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3 Major Signs of a Problematic Child

There are actually many roots and causes why your child becomes problematic. You may wonder why your child is different from other normal children. You may be worried on what are the actual signs that you can tell your child is problematic. A problematic child may display some other factors that may cause problems, but this article will focus on the behavior problems of your child.

Problematic children can display various behaviors that are not pleasing for everyone. These behaviors may vary from one child to another. Most parents are having problems determining whether their child is having some behavioral problems. There are actually signs to know you have a problematic child. Here are the major signs:

Cheating and stealing – Cheating and stealing are the common behaviors of a problematic child. This behavior may root from various experiences as they are growing. They may have felt some neglect from their family that is why they resort to some attention-seeking behaviors. They try to steal and cheat to grab attention they have been seeking for a long time.

Frequent tantrums – Frequent tantrums are usually manifested by problematic children. They are actually demanding and they want to get what they really want. They become wild when they don’t get what they actually want. This is also one way to seek some attention and they just want to make things go their way. When you experience your child with this kind of behavior, then, your child may be displaying some problems.

Frequent fighting with peers – This is not a normal behavior for most normal children. When you see your child displaying this kind of behavior, you may suspect you are having a problematic child. This mostly happens at school. Your child may engage in some fighting circumstances with no valid reasons. This may be an alarming behavior and needs to be attended to immediately.

When you suspect your child having some behavioral problems, it is best to seek help immediately and don’t allow the situation to worsen. It is at this time that your child needs the most attention from you. Problematic children are easy to handle once you do the proper management. Save your child from this!…

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Understanding Parenting Orders in Family Law

It is no secret that divorces are ugly, especially when there are minor children involved. As a parent, your responsibility towards your child does not end simply because you did not get along with your partner. According to Australian family law, your responsibility as a parent continues till your children are of legal age, unless the court has ordered otherwise due to certain circumstances.
In most cases, the parents are able to reach an agreement. Family law in Australia also places a heavy emphasis on such agreements where both parents are involved in making arrangements for the children. Though court proceedings are often resorted to, they are discouraged vehemently by the legal system.
How Can Parents Reach an Agreement?
Australian family law has established special Family Relationship Centers which are located all over the continent. These centers are designed to counsel parents and families, and provide them with all the information about their relationship as well as separation. These centers also help the parents reach agreements regarding their children after separation. In addition to Family Relationship Centers, the courts have also established ?�ƒ?�A�€˜pre-action procedures?�ƒ?�A�€™, which are a set of steps that the parents have to comply with before they can take the child custody matter to court. It is important for the parents to have a certificate from a Family Dispute Resolution practitioner, stating that genuine efforts have been made to resolve the family issues before taking the matter to court.
What if an Agreement Cannot be Reached?
Often, parents are not able to agree on the matter of their children. In such a case, they can apply to the family courts. The family courts, in turn, determine which parent is responsible for what and create legal orders accordingly. These orders are known as the parenting orders. There are four different kinds of parenting orders according to Australian family law. These are the orders for parent responsibility and decision making, living arrangements and custody, communication and spending time with the parent with which the child does not live and child maintenance and support. Anyone concerned with the welfare of the child can approach the court to obtain such orders.
What Should You Do?
It is best if both the parents can agree on the care and support of the child. Such mutual agreements are more amicable, cheaper and better for the children. However, there are always cases where a lot of bitterness is involved and the parents are not able to reach mutual agreements. In such cases, it is best to talk to a family lawyer and discuss the way forward.…

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Celebrating Father’s Day – Lessons From Dad Are Important!

