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To Understand Or to Memorize?

To Understand Or to Memorize?

To reduce the need of memorizing a bunch of seemingly arbitrary facts, you should understand how something can work. Memory is a fundamental tool for human learning. It is encouraged for children to develop their skills to memorize even during their toddler years. However, true learning is not only memorized and expresses their ideas with memorization; they should demonstrate the ability to refine their ideas through communication with others.

If you memorize something, you are bound to forget, but if you truly understand something, you will take it to the grave and remember forever. Understanding is alike memory in that you can rehearse the information. However with understanding, you know the information in a way that allows us to use it in different ways. The simplest example is where you have memorized a shape and can see it in your mind, and that’s it. With understanding that shape, you are able to rotate it in your mind and see it from different angles. This is really what separates you from understanding and memorization. You can apply ideas to real life situations or case studies if you truly understand.

Memorization is difficult to apply ideas in real-life situations or case studies. Ideas are just as essential to the learning process as are facts. Ideas are important because they represent how different people observe the world.

And that’s where understanding comes in. If you manage to understand a topic, you can still reconstruct it if you are missing some details. However with memorizing, if you lose some details, you lose everything. If you strive to understand, you can solve problems even when numbers or components are changed.

Memorization is not a pure educational philosophy. Memorization should be applied in such a way as to exclude or trump the teaching of understanding. Both working together are key components to building knowledge. The bottom-line, as I see it, is that memorized knowledