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Preparing to Meet Your Partner’s Family – Tips For Making a Good First Impression

Meeting the family of someone you love and hope to have a long future with can be nerve wracking, to say the least. You know that you really click with your partner’s personality, but will the rest of his family be just like him or totally different? You have heard all about the family members you will meet (good and bad), but exactly what has your partner told them about you?
These are just some of the questions that run through your mind, increasing the insecurities and nervousness by the moment. Following are just a couple tips that should help you shake those nervous jitters and put your best face forward to meet your loved ones family.
Talk to Your Partner
Many people are too scared to bring up questions about meeting the family to their partner. They aren’t sure if it’s proper to ask questions or they simply don’t want their partner to know how nervous they are. Yet, there are some questions that you should bring up to your partner before going to meet their family. After all, who is going to know his or her family any better than they do themselves?
For instance, don’t hesitate to ask upfront if you should bring a gift and what type of gift might impress their family members. Some families are more casual and laid back and wouldn’t ever expect or anticipate a gift while others are more formal and may be expecting you to bring something when you visit their home.
Don’t assume that the personality of your partner will be the personality of the family. Always ask!
Getting Personal
How much should you reveal about yourself when first meeting the family? This is a big question that many people wonder about and which can increase your anxiety tenfold.
You do want to treat your partner’s parents as if they were any other adults that you may meet for the first time. This means you should be respectful and appreciative and watch your language. In the best of all worlds, respect and appreciation will continue on for the rest of your relationship.
That said, you also want to get to know the family on a more intimate level if they seem to be open to that. If they are asking you a lot of personal questions, ask some in return about them. Give and take as much as they are willing, or back off if you sense some uneasiness about the direction of a conversation.
Being Yourself
It’s one thing to try to make a great impression, but another thing entirely to come off as someone you are not. Don’t put up an illusion that you are someone that you are not because eventually the real you is going to come shining out. Plus, your partner will be there and they love the real you!
The family will pick up on it if you are pretending or being phoney, so just try to relax and be yourself. If you are shy at first, that’s fine. Just try to open up some and get past the nervousness so you can be yourself.
Meeting the family is a big step and a sign that your partner cares for you in a more serious manner. That alone will speak on your behalf to the family, so relax!…

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What is Domestic Violence? – A Study of a Dark Secret

Domestic violence is known to occur in family relationships which are close, and there is usually clear signs of illness of maltreatment. Examples of relationships which are close include friendship,dating,family and following sections will look at the several kinds of domestic violence.
By beating, kicking, throwing things or biting someone close, you are employing physical may result in critical injuries, disability or even death.Identification of physical assault is not that problematic to discover.
When force is used to compel somebody to participate in some sexual act then that is categorized as sexual abuse. Vulnerabilities in some individuals allow them to become example,a partner may be unable to reject participation due such things as pressure, alcohol influence, immaturity or family relationships such as marriages and friendships, it si not that easy to find this type of brutality.
The symptoms are not so obvious when someone is emotionally abused. Emotionally victimized persons may be financially and economically depended on the abusive victim may be subjected to humiliation, embarrassment in public and isolation from friends and relatives,if found to be out of step. Sometimes threats to revel some painful state of affairs or preventing access to financial resources may be employed to pressure a victim.
Why is domestic maltreatment a real social problem.Psychological outcomes such as individual disorders seem to be quite prevalent. Still, the environmental factors in which somebody grows, such as social stress, social learning and family relationship structures, could be the reason. There are some cultures and family relationship structures which tolerate the behaviors of ill-treatment towards women and children. This may also be regarded as the norm and normally society may choose to disregard abusive activities probably until this results into a fatality.
Ill-treatment is caused by the use of alcohol and drugs in different situations. Drugs tend to change the normal conduct of many individuals with some of them experiencing mental disorders which result in assault.
Authoritarian characteristic and sheer longing to control other people may be the frequent determinants which drive someone to violent conduct towards others in a family relationship setting. Resorting to brutality as a method of overcoming inadequacy is a possible reason some people who feel incomplete in some way or have low self-satisfaction utilization.Complex factors like genetic, social and economic influences are some of the causes behind individuals who enjoy exercising their power over others.
The problems created by domestic ill-treatment are far more difficult, if not impossible, to solve than preventing them at the start.Speaking out or standing up against your abuser is in all probability the most important method, but equally the most problematic one. This is so because most individuals would prefer to protect their public image and only hope that time will resolve the problem.Confiding to a trustworthy friend or relative is one of the best ways to try and solve a situation with less image damage. If the abuse is severe or hazardous the best method is for the victim to report the matter to the police.…

