.…

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Tips To Help Achieve A Happy Family

It is a New Year and as 2012 starts we are left wondering how we can improve our lives. In this article I will take a look at how we can improve family life and provide you with tips on how to be a happy family.
If you look around you, you will see that yes some families are happier than others. One way in which you can improve your family life is to take a leaf out of their books and observe the way in which they interact with one another.
Some of the most common behaviors that prevent us from living as a happy family are listed below.
First off you should remember to be a couple as well as parents. Many parents fail to remember that they are still a husband and wife, and fail to be a couple once they have children. It is important for couples to remember that quality time as adults is still needed. It is recommended that mums and dads take time out and spend it together without the distraction from children. It is common knowledge that many unhappy families are a result of the parents neglecting one another, and focusing too much on being a mother or father as opposed to a husband and wife. There needs to be an equal balance between the two. Once the children are in bed mum and dad should dedicate time to one another.
Communication is the key to a happy family. It is crucial that family members talk to each other and make the time to do so. Unhappy families often fail to listen to one another and do not express their feelings. Instead they bottle things up and keep themselves to themselves. A family should always communicate. If a member of the family is withdrawn or upset then it is important to encourage him or her to open up and express their feelings, otherwise it can have an impact on the happiness of the entire family.
Parents should develop and follow family traditions. Having something to look forward to as a family is a great way to bond and therefore create a happy family. These family traditions could be annual holidays, day trips or regular family meals.
Having suggested the above tips, it is also important to point out that successful families need to establish rules, consequences and boundaries. In many unhappy families there are no rules and consequences, so therefore children do not know what is expected of them. They are quick to be punished but rarely praised. It is therefore important to develop a clear picture of what is allowed and not allowed. Parents should clearly state things such as night time curfews in order to avoid conflict.
Through following the tips listed above we can help to establish a happy family, and therefore improve the time that we spend together.…