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Feng Shui Made Easy – More Prosperity Areas of the Bagua

Another prosperity area is the Happy Family area. This area is in the middle left of the bagua in front of the Prosperity Corner. The element is wood, the color is green the shape is rectangular or columnar. They have an important inter-relationship. This area has to do with “every day” money, money for bills, food, rent etc. Pay attention to Happy Family.
Have lots of light and movement in this area. Don’t worry if the wrong properties exist like an object that has the element of metal and is white and round. You can cure it with the element of fire, the color red and pointed or triangular shapes. Candles also work well as a cure. This is a good place for a money bowl (my last article explains this).
In front of the Happy Family area on left is the Self Cultivation and Knowledge area. If your money is spent before it is earned this is a good area to concentrate on. This area is helpful in developing wisdom on how to create and use your money.
Place a picture of someone wise with money in this area. Put a bill or coin in this space. Money has pictures of wise men and it is money! It can be as simple as that. Have books that pertain to prosperity in this area. All of these things work to affirm your intention of prosperity. They remind you of your intention when you see them which enhances the feeling of prosperity.
Of course, the Career area is a big area of prosperity. It is next to Self Cultivation and Knowledge. Typically, the Entry falls in the Career section which is in the middle of the front of the house. The element is water, the color is black and the shape is freeform or undulating.
The entry to your home is a very important prosperity area in Feng Shui. Doors are the “mouth of Chi”. When you open your door you are inviting in energy. Therefore, it is important to make a point of opening your front door. That may sound funny but many people enter and exit their homes only through the garage and rarely use the front door. Try to remember to open it now and then and have something in that area that invites in Chi. Art, wind chimes, crystals and fountains are good Chi movers in an entry. Remember, water is a symbol of prosperity so add more water!
Doors are the “mouth of Chi” and windows are the “eyes of Chi”. Doors should be kept unobstructed and able to open fully so that Chi flows in. Windows should be kept clean. Add more lighting if windows are not sufficient. Add some red ribbon or tape across the window sill and at the base of the door to invite even more Chi in.
The last area of prosperity in today’s article is the kitchen, more specifically the stove. In china the more people you cooked for the more prosperous you were. So, the more burners on the stove the better. This doesn’t necessarily mean you have to upgrade your stove. You can simply place mirrors at the back of the stove to multiply the burners. The mirrors also allow you to see behind you if your back happens to be to the door when you are cooking. Always keep the stove clean and clear. Also, keep the countertops uncluttered so they are a functional clear space where you can cook, create and prosper.
Namaste’
Watch for my next article: The Power of a Vision Board…

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Be Guided By The 3 Most Effective Parenting Tips

A lot people still believe that there are such things as perfect parents ? a soft-spoken, gentle, loving mother and a hardworking, firmly disciplined father who raise trouble-free, happy children. However, the truth of the matter is that there is no such thing as perfect parents because there are also no such thing as perfect children.

Becoming a parent may be a couple?s ultimate dream. Their hearts may be filled with gladness and joy; however parenting is not all about the good of it. Although, majority of the feeling is rewarding, a good part of it is also hard work. However, if you think that your parenting skills are entirely messed up and would need counseling. You may want to examine and take a closer look at these parenting tips to compare your own values and how you raise your kids.

Actions speak louder than words

Statistics has already proven that parents give more than 2000 compliance requests to their children a day! This is also the main reason why our kids become relatively parent deaf. It is time to ask yourself what action you would do instead of plainly nagging the whole time. For example, if you continuously nag about his dirty sock not placed on the laundry basket, then just wash those who are placed in the basket.

Withdrawal from Conflict

If your child is testing your temper through back talks and continues to be disrespectful to you. Take a deep breath and leave the room Tell him that you don?t listen to these kinds of talks and you will be in the other room just in case he is ready to talk with respect. Do not leave the room with so much anger or the feel of defeat. Let him feel that he is not getting your attention from his silly, useless disrespectful back talks. Subliminally, one of the best parenting tips is merely not showing interest your child?s rudeness.

Be consistent

If ever you had an agreement with your kid not to buy him anything until you get to the toy store, then do so. Don?t give in to his tears, pleads, pouts, or demands. He will learn to wait and respect your decisions if you constantly mean what you say.

