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Family Happiness

Keeping A Happy Home With Family

Every living thing in this world has a family. No one is intended to live alone in this planet. Though some circumstances of losing a family cannot be avoided, other human beings that you might encounter in the future can be your new family. Life is very busy nowadays since crisis is present all over the world. Everybody needs to work hard and focus in earning money in order to survive. As a mother, there are lots of things that you are responsible of inside the house aside from the job you have outside such as doing the household chores, disciplining your kids, serving your husband, and a lot more. It can be so frustrating to you part if you will see that the entire family is not happy with all the efforts you’ve made. But do not be worried about that because there are actually useful guidelines to keep a happy family.
First thing of all is to have a good parenting strategy. If you are a new parent, you can ask opinion from your mother or friends about giving the right treatment for the child. Building the personality and character of your child greatly depends on how you taught him. Give your child enough time where both of you will enjoy quality time together. Do not let your job and other household chores become a hindrance to your mother and child relationship. You can do all the household chores in a specific time when your child is asleep or your partner has arrived. Just make sure that when your child needs you, you are always available to attend his needs. Show love and care to your child. This will help you develop a trusting and loving relationship between you and your child.
Give time for your husband. Do not ignore him are he arrives from work. A happy marriage can brighten up the atmosphere of the home. It can also help the children understand what a true happy family really is. Kids are not restrictions for a date with your husband. You can still spend time together walking outside during your free time. Cooking the dinner together is also a good chance for both of you to share everything that happened for that day. Kids always go to bed first after you read stories or the like so you can still spend more time after they’ve gone to bed.
If you and your husband were given the chance for a day or week vacation, take this opportunity to have a fun trip with your whole family. Going to a trip is a good form of bonding with your kids and building memorable experience. There are so many places that are best for a family trip. You can do some online research so that you can see all the options available and choose the most suitable for your family and budget. If you don’t want to leave the house, outdoor activities are also good alternatives while grilling some food outside. You can go shopping together beforehand so that your kid will really enjoy the activity. Always encourage the thoughts and suggestions of your kids. It will make them more confident if they can see that their opinions count.…

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Get Saving and Build a Healthy Happy Family

Start saving.
There are three steps to saving.
Firstly you need to save your money. Decide on how much you want to save to be able to pull yourself through difficult times for example disasters, accidents, deaths etc. Then instead of falling into the trap of buying something you think you need now on credit, rather wait, save and buy it later on cash. Anything that you buy on credit ends up costing you much more than the original price was.
Secondly draw up a budget, it helps you see your expenses against your income and helps you not to spend your income erratically.
Thirdly educate yourself about financial services and choose the most efficient and cheapest option. Learn about the best products and services through financial service providers. And learn about the different banking methods available that you can use.
Some more very useful saving tips for the whole family to build a healthy happy family this year.
Change your mindset. You need to go from being comfortable with debt to being in control of your finances. Commit yourself to being debt free in three, six or twelve months.
Put aside money for any medical or other emergencies, as well as for car and house maintenance.
Pay off your debts with the highest interest rates first, and do not borrow any money from anywhere to pay debts. If you are one of us that finds yourself in uncontrollable debt because of more than one credit card, destroy one card at a time and settle the debt. Do not get new cards once you have paid off the debt. Keep a list and write down all your purchases in order to keep track of unnecessary spending. Ensure each purchase is necessary and not a “show-off” item or goods.
Start a savings club with friends or colleagues, or a rotating savings club. This way, members contribute a specified monthly sum to the club, and each member receives all the contributions when their turn in the rotation arrives. Build a healthy happy family and teach your children the value of money and of saving. Most banks have tailor made accounts when with above average interest rates for teenagers.
Reduce the insurance on your car every year because your car decreases in value each year. If you have not been doing that, your premiums have increased while your car’s value has decreased. It is your job to keep your premium down by regularly informing your insurer to decrease your sum insured. There are also other ways that you could save besides in your bank account. Join your employer’s pension or provident fund or invest in unit trusts. Make informed decisions and good choices on large purchases by shopping around and comparing prices.
Keep your financial goals for your family in mind throughout the year, even as the excitement wears off. Your reward will be a happier, healthier richer family. Start today to build your healthy happy family.…

