It is a New Year and as 2012 starts we are left wondering how we can improve our lives. In this article I will take a look at how we can improve family life and provide you with tips on how to be a happy family.
If you look around you, you will see that yes some families are happier than others. One way in which you can improve your family life is to take a leaf out of their books and observe the way in which they interact with one another.
Some of the most common behaviors that prevent us from living as a happy family are listed below.
First off you should remember to be a couple as well as parents. Many parents fail to remember that they are still a husband and wife, and fail to be a couple once they have children. It is important for couples to remember that quality time as adults is still needed. It is recommended that mums and dads take time out and spend it together without the distraction from children. It is common knowledge that many unhappy families are a result of the parents neglecting one another, and focusing too much on being a mother or father as opposed to a husband and wife. There needs to be an equal balance between the two. Once the children are in bed mum and dad should dedicate time to one another.
Communication is the key to a happy family. It is crucial that family members talk to each other and make the time to do so. Unhappy families often fail to listen to one another and do not express their feelings. Instead they bottle things up and keep themselves to themselves. A family should always communicate. If a member of the family is withdrawn or upset then it is important to encourage him or her to open up and express their feelings, otherwise it can have an impact on the happiness of the entire family.
Parents should develop and follow family traditions. Having something to look forward to as a family is a great way to bond and therefore create a happy family. These family traditions could be annual holidays, day trips or regular family meals.
Having suggested the above tips, it is also important to point out that successful families need to establish rules, consequences and boundaries. In many unhappy families there are no rules and consequences, so therefore children do not know what is expected of them. They are quick to be punished but rarely praised. It is therefore important to develop a clear picture of what is allowed and not allowed. Parents should clearly state things such as night time curfews in order to avoid conflict.
Through following the tips listed above we can help to establish a happy family, and therefore improve the time that we spend together.