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How to Have a Happy Family Holiday With Your Teenage Children

The planning of last year’s family holiday brought me to despair.
The New Year has barely begun when my husband Steven starts planning the upcoming summer holiday. The internet is surfed for hours, plenty of the latest holiday brochures are arriving at the house and Stephen is in heaven.
We are a family of three and our ideas of a happy family holiday could not be different. The only thing we can agree on is a warm holiday in the ‘sunny south.’
Our first task is to find the right accommodation. A hotel is not suitable for my 18 years old daughter Caroline, because breakfast is not served after 11am. A picturesque little cottage in the countryside? This is also a definite no, because spending time with your parents in the middle of nowhere when you are young does not appeal. There are no activities, sports or a night life.
Stephen is happy with a tennis court and a good tennis coach. I would love some time to myself and a golf course nearby.
After several family dramas, we came across this place in the South of France. At first sight this place was not my idea of bliss. More than ten thousand people would stay there during the high season. The good news was that there were more than 16 tennis courts with very good coaches. Stephan was happy. There was a little golf course with wonderful views over the mountains and the sea. I was happy. But most importantly there were five pools, a beautiful beach, several bars and pubs. Now guess who was happy?
We managed to book a cute semi-detached house with the most wonderful sea view. Caroline suddenly decided to bring a friend which made the family complete.
After an early morning tennis lesson, Stephen brought some fresh croissants home and we started the day with a lovely family breakfast. The girls enjoyed their day at the beach or lying by the pool. Stephen and I had a relaxing game of golf and I managed to find some time reading a book in our tiny but very enchanting garden. We all met up in the evening for diner and the girls then enjoyed some time in a bar where they met several other young people of their age, while we sat on the terrace and had some delicious French wine.
This was one of the most relaxing, peaceful and happy holidays we ever had!
Would we do the same thing again? Most definitely, if of course Caroline wants to spend another holiday with us. I bet she will, because after all it is the cheapest holiday she will have and everything she wants is on the door step.
Yes, you can have a happy holiday with teenagers. We definitely had.…

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I Saved My Marriage Remembering My Parents Divorce