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Giving Up Self-Defeating Legacies

No pain, no gain! Those words were drummed into me by my father so many times, I long ago stopped counting up the reasons why he said what he said. Despite the untruth of them, after a while, they started to sink in. Do anything long enough, and it will become your habit, even the phrases you think with, and that influence the way you feel about your life. For the first forty years of my life, his words determined how I felt, what I did, and how I reacted to circumstances, but not in the way he would have liked them to, I am certain. Because my father loved me.
It took me a long time to shake off the effects of taking “No pain, no gain” so seriously. The impact of a violent childhood in the slums of New Haven, major surgery after four years on daily pain medication, three divorces, and as many rejection slips as there must have been times when my father said his favorite phrase, had to go, because it was me, or them. It also took me a long time to forgive him for handing me down a legacy that at first glance, doesn’t seem all that kind. Yet in my new relationship to it, it was.
What I realized was that everything in our lives regardless, can either be used as a challenge to be happier, or a reason to feel sorry for ourselves. For years, I used my Father’s mantra as a way to point out how difficult my life was. I believed his words to be true, rather than to simply observe that he had said them, and then on my own, choose how I would respond to them. No pain, no gain, was his mantra, after all, and there was no law in the Universe that said I had to adopt his offered gift.
One of the hidden gifts of my father’s legacy was that from the moment I chose my response to No pain, no gain, I also gained something else. Given that his wording had been so powerful for me, after overcoming it, I gained the ability to also overcome all the other phrases the many people around me were constantly offering to the Universe. Their own negative legacies that were handed down to them by their families. We have all heard them. “There’s not enough money,” or, “That’s the way things always turn out,” or, “You know you can’t do that,” any and all limiting beliefs that have no basis in any reality other than inside of the mind of the person who believes them, period.
Yes, they are real, of course they are, but only to the believer of them! What an eye opener that was! Now I could hear the words of my Father and the people around me, discern what worked for my happiness, and then simply choose my response to them no matter what. Sometimes it was to go into agreement with them, and other times it was to purposely decide what my own mantra for living was. I think more than anything else, whether my Father knew it or not, that was the gift he wanted to impart to his son; the strength to choose for myself.
The moment I chose my responses to any words spoken, or any circumstances happening around me, and left whatever offered gift, if it was self-defeating in nature, with the giver, my life changed. No, it wasn’t one of those light-in-the-sky, transformational, mind-blowing moments, that caused fireworks to go off. It was more like the changes most of us have. This shift in perspective occurred over time, and with a lot of hard work on my part. Hard work, but not necessarily pain. Because the only gain you get with pain, is more pain, and I didn’t want any more of that!
Slowly, I realized that what my Father said was the way he viewed the world, and not the way I was required to view it. It was his choice to be in constant pain over what had happened in his life, and out of acknowledging his own freedom to choose for himself, I gained my own. By honoring his choices, I was freed to choose how I wanted to relate to what had happened to me, and most importantly, how I would respond to what was to come in my future. In this pain-free way, I could finally appreciate all the good things that my Father did do for me, and at the same time, handle his brief reaction to my new point of view, when he was at first threatened by my unexpected buoyancy.
The moment he overcame that reaction, and was happy for me, was one of those moments when I …

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Celebrating Father’s Day – Lessons From Dad Are Important!

