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Ladder Of Years by Anne Tyler

Delia, short for Cordelia, is the central character of Anne Tyler’s Ladder Of Years. As usual for Anne Tyler, Delia is a Baltimore resident, a wife, a mother and probably, at least from the outside, a pillar of strength and dependability in both family and community. The children are growing up. Which children don’t? Bet then it’s how they grow up that matters, isn’t it? Sam, the husband, is doing moderately well. Moderate seems to be the word, as far as Sam is concerned. He’s hardly made a success of the business he inherited from Delia’s father, but the family survives to inhabit a middle class, rather liberal niche in the common psyche. As Ladder Of Years opens, the family is holidaying by the sea and Delia is dressed, mentally, for the beach.
And then, without warning, even to herself, she takes off. Just like that, whatever “that” might be. She absconds. Goes missing. Disappears. There’s suspicion of drowning. A report appears in a Baltimore paper. The family fears she has come to harm. But no, she hasn’t. In fact, still dressed for the beach she is heading off to a place she doesn’t know with a stranger. It’s no particular stranger, just a stranger.
Quite soon, and with new clothes, a new address and a changed life, Delia takes on a new identity. Though Baltimore wife and mother still lives in her head, she’s become a new Delia, single, independent and employed. In this new guise, she inter-reacts with her new community and gradually becomes part of it. Why did she leave the apparent safety, security and responsibility of her family? Not even she can answer.
What slowly begins to emerge, however, is that Delia’s choice of opting out becomes increasingly one of opting in. By degree the characters in her new life start to become more demanding. Without needing to state everything explicitly, they start to assume Delia’s support and claim reliance upon her. She, of course, responds and finds that she now has two levels of responsibility created out of the demands of her new life and continued contact with her family. Interestingly, Delia, this pillar of support, never feels either at home or secure in either role.
And so it is via this scenario of identity change, relationships of dependency, insecure self-image, alongside a fixation of demand that Anne Tyler relates how Delia’s life unfolds. Delia notices a lot about people, but she’s no great analyst. Surely she’s the type to apologise before expressing an opinion, but would harbour unspoken bigotries like the rest of us. At the start of the book she seems confused. By the end, a few more rungs along the ladder of life, she apparently remains so. Perhaps the ladder is horizontal… and with irregular spacing… But then Delia has little time to consider such arcane ideas. After all, there are things to do, people to talk to, arrangements to be made, jobs to be done……

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10 Tips For Managing and Organizing Your Family

As a mom, you can feel more like a drill sergeant or chauffeur than family manager. But the truth is, you are the CEO of your little brood, so it’s time to act like it! Take a few tips from the professionals and enlist these suggestions to gain better control over your time and your life:
1. Set goals. You need to know what you’re trying to accomplish in a global sense (raise a great family), as well as in a more immediate sense (get the kids out the door on time).
2. Make sure the tasks match the goals. Every day, I review our tasks and see how they fit with our short- and long-term goals. We all have more to do than we could ever accomplish, so this review process is a quick way to figure out what makes it on the “Do” list.
3. Write it down. I write it down. Everything. Even if I don’t look at the list again, the very act of writing it all down helps cement it in my brain.
4. Batch your actions. Do like things at the same time. Set a day for errands, a day for laundry, a day for cleaning. Then you’re not jumping from task to task and repeating yourself.
5. Create systems. When you repeat a task over and over again – like grocery shopping or doing the laundry – create a system for it. Write it down.
6. Ask for help. Enlist the help of family, kids, and friends (if the only thing you need from Costco is a pack of napkins, ask your girlfriend to pick them up when she’s making her weekly run). When you have a written system (see #5), it’s easy to delegate.
7. Allow imperfection. When you ask kids to help out (or spouses, for that matter!), things aren’t going to get done the way you would do them. That’s okay. Life doesn’t have to be perfect to be good!
8. Go easy on yourself. Life is hard. Stuff happens. Some things you can control, some things you can’t. Sometimes you can adjust. Sometimes you can’t. Be nice to yourself! Beating yourself up won’t make you any more productive.
9. Adjust. If things aren’t working, make changes. Try something new. Keep adjusting.
10. Make time for fun. Life isn’t all about schedules and lists. Take time – even if you have to schedule it in – for fun.…