I love that we celebrate fathers passed and present. I lost my dad more than 20 years ago yet I think of him and cherish with gratitude the life lessons he taught me. Some lessons I learned long after he passed. Why? Because I wasn’t wise enough in my younger years to get the lesson. Reflection is good. Think about your dad, what he represents, what he stands for, what he taught you by his actions, his words and how he showed up each day in your home.
Here are 6 things dad’s can do that will leave a lasting and positive impact on the lives of their children:
1. Teach your children the importance of play. Turn off the TV. Spend time with your kids having fun. Play evokes fun and laughter, which have enormous benefits. Play not only makes us feel good, it’s good for us because it brings balance to all components of the immune system. Studies show that play is at the core of creativity and innovation. A success skill for life. Play shapes the brain, making your children more adaptable and smarter. Play and laughter are the joyful threads that run through a family’s life creating some of the very best memories that bind you together. There is nothing like rekindling those fun and happy cherished memories that make us feel good as time rolls on.
2. Feed your kids with good news, good books, positive people, and positive activities. It affects their mind, their happiness and how they view the world – friendly and happy or hostile and pessimistic. Research shows that happy people have better outcomes in life than pessimists. You can help to enrich and nourish their thoughts and dreams into life by sharing positive experiences of life.
3. Your words are powerful and effect young minds. Be at your best by giving away all the words of encouragement, acknowledgement and motivation that you can at every opportunity. Speaking positive, good words breathes a new sense of life, light, and happiness into your children, as well as creating a deeper sense of your love for them.
4. Speak with optimism. When you are optimistic you create a sense that the world is a friendly place conspiring at every corner to help you. It helps create resilience. You see the best in everything and everyone. You’re children will pick up on your vibe and learn a valuable skill for life. Teach them that “every cloud has a silver lining” so that when adversity, setbacks, failures, and hardship happen, they can turn them into something positive by finding greater meaning in life from them. Optimism gives your children the motivation to continue to persist to find solutions even in the bleakest of situations. Optimism has a way of creating a ripple effect of positive and good energy. Research shows that optimists tend to succeed above others in life and are physically healthier, more productive and do better at work, school and in sports.
5. Act out with gratitude for the smallest of things. It’s a way of cultivating an attitude of appreciation. It teaches your children to learn to count their blessings not other peoples which mass media focuses on, depleting young minds so they feel that they or what they have is not enough. This is not true. Only the practice of gratitude can shift this mindset. Too many walk around sabotaging themselves by believing they are not enough because they never learnt this skill. Teach them to value what they have including what most people take for granted, for example their legs that gets them to and from school and teach them to appreciate everything that others do for them.
6. Teach your children forgiveness. Unforgiveness can be crippling. It is a burden in the mind and heart. Forgiveness is about freeing yourself. Teach your children to free themselves from the hurt and time and energy it takes away from their life. Teach them to learn the lesson, the gift in every situation, for example, if someone presented with a quality that hurt him or her, get him or her to see that the lesson is not to take on that quality in their own life, to learn to do and be better. Forgive the person, learn the lesson, let it go and be free.
So dads strengthen your children for life’s journey ahead, deepen the love between you and leave a great inheritance to your children by teaching them valuable life lessons just like my dad did. Happy Father’s Day!…

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Happiness – Is That Want You Really Want?

It seems we human beings are more motivated to move away from pain than we are motivated to move towards pleasure. How often do you experience the kind of happiness that you seek. What level of happiness is it? What does that feel like? Can you describe this type of happiness in detail? When you do feel this happy, where are you, and who are you with when you feel this way?
If you can begin to answer these types of open questions that provoke your thinking, then you can begin to be able to clearly visualise what type of happiness it is. It makes the goal clear for you. You begin to know exactly what you want to experience. So, you goal could be to have more of that type of happiness on a regular basis. Right now, you may achieve that type of happiness that you want, weekly. Why not every hour!
The way to start to do that is first accept where you are now. Accept the situation you are in now and the people you mix with daily, and be grateful for that. From this place, you can start to get more enthusiastic about the new level of happiness that you are about to experience more often. Do you have to do something specifically to feel more happy? It is my observation that you do not. In fact, the more you try, the further it can run away from you. Sit down, relax and let it come to you, and it will. When you let all the distractions flow away from you, it leaves plenty of space for the real happiness to flow into your life, to flow through you. It is my experience that this is the type of happiness the purest and is best for me.
It is important that you can take something away after reading this article. Otherwise, what’s the point. Let’s have a quick summary on what you can do now. Firstly, acceptance of what you have right now. Acceptance helps bring you into the present moment. Helps make you focus upon yourself. The type of acceptance that I mean is of where you are, the people in your daily life right now, and your ability to focus on what you can have.
Secondly, find a quiet place for 20 minutes. Try and get to a relaxed state of mind and body. You can do this by slowing your breathing and focusing upon that. Finally, visualise yourself being happy. Recall a time when you felt the type of happiness that you want to experience more often. You do this when you visualise yourself being happy, and just focus upon those feelings that you feel. Give it time and try this exercise each day as you will get better at it.…