I love that we celebrate fathers passed and present. I lost my dad more than 20 years ago yet I think of him and cherish with gratitude the life lessons he taught me. Some lessons I learned long after he passed. Why? Because I wasn’t wise enough in my younger years to get the lesson. Reflection is good. Think about your dad, what he represents, what he stands for, what he taught you by his actions, his words and how he showed up each day in your home.
Here are 6 things dad’s can do that will leave a lasting and positive impact on the lives of their children:
1. Teach your children the importance of play. Turn off the TV. Spend time with your kids having fun. Play evokes fun and laughter, which have enormous benefits. Play not only makes us feel good, it’s good for us because it brings balance to all components of the immune system. Studies show that play is at the core of creativity and innovation. A success skill for life. Play shapes the brain, making your children more adaptable and smarter. Play and laughter are the joyful threads that run through a family’s life creating some of the very best memories that bind you together. There is nothing like rekindling those fun and happy cherished memories that make us feel good as time rolls on.
2. Feed your kids with good news, good books, positive people, and positive activities. It affects their mind, their happiness and how they view the world – friendly and happy or hostile and pessimistic. Research shows that happy people have better outcomes in life than pessimists. You can help to enrich and nourish their thoughts and dreams into life by sharing positive experiences of life.
3. Your words are powerful and effect young minds. Be at your best by giving away all the words of encouragement, acknowledgement and motivation that you can at every opportunity. Speaking positive, good words breathes a new sense of life, light, and happiness into your children, as well as creating a deeper sense of your love for them.
4. Speak with optimism. When you are optimistic you create a sense that the world is a friendly place conspiring at every corner to help you. It helps create resilience. You see the best in everything and everyone. You’re children will pick up on your vibe and learn a valuable skill for life. Teach them that “every cloud has a silver lining” so that when adversity, setbacks, failures, and hardship happen, they can turn them into something positive by finding greater meaning in life from them. Optimism gives your children the motivation to continue to persist to find solutions even in the bleakest of situations. Optimism has a way of creating a ripple effect of positive and good energy. Research shows that optimists tend to succeed above others in life and are physically healthier, more productive and do better at work, school and in sports.
5. Act out with gratitude for the smallest of things. It’s a way of cultivating an attitude of appreciation. It teaches your children to learn to count their blessings not other peoples which mass media focuses on, depleting young minds so they feel that they or what they have is not enough. This is not true. Only the practice of gratitude can shift this mindset. Too many walk around sabotaging themselves by believing they are not enough because they never learnt this skill. Teach them to value what they have including what most people take for granted, for example their legs that gets them to and from school and teach them to appreciate everything that others do for them.
6. Teach your children forgiveness. Unforgiveness can be crippling. It is a burden in the mind and heart. Forgiveness is about freeing yourself. Teach your children to free themselves from the hurt and time and energy it takes away from their life. Teach them to learn the lesson, the gift in every situation, for example, if someone presented with a quality that hurt him or her, get him or her to see that the lesson is not to take on that quality in their own life, to learn to do and be better. Forgive the person, learn the lesson, let it go and be free.
So dads strengthen your children for life’s journey ahead, deepen the love between you and leave a great inheritance to your children by teaching them valuable life lessons just like my dad did. Happy Father’s Day!…

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Family Relationships

‘No’ Is a Powerful Word in A Parent’s Vocabulary – Here’s Why

 

Modern parents tend to be very aware of the words they use. They know their kids will learn from them, and they do not want the little ones learning bad words. Some parents go so far as to avoid all negative words – even those society does not necessarily consider bad. That may be a mistake. Take the word ‘no’, for example. It is one of the most powerful words in a parent’s vocabulary.

 

The word itself denotes something very specific. Depending on how it is used, it can mean a denial of something you want to do. It could mean that you do not get permission. It could mean that you don’t have any money, your car isn’t running, or you didn’t get that job you were after. The word can be broadly applied to an endless number of situations, yet always with the same intent.

 

Where parents are concerned, saying no is a particularly important tool for training children how to live in an orderly society. Unfortunately, using the word too often and in the wrong way can lead to unintended and negative consequences. It is all in how a parent uses the word and the reason behind it.

 

●                  Children Lack Knowledge and Experience

 

One of the chief reasons for telling children no is the fact that they lack knowledge and experience. As a parent, you want your child to grow up and exercise wisdom. But that is impossible without knowledge and experience. Telling your children, no from time to time teaches them what is appropriate and what is not. It teaches them self-control. It gives them some of the knowledge and experience they need to be wise adults.

 

Also consider that a child’s lack of knowledge and experience can actually be harmful to them. As a parent, you sometimes say no because you are fully aware of the potential harm of saying yes. You help your child learn to control themself by taking the lead early on.