It is important to follow these parenting tips because it is also important to instill discipline and respect to your child. One of the best parenting tips amongst all is by motivating your child internally in such a way that he will still feel loved.…

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Establishing a Loving Relationship With Your Baby

Your newborn baby will just love to be touched, picked up, held and cuddled. It is also important to talk, laugh and sing to your new child in order for them to recognize your voice. In fact, your baby will have been listening to your voice while even in the womb.
Around 10-12 weeks, your baby will respond by smiling for the first time. This is very rewarding for you and the father. It’s all about letting the baby know that he or she is loved and that you are there for them.
Bonding and attachment are normally instinctive, but sometimes your inability to cope with stress can be picked up by your baby and begin a vicious circle. It’s essential that you can learn ways to relax.
When your baby cries, it is not always food that it wants. In fact, your baby has no other means of communication apart from crying for attention. Some mothers instantly “shove” a bottle of milk or a teat into their baby’s mouth to stop it crying. Unfortunately, if your baby is crying because it has wind or colic, this can make it worse. Your baby may cry because of a wet or dirty diaper or just to know that you are there. Clearly, a pick-up and cuddle will suffice.
After a while, you will be able to tell the difference between a “pain” cry, a “hungry” cry, or just an “attention-seeking” cry. Then you can respond accordingly and try not to let the baby sense any agitation.
Cuddling, talking, and singing, humming and making your baby laugh by repetition are all ways of establishing the beginnings of a loving relationship. Many parents read simple repetitive stories over and over again, which help to develop this relationship.
Try not to leave your baby in an uncomfortable position with wet or dirty diapers for too long. Both you and the baby’s father need to help develop loving relationships so that the father needs to change diapers, hold and cuddle his child and talk as well.
Reading or reciting nursery rhymes is helpful for your child’s development. The sound of your voice, your tone and facial expressions all help with the bonding. Playing games like hide and seek, peek-a-boo and anything that’s fun all help in establishing a loving relationship.
A loving relationship is what makes a child’s life happy and secure, and will go far in establishing a permanent and loving family relationship into adulthood.
Olive Youngly…

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Stress – Different Ways On How To Deal With It

Feeling like the world is putting too much pressure on you? Do you experience sleepless nights because of your worries? Do you always eat on the go to beat your busy schedule? It is not just you who experiences these things. Most people experience stress at some point of their lives. But, there are ways to cope up with the unavoidable stress in life.
Stress is the body’s way in adjusting to a high demand. It is often caused by pressure from the outside world. It is the body’s way of preparing in facing tough and demanding situations with stamina and focus. If unmanaged, stress can bring about negative results to a person’s body. Too much stress can cause anxiety or panic attacks, overeating and depression. Moreover, experiencing too much stress may lead to drinking alcohol, smoking and drug addiction. However, there are creative ways to handle and cope up with stress.
The proper way to deal with stress is to identify the source of stress in your life. Although it may sound that easy, identifying the root cause of stress is a bit difficult to do. More often than not, the source of stress is not that obvious. You may be constantly stressed with beating deadlines, however, deadlines are not the main problem but it is your habit of delaying your tasks.
After you found out what causes you to feel stress, identify how your body responds to it. Stop telling yourself that you are alright. Instead, take time to observe the how your body reacts to different situations. Notice your muscles and observe your breathing.
Once you already identify the cause of stress in your life and how your body responds to it, find ways to cope up with stress. Slowing down is one of the best ways to cope up with stress. Surround yourself with sights that comfort you. Listen to music that makes your muscles relax. Look for scents that are comforting and calming.
Knowing how to deal with the pressures from the environment helps you cope up with stress. The ability to manage stress keeps you focused and healthy.…

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8 Guilty Pleasures For Mothers

Now, listen up dads, this article is for you as much as for mums. You see, Mums will need you to step in for her to indulge in these guilty pleasures. I’m here for the mums, so if you’re a harassed dad, I apologise but know that we mums do sympathise with you.

Now, enough for my disclaimer.

As mums, I feel that there’s many pressure put upon me that sometimes I feel I don’t know myself anymore. I’m a driver to ferry my children around from one activity to another. I’m a cook, I’m a nurse, a live-in cleaner, a teacher and of course a wife to support my husband and keep him company. And looking at celebrity mum, I must also look stunning every day. With that, I fail miserably.

If you’re like me and other mums in the world, you probably feel guilty if for just one minute, you indulge yourself. But a number of research found that it’s important for a mother to find time for herself because happy mothers have happy children and happy family.

Before my words get twisted, I don’t suggest that mothers should over indulge themselves, go to the bar every night or shop until they drop and there’s no more money left for the family. That’s over indulgence and just pure irresponsible.

So, here are the 8 guilty pleasures that you can indulge to help you find yourself and without breaking your bank balance.

Lie in bed on Saturday morning until 10:00 AM. Yes, once a week, indulge in this great pleasure of not getting up in the morning to rush and get the kids’ breakfast ready. Allow your husband to do the work, it will give him time to bond with the kids while you get a much needed rest.