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How To Create And Sustain Bonding In a Family Relationship

The family is the basic unit of society. No nation, they say, can be greater than the quality of its families. Family life, which had hitherto been revered, is facing a ferocious corrosive attack from various elements in the evolutionary process of man. Religious people believe it is the handiwork of the devil that the family is under attack these days.
We know that divorce rate is rising rapidly worldwide. In addition, delinquency among children is becoming the norm rather than the exception. There are no easy answers available. The inspiration and call for family activities that would grow bonding in the family is one way to assist in this effort.
Most people, when they look into the eyes of their spouse on their deathbed, realize that it is their marriage, the primary relationship in their life, which is eternally meaningful. Too many people realize in those parting moments that they should have done things differently. Intrinsically, we all know what is really important. However, we forget and get distracted.
The following activities were collected from a survey and have been found to be helpful:
• Taking Long Walks In The Evening Together: This is a crazily busy world. Some couples are all out there working to make a living. They have to rush out early in the morning and return home in the evening. A couple has reported that they have found taking a long walk in the evening around their neighborhood, holding hands, talking, sharing thoughts and plans about the future has helped them bond, sweeten their relationship and grow their friendship.
• Family Physical Fitness Activity: A couple credits coming together in the evenings to exercise and do other physical fitness activities as having been healing and supportive of growing their relationship. Physical fitness together as family or with spouse creates opportunities for communication, which has in turn enhanced bonding and improved emotional attachment. A couple has credited it with power to arouse sexual attraction as well as providing opportunity for the children to pay attention to what their parents are saying. Exercising as a family is a great way to stay in shape and spend time with the kids.
• Family Prayer: A family that prays together stays together. Several couples contributed this point. They have found out that doing everything they can to have the whole family coming together morning and night for family prayers and sometimes scripture study has helped them to see things the same light. This, they note, has helped in building up their connectedness.
• Family Home Evening: This is an evening in a week set aside for the family to come together to learn and to play. Family Home Evening is a program of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints which members believe is revealed to modern day prophets to support families in these trying times. The latter-day saints hold their program every Monday evening. The program of activities in a typical evening include singing, dancing, studying the scriptures, sports, cooking, a special meal together. Activities can be indoor or outdoor or both. A tradition of family home evening has greatly enhanced family ties and made our hearts desire the things of eternal life while finding great joy in spite of the challenges of family life.
• Eating Together: In a fast-paced world, this tradition is also fast fading away. However, several couples reported a growing attachment with each other as they assemble at meal tables at least once a day to share their meal. Family members are enjoying it so much that each time one member is not around, he or she is greatly missed.
• Doing Chores Together: Chores are chores. Nobody really likes them. Nevertheless, chores are chores and need to be taken care of. Couples have reported that coming together and taking care of family chores as washing dishes, cooking meals, cleaning up the rooms and compound has created fondness among them. In African societies where chores are seen as a woman’s beat, a number of wives report feeling so tender each time their husbands assist with chores that they are aroused sexually and have ended up obtaining mind blowing sexual intimacy afterwards. Men, if you have been missing getting your wife where you want her, why not try joining her next time out.
• Always Telling Your Family The Truth: A female contributor suggested that telling your family the truth even when it hurts is very helpful to building up bonding in the family. No matter how it hurts at the time, it is usually appreciated afterwards. It creates trust, which is supportive of family unity.
• Keeping The Commandments of God: Parents learning and keeping the commandments of God have been found to keep the family united. The children learn in the …

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8 Guilty Pleasures For Mothers

Now, listen up dads, this article is for you as much as for mums. You see, Mums will need you to step in for her to indulge in these guilty pleasures. I’m here for the mums, so if you’re a harassed dad, I apologise but know that we mums do sympathise with you.

Now, enough for my disclaimer.

As mums, I feel that there’s many pressure put upon me that sometimes I feel I don’t know myself anymore. I’m a driver to ferry my children around from one activity to another. I’m a cook, I’m a nurse, a live-in cleaner, a teacher and of course a wife to support my husband and keep him company. And looking at celebrity mum, I must also look stunning every day. With that, I fail miserably.