I remember it like it was yesterday. My mom seemed to be in a big hurry, she was crying and throwing things into the trunk of the car. I asked her what was happening but all she said to me was, hurry up, get your little sister and get in, we’re leaving. Where are we going? I asked, but got no answer, she was not in the mood to talk. As I was getting my sister in the car, she saw that Mom was crying, so she started to cry as well. I didn’t understand what was happening, but I knew it wasn’t good, and I was afraid.
As we were backing out of the driveway, I saw Dad come to Moms window crying, begging her to please stay, please don’t go, and saying that he was very, very sorry. Mom just rolled up the window and ignored him. I had never seen my Dad cry before and the site of that happening terrified me. Dads don’t cry, even when they’re hurt, so I knew that something horrible had happened but I had no way of understanding what it was.
I didn’t know it at the time but my life changed that day. My parents ended up getting divorced and things like having a mother and a father around all the time never happened again. My sister and I went to live with mom, I don’t really know what Dad did, I don’t remember seeing him come around very often until some years later. Things were tough but we survived and managed to get by, but I know it was difficult for mom raising two children alone. I know she did the best she could but I always wished, and still do, that things could have been different.
Fast-forward twenty plus years, a marriage, and two young children later. I guess I hadn’t learned a damn thing because I found myself in the same position I remember my dad being in, as I flashed back to that fateful day. I was begging my wife to please stay, please don’t end our marriage, can we please try to make it work. And just like it was with my mom, my pleas just fell on deaf ears, she would have none of it. My wife and I were on our way towards divorce, and I felt helpless in trying to stop it.
I suppose I did learn something from my parent’s situation, and that was how I felt as a child going through a divorce. How much I missed my dad, how much I wished we were a family again. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone, let alone my own children. I didn’t want them to feel what I had felt, and how hard it was. There had to be something I could do, but what? I didn’t know anything about how to approach my predicament but I sure as hell was going to try.
It took everything I could muster; I stumbled many times and sometimes even thought it couldn’t be done. But I had to continue; I loved her and our kids so much that I had to make it work. I had to start all over again. I had to take her back to the time before we knew each other. I had to meet her again for the first time. I had to show her that I cared for her and wanted to be friends again. I asked her out on dates and courted her again. I showed her that I was 100% committed to her and our family and that she could trust and rely on me again. This process of starting over took time, but as the trust and caring between us grew we were drawn to each other again. The passion that we lost for each other reappeared, and we fell in love again. Yes it took time, but it was well worth it. You see, we are now a happy family again; dad, mom, two beautiful children and we plan on keeping it that way.…

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On Strong Family Ties: Charity and Respect

1. Tips
A happy family is one that shows respect to each family member.
It is one that values the various strengths and talents that form the unit or community. These strengths when pulled together form big goals, not only for the family but for a bigger group or community. This community will be ready to go out and serve for progress.
A fruitful and happy community is one that supports the basic needs of the members. It teaches them how to live with dignity through hard work, education and sharing.
A strong unit or core group produces a good harvest, working on positive project results, and sharing the fruits of honest labor.
A strong core unit can stand alone and sustain its immediate need like food and some personal needs. Each member keeps himself/herself healthy and strong. Cleanliness of the body and surroundings is necessary for some comfort and proper time of rest, after a hard day’s work.
A time for social interaction is needed and a time for solitude is a must. A time for rituals, like church and prayers binds the family together.
2. Thoughts shared
My mother loved her son-in-law like her own son. My husband loved my mother like his own mother. And now that they have both passed away, I can see how happy they lived sharing for my family and children.
She accepted the faults of my husband.
He respected the mother and put her into a pedestal.
She was happy to know how my husband worked hard.
He adored her non-perfect cooking.
When we got all together, he was laughing when my mother rearranged my stuff. She was laughing when he never let me go out the house. Whatever was it in their minds, everyone was laughing in the house, and we were all happy.
Respect in the home is very important. Good manners and right conduct must never be forgotten. This is what separates human from animals. Here, I remember my mother telling me about breeding.
Breeding is taught at home and acquired around. How one acquires proper manners, education, and culture depends how the individual copes up in the demands of every situation and the people around him/her. There is always a room for improvement, though.
The core family, the government, school, private institutions, church, and the community must support each life to meet a goal of its own. This goal must be to enhance the improvement of the human race.
True enough, the offspring must be better than the parents. In any form of diversity among individuals, everything and everyone must meet in charity and respect.…

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How to Encourage Amazing Behaviour