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How to Find a Good Balance

How much TV is your tot watching?
Babies should watch as little TV as possible. New studies show that there is a huge difference in the amount of television that toddlers in child-care centers watch compared to stay at home kids. Children staying home watch almost 3 times more television than kids going to day care.
How to find a good balance? Stay at home moms are proud to be full time with their kids and not send them to day care, while stressing for not having any time for themselves.
Moms that work full time are fulfilled by their careers and probably feeling guilty for leaving their kids at home. I believe that ideally, if finances and schedules would allow, the perfect balance is right in the middle.
In a perfect world I think that newborn babies should definitely stay with mom as much as possible. When a little older I believe it is beneficial for everyone involved to spend some time in a good day care that supports the development and education of your child. As a result when spending time with mom, both will enjoy it more and have quality time dedicated to each other.
It’s inevitable that a mom staying at home will need moments to do certain tasks that need her concentration and will turn on the TV or put on a DVD to entertain their kids. If this happens once in a blue moon is not a big deal of course, but that same amount of time could be spent interacting with other people and other children, helping their social and cognitive development, even the best TV program cannot substitute that.
I’ve been in both sides, when my daughter was born I still had my wholesale business going, my jewelry store open, so I had to leave my daughter to work full time (full time is an understatement), I would say full time and a half. When my son was born I closed my business and completely dedicated my time to my kids and my kids only. Now that Elias is 7 1/2 months I am back to working part time, my daughter has been going part time to day care, she will begin pre-school now in September and my son is with me most of the time still but I get some help here and there so I get things done.
I believe that interacting with different people, with different age, personality and lessons to offer can only benefit our kids. We are always behind moving all the strings making sure that he is in good hands, happy and well taken care off.
If kids could choose, if spending full time with an overwhelmed, cranky, stressed mom, I am sure they would prefer a part time happy, loving, caring mom. The best gift we can offer our kids is that they learn how to be happy, successful and survive out there in the world without us being is our true job, not only protect them but prepare them. The earlier we take little steps towards that, the better.…

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The Things a Daughter Should Know From Her Father

There are certain things that a father must teach to his daughter. These things are her tools when the time comes that she will be facing by her own the realities of the world. These things should be bear in mind whenever and wherever a child may be, in particular the daughters. These are the things that will make her grow responsible, mature and intelligent towards the things that she may encounter in the near future.
a.) Teach them to value their family because they are for eternity.
Fathers let your daughters know how much you love your wife because this will become the stepping stone of your daughter when the time comes she will engage to important relationship in life. Show them the marriage both of your wife shared so that they will become such in the future.
b.) Tell her that she is attractive in her own.
This will enable your daughter to become aware of the natural beauty she possesses and nothing can be ever compared by it. For this, father let you daughter know that you love them of who they are.
c.) Tell her that she has everything to be capable of doing things around her.
This will make their confidence grew more by letting them know that they have enough blessings in life that they can use to achieve anything they want in their lives.
d.) Emphasize to them the word “no” for this will be a great practice in life.
Outside world has also a lot to offer from good things and to bad things. Practicing your daughter’s ability to resist bad actions and by keeping it clear makes your daughter away from bad situations.
e.) Teach them what is really good and what is really bad.
By letting them know the difference of what is good and what is bad, they will learn to measure things up so that living is at peace.
f.) A humble character has no price to pay.
Being humble to others aside from being sovereign and self-assured is the most important trait a daughter should have. This would encourage her to respect and treat the people around her equally.
g.) Tell her to be always conscious in health matters.
This is very critical to them especially when foods are viewed in wrong ways. Unhealthy diets are the number one cause of killer diseases nowadays. Including this is the bad influence of alcohol and drugs that may lead to further damage in her health and can cause further complicated problems.
h.) Teach her how to pray in the most sincere way and should always put God first.
Tell her to give thanks to the source of all things around her and for her life. Teach her to praise God whether she is in bad or good situation. Most of all teach her to be faithful to Him at all times and circumstances.
These are just simple yet considered as the basic things that a daughter must know in life in order for her to live a happy and contented life that is abiding the teachings of God. For we all know that “Man cannot live alone in bread”.…

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Build a Healthy Happy Family, Stand Together and Win Together

The great gift of a loving supportive family is probably one of the greatest we can hope to receive. Does not matter whether there are just two of you or if you are a family unit of fifty, nothing matches the feeling of having people around you who love your for who and what you are. Although no family unit is ever perfect, and you may at times wish you did not have to be around your family, but the security, friendship, loyalty and love of a family cannot be replaced by anyone or anything else. That is just the reason why any breakup of a family is so painful.
No man is an island. It may be a cliché, but it certainly rings true for those of us with a healthy family. Everything and anything we do affects them in some way or another, and relies on them for some sort or form of support, and that support is irreplaceable. Our families support not only physically enables us to do things we envisage, but it also gives us the drive to continue working at whatever it is we are trying to achieve. Build a healthy happy family and their support makes all the difference. Our healthy family’s positive reinforcement helps us to feel happy and content with our progress, it encourages us to keep on striving to meet greater bigger goals. Our families also tend to be wonderfully, at times painfully honest. This is something others may find hard to do for you. We are far more likely to accept the true and honest opinion of loved ones than those of strangers of casual acquaintances.
Let’s consider how important the support of loved ones is. Any lack of support from our family can be a severe blow to us. It is a big deal when our friends disagree with us, but when there is a family falling out it is a messy painful business for everyone. This only really stems from the fact that your family will essentially love you for who you are, and that is accepting you with all your faults and they will support you through all life’s trials.
Just take away the positive regard of someone who loves you unconditionally, and you create a wound that will never heal.
One just has to look at the consequences of a divorce as an example of the pain that family rifts and arguments can cause. No matter what the endeavor may be that we are embarking on, the support of our family makes all the difference in the world. May it be whether they are physically facilitating your progress, or providing emotional support, they offer the encouragement that can propel us from failure to success. Therefore it is so important to build a healthy happy family. Even when it comes to something as trying as weight loss, and to build a healthy family, family support is a huge help. Because permanent weight loss occurs when we adjust our lifestyles, ditching the b ad eating habits and sedentary behavior in favor of eating balanced healthy nutritious meals and taking regular exercise as well as taking care of our emotional needs.
This is not small step, and all and any help and support we get from our families along the way will aid us in our fight to attain healthy and happiness, and to build a healthy happy family.…