 

●                  Many Reasons to Say No

 

Often times, parents who seek out adolescent counseling have struggled to say no to their kids. Failing to be that check against a child’s naturally selfish desires leads to antisocial behavior. The good news, according to the therapy staff at Westchester, NY’s Relationships & More, is that most families can be helped with therapy.

 

In the meantime, Relationships & More counselors say there are many reasons to tell a child no:

 

  • Harming Others – Parents should say no when the actions of their children could potentially harm others.

 

  • Circumstances Change – Children need to learn that life is not perfect; that circumstances change. Parents can teach them that by saying no when things do not go as planned.

 

  • Teaching Self-Reliance – Saying no is appropriate as a tool for teaching children self-reliance. If there is something they can do for themselves, parents should let them. They should say no to any request that mom or dad do for the kids what they can do for themselves.

 

  • Wants vs. Needs – Sometimes saying no is the best way to teach a child the difference between wants and needs. In our modern, consumer-driven world, we could use a little more ‘no’ in this regard.

 

‘No’ is a powerful word in a parent’s vocabulary because it can be used to teach a child a myriad of lessons. Unfortunately, far too many parents who strive to choose their words carefully do not say no often enough. That is not good because it trains a child to behave in ways that will be problematic in adulthood.

 

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Family Happiness

Take the Family on an African Safari – Tips Inside

Taking the family on an African Safari can be a once in a lifetime experience, and should be planned out carefully. First there are several different travel services offering these safaris, and you will want to check with each one to make sure you are getting the most for your money. There are some things that you need to consider. One of them is that they should be taking you to see the big five in African wildlife, Lions, elephants, rhinoceros, water buffalo, and even leopards.
A full package deal is not just about the animals, but also about the culture of the native people. A good vacation package will include visits to local tribes, and even staying with them overnight. You will experience their daily lives, what they do for fun, and maybe even go on an excursion or two with them.
The next thing you need to consider is that these trips are not cheap, nor are they short. Your average price tag is around $12,000 per adult, and that is based on double occupancy. The cap on many child discounts, is usually age 11, although some can be as high as twelve or thirteen. This also doesn’t include airfare from you home city to the place where the safari starts. These are also long trips, some last up to 11 days. Make sure your kids and older family members are up to it.
Do you want to know about more cool places to visit and some cool ways to get discounts on travel?…

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Happiness – Is That Want You Really Want?

It seems we human beings are more motivated to move away from pain than we are motivated to move towards pleasure. How often do you experience the kind of happiness that you seek. What level of happiness is it? What does that feel like? Can you describe this type of happiness in detail? When you do feel this happy, where are you, and who are you with when you feel this way?
If you can begin to answer these types of open questions that provoke your thinking, then you can begin to be able to clearly visualise what type of happiness it is. It makes the goal clear for you. You begin to know exactly what you want to experience. So, you goal could be to have more of that type of happiness on a regular basis. Right now, you may achieve that type of happiness that you want, weekly. Why not every hour!
The way to start to do that is first accept where you are now. Accept the situation you are in now and the people you mix with daily, and be grateful for that. From this place, you can start to get more enthusiastic about the new level of happiness that you are about to experience more often. Do you have to do something specifically to feel more happy? It is my observation that you do not. In fact, the more you try, the further it can run away from you. Sit down, relax and let it come to you, and it will. When you let all the distractions flow away from you, it leaves plenty of space for the real happiness to flow into your life, to flow through you. It is my experience that this is the type of happiness the purest and is best for me.
It is important that you can take something away after reading this article. Otherwise, what’s the point. Let’s have a quick summary on what you can do now. Firstly, acceptance of what you have right now. Acceptance helps bring you into the present moment. Helps make you focus upon yourself. The type of acceptance that I mean is of where you are, the people in your daily life right now, and your ability to focus on what you can have.
Secondly, find a quiet place for 20 minutes. Try and get to a relaxed state of mind and body. You can do this by slowing your breathing and focusing upon that. Finally, visualise yourself being happy. Recall a time when you felt the type of happiness that you want to experience more often. You do this when you visualise yourself being happy, and just focus upon those feelings that you feel. Give it time and try this exercise each day as you will get better at it.…