This advice is fairly simple. Do not accept controlling or unacceptable behaviour from anyone, especially your family. There’s an old saying that goes something like: “You can choose your friends, you get your family”. There’s a lot of truth in that.
Unfortunately, the subtext really means that family life is not all that it’s cracked up to be. Actually, I’ve heard that 85% of ALL families are considered dysfunctional, in one form or another. We have massively impossible expectations of a happy family life.
I blame it all on The Waltons, an 80’s TV show where every family dispute was resolved quite neatly within each 50 minute episode so that they could all say good night amicably (with the immortal words: “goodnight John boy”). Let me tell you. Life is not like that. Some parents are cruel. Some parents are abusers, in the worst possible sense of the word. Wives can use children as tactical chess pieces in a marriage. Husbands can be unfaithful. Children can hate their parents. It goes on. Life isn’t perfect.
Speak to most parents of teenagers and ask how their life is. You see, young blackbirds are genetically programmed to flee the nest. Teenagers are no different. They are marking out their territory.
Of course there are going to be clashes. Even without teenagers, there are bound to be clashes within any family (or a degree of subservience that is probably unhealthy). You see, it is just life. With friendships, they will naturally ebb and flow with the tides. Some will stand the test of time, others will fade into the sunset. Some friendships get created at a time for a purpose and then those friends are never seen again. That’s okay too. It’s just the ebb and flow of life. Just imagine if you had kept in touch with EVERY person that you had ever met. Right from kindergarten. It would be a pretty big list and you would have to start writing your Christmas cards (or equivalent) in January!
BUT, with family. It’s different. Those relationships, in one shape or form, get to last. Think of them as crows on the washing line of your life. They are going to be there. Whether in your face or at a distance. Whether on your side or not, they will be there. Displaying their feathers. Following the natural pecking order that gets formed in any family. So, that brings me to this important secret: I don’t care who they are. Father, mother, wife, husband, brother, sister, son, daughter (etc.), it doesn’t matter.
Do NOT accept controlling or unacceptable behaviour from ANYONE, especially your family. Just don’t put up with it. Stand your ground. Be YOU and who YOU want to be. You will find that by refusing to accept unacceptable behaviour, then you will naturally start to attract the other kind of behaviour and that is simply – amazing!…

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Children In Broken Homes Need Emotional Support: How Can You Help?

Studies show that children go through faster recovery when parents decide to have a divorce sooner than prolong a marriage that has ceased to work out. But even if this is the case, it is the children who suffer the emotional brunt associated with a divorce, often leaving permanent emotional scars.

Statistics suggests that about half of married couples today are ending up in divorce resulting to what we call broken homes. Many preconceived notions about the effect of broken homes on children are true, while some unearthed truths are disheartening.

Children from broken homes are more likely to experience mild to clinical depression and other psychiatric problems which greatly affects their performance in school and their relationship with the outside world. There is a strong relationship between juvenile delinquency and broken homes due to the absence or lack of a male role model, so that children are less apprehensive to commit a crime. It is said that ?fatherlessness? is one of the main causes of the disintegration of a society; clearly emphasizing that parenthood should not be left to mothers or grandparents alone.

Divorce stirs up a stressful predicament on the children, which results in many emotional, intellectual, or psychological problems.

What you can do to help

Many parents who have the custody of their children often make up for the emotional lack that the absence of another parent brings by acting as both the mother and father. However, because of the bitterness a divorce causes there is a strong likelihood that custodial parents themselves are busy contemplating their own emotional turmoil, which is likewise unhealthy for the children of broken homes.

Children from broken homes usually puts the blame on themselves, and have themselves into thinking they caused the divorce of their parents. They need to understand that their parents? divorce is not their fault.

It?s beneficial that parents or caregivers are aware of the psychological and emotional impacts of broken homes so they will be armed on how to help children. That way, they?ll realize the importance of extending emotional support that the children needs during this time of life crisis. Broken homes produce children with low-esteem and depression which greatly affects their emotional growth so that parents and guardians should make sure they actively make sure children are cushioned from the trauma.

While it can be hard to save children from the traumatic experience of divorce parents, relatives, and friends should make sure children has a well of resources of emotional support. This can be in the form of listening what a child has to say about the divorce.

The prevalence of divorce in western countries is causing a flood of resources on how to help children in broken homes. You can do your part today in helping preserve the broken hearts of these children.…