If you’re like me and other mums in the world, you probably feel guilty if for just one minute, you indulge yourself. But a number of research found that it’s important for a mother to find time for herself because happy mothers have happy children and happy family.

Before my words get twisted, I don’t suggest that mothers should over indulge themselves, go to the bar every night or shop until they drop and there’s no more money left for the family. That’s over indulgence and just pure irresponsible.

So, here are the 8 guilty pleasures that you can indulge to help you find yourself and without breaking your bank balance.

Lie in bed on Saturday morning until 10:00 AM. Yes, once a week, indulge in this great pleasure of not getting up in the morning to rush and get the kids’ breakfast ready. Allow your husband to do the work, it will give him time to bond with the kids while you get a much needed rest.

Curl up in the sofa with a good book. If you’re feeling totally harassed and fed up, get your husband to look after the kids, find a quite room and curl up with a very good book you’ve been wanting to read.

Have a warm relaxing bath before going to bed. This is very easy to do. Let the husband do a bit of tidying up in the kitchen while you have a good soak in the bath to relieve all your tension.

Get a cleaner. Yes, once a week or every fortnight get someone to do the cleaning for you. Even if this means you have to sacrifice other luxuries, this is one luxury that is worth having.

If your child is not yet at school, send your child to day care at least one day a week even if you are not working. This is one of the best guilt trippers especially for stay at home mums. However, studies also reveal that children who go to day care are often more confident than children who stay at home.

Have your hair done every month even if you think you don’t need it. This is to remind you that you are still a beautiful woman. If you can’t really afford it, why not have a spa day at home. (More on this topic later.)

Get a baby sitter and go out with your husband once a month. This will keep the romance alive between you and your husband. Remember, you are not just parents but you are a couple too.

Get your husband to give you a massage once a week. Not only will this relax you but it will also help bring you closer together.

Now, enjoy!…

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Hints On How You Can Get Your Kids To Be More Fit

Every parent hopes that their parenting experience will always be positive and rewarding. Every parent, however, also faces some challenging times when their experience might feel a little negative. In those times, it is most important to rely on advice from the experts. In this article we will discuss some of that advice, and provide you with some valuable parenting tips.

Do not try to introduce the bottle to a normally breastfeed baby who is hungry. A hungry baby will not understand what the bottle is for and will reject it immediately because he at this point only associates food with the breast. Get the baby used to the bottle when they are not hungry so that they can learn that it provides food as well.

In disciplining your teen, it is important to follow through with your threats. For instance, if you take away television from your teen as a punishment, be sure to follow through with enforcing this. Otherwise, they will see your threats as idle and having no meaning, and you will lose any control over them.

Save yourself a step for the midnight awakenings. You just have to put some diaper ointment inside the diaper before you put her bedtime diaper on her. It will make it so you can skip the step of rubbing the ointment on your baby overnight. This one step will get you back to your bed a bit quicker.

Make taking care of yourself a priority when you have children. Regardless of your schedule or agenda, take a break and relax for a few minutes when you can. Not only will your mood improve, but your kids will appreciate it, too.

Close Family

As a parent one should make sure to set time aside specifically for the family. This is important for maintaining a happy and close family, because with our busy lives it is easy to let other outside activities such as sports and work get in the way.

Good Relationship

As unfortunate an event it may be, divorces happen all of the time. In order for you, a divorced parent, to hold a good relationship with your college aged and older children you must never get them in the middle of your divorce. This will push them away for you and your ex-spouse.

Mom And Baby

Look into slings and baby carriers designed for twins. They do exist, and they are fabulous. There is a learning curve for getting two babies into a carrier, but the benefits to mom and baby are enormous. Wearing your babies will allow you to get things done with your hands free, and the twins get the emotional connection and intellectual stimulation from being right with you.

Parenting is usually very positive and rewarding, but sometimes negative moments can pop up. Those moments make a parent feel frustrated, confused, and like they’ve lost their way. At those times, turning to the advice of experts can help. In this article we have discussed some expert advice, and some valuable tips, that can make the rough patches easier. Turn to these tips whenever you’re facing a little struggle.…