Curl up in the sofa with a good book. If you’re feeling totally harassed and fed up, get your husband to look after the kids, find a quite room and curl up with a very good book you’ve been wanting to read.

Have a warm relaxing bath before going to bed. This is very easy to do. Let the husband do a bit of tidying up in the kitchen while you have a good soak in the bath to relieve all your tension.

Get a cleaner. Yes, once a week or every fortnight get someone to do the cleaning for you. Even if this means you have to sacrifice other luxuries, this is one luxury that is worth having.

If your child is not yet at school, send your child to day care at least one day a week even if you are not working. This is one of the best guilt trippers especially for stay at home mums. However, studies also reveal that children who go to day care are often more confident than children who stay at home.

Have your hair done every month even if you think you don’t need it. This is to remind you that you are still a beautiful woman. If you can’t really afford it, why not have a spa day at home. (More on this topic later.)

Get a baby sitter and go out with your husband once a month. This will keep the romance alive between you and your husband. Remember, you are not just parents but you are a couple too.

Get your husband to give you a massage once a week. Not only will this relax you but it will also help bring you closer together.

Now, enjoy!…

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Find Your Happiness by Working on Your Family

Today’s fast pace environment just doesn’t give couples the ability to sit down and enjoy each others company. We have to worry about the kids schooling, the soccer practices, dance classes, karate classes and the million other things that we all feel we need to do for our families in order to make us as parents feel that we are doing all that we can to help our children live normal and productive lives. But in reality, we are only burning ourselves out.
How do I go about changing my life?
Parent needs to come to the understanding that children will develop at their own pace. There is really no need to have your child signed up for 2 different sports and a class in order for them to fell accepted by society. They get all their time socializing and connecting with friends at school and playing in their local neighborhood. Sure a sport could be beneficial to your child, but only in the case that they want to play the sport. Not because you feel it would be good for them.
Sit down and have dinner together
Having a meal together is a great way for you to reconnect with your spouse and your children. It is common in many cultures that all dinners would be around a simple table without any distractions. No TV, radio, or gaming systems. Talk with other about your days. Sharing your activities will help your children see that you have an interest in what they do during the day.
Set up some family time
Running around like a chicken with your head cut off is not healthy for you or your family. Organize yourself with a planner and make sure to set up some family time a side in your schedule. Use this time to take the family to a move or out to a park. Have some fun. Think back to how you felt when you got to go to the park and spend time with your dad fishing or with your mom at the playground.
We all want what is best for our children in the future and feel obligated to do everything that we can to make sure they have those opportunities that we never had. But how would you feel now if you would not have had those special moments with your parents when you where growing up. Those are memories that will always stick with us throughout the rest of our lives.…

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Love a “Loser” and Build a Healthy Happy Family

Sometimes we are very fortunate to be backed by a strong support team. Ironically, though it is sometimes those closest to us who succeed in derailing our attempts to unlearn destructive lifestyle habits.
Parents often exhort children to “eat up, it is good for you”. Thereby you establish a vicious cycle where food intake is equated with love and approval. The implication to this is that if your child does not eat all the food that has been prepared, he is made to feel ungrateful and unloving. If you see food as a reward and a substitute for love, you will probably be one to use it as a source of comfort every time you experience a crisis, with disastrous consequences for your weight and health. Let them be when they do not want to eat anymore, and build a healthy family.
Then there are also the loving parents, who discourage their beloved ones slimming attempts. “I love you just the way you are, you do not need to lose weight” they would say. These people might be trying to manipulate you psychologically, out of some sort of feat that if you lose weight you will be more difficult to control. A slim, healthy attractive part might be viewed as a threat. The particularly happens when your partner has also steadily gained weight over the years. Get your partner to join you in your weight loss efforts and build a healthy happy family.
Once you have made up your mind to achieve optimum healthy, and to gain control over your weight, it is vital that you let “diet detailers'” know you are wise to their tricks. Those who love you dearly may not even be aware that they are attempting to sabotage you, and they could be very hurt if you confront the issue with them too forcefully. Take it gently yet firmly and explain to them how much it means to you to lose weight and also to get the whole family to join in order to build a healthy family. Try to turn this into an opportunity to spend more quality time together. Ask them to be your weight loss buddy and build a healthy happy family. This will provide you with the vital back-up support system that you need. And it will also eliminate any feelings of insecurity they might experience as you begin to reveal your new slimmer sexier healthier body.
When you reach a milestone in your weight loss journey, do not be afraid to shout if from the rooftops. Chances are good that when your friends and your family see your enthusiasm and your happiness, they will begin to provide the much needed support you crave.
Your remarkable achievements will be as much a tribute to your loved ones as it is to your own determination.…