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Christmas Activities For Any Happy Family

Christmas is a time that most families especially children look forward to. It is a season of joy, bonding and lot of fun. It is a period for families to come together engaging in various activities. These activities could be indoor games or outdoor sports. The indoor games vary from family to family for some; it could be printable games like cross word puzzle, scrabble, snakes and ladder, chess and monopoly. These various indoor games help to bring togetherness and oneness in the family. Christmas time is also a time when family members that have been away for a long period of time get to come together again.
Outdoor Christmas activities come in various forms and they range from snowballing to going to the park, and if you are living in sunny areas, also trips to the beach. Some other activities also include Christmas mazes, hunting and Christmas parties, which are most popular with people. These outdoor activities help indeed enhance bonding among family members, hoping for a better future together. This article will be focusing on various activities that can be embarked on during Christmas period or at Christmas time.
If during Christmas you decide to stick to staying in your house, there are several indoor games that will appeal to you. For example there are various printable games that can be bought from any departmental store or shop. Some of these games can also be purchased through the internet by searching through search engines, or going directly to the shop’s website.
There are also Christmas worksheets available that help little children in solving problems. The worksheets help the children in becoming creative and independent. Another indoor Christmas activity includes drawing and painting by little children. There could also be recitation of poems and story telling. Sudoku is also a very important indoor game that families can indulge in. This game act as a brain teaser and is more complex that really engages the brain. The game is good for teenagers and adults. While little children are engrossed in their drawing and painting, adults can have a game of sudoku by the fire.
As I mentioned before, Christmas can also be spent outdoors by engaging in various Christmas activities. Some of these includes building snow men and creating snow birds. It is also possible to engage in solving Christmas mazes. These mazes challenge the minds of children to think clearly and distinctly to find the way out of the maze. It is also possible for a member of the family to act as Santa Claus giving out gifts to other family members and friends.…

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Parenting Tips That Will Make Your Life Easier

Pregnancy can be a wonderful time in your life. It has so many unexpected joys and experiences along the way. There is so much to learn about your growing baby. This article can help you to realize just what is going on with your baby and what you can expect as you get closer to birth.

Make sure your swings and mobiles use plugs over batteries. When you have twins you are using two of everything and that will include double the batteries. Save yourself the extra cost by only buying or registering for items that you can plug in so that you won’t have to take out a mortgage for batteries.

Be consistent. Children function better when they know what is going to happen during the day, especially young children. A huge change in schedule or no schedule will give you very crabby children. They will feel like they are out of control, and they will show you that in their behavior.

Making sure your children are fed properly will help your day run smoothly. When children are hungry, you will be able to tell right away. Infants will scream until they are fed, toddlers will throw a temper tantrum, pre-schoolers will get crabby, and older kids will get a horrible attitude. All this can be stopped by giving them a snack every 2-3 hours.

One of the most important things you can do for your children is to control your own stress by taking time to care for yourself. Parents who take time to recharge can actually have more energy to care for their children than those who don’t. It will help you stay calmer and be there for your children.

Close Family

As a parent one should make sure to set time aside specifically for the family. This is important for maintaining a happy and close family, because with our busy lives it is easy to let other outside activities such as sports and work get in the way.

Good Relationship

As unfortunate an event it may be, divorces happen all of the time. In order for you, a divorced parent, to hold a good relationship with your college aged and older children you must never get them in the middle of your divorce. This will push them away for you and your ex-spouse.

Mom And Baby

Look into slings and baby carriers designed for twins. They do exist, and they are fabulous. There is a learning curve for getting two babies into a carrier, but the benefits to mom and baby are enormous. Wearing your babies will allow you to get things done with your hands free, and the twins get the emotional connection and intellectual stimulation from being right with you.

The beginning of the article noted what a joy that pregnancy can be. It is a time of wondrous and amazing changes in your life and in your body. These changes can sometimes be overwhelming. By using this article as a reference point, you can learn more about the changes your body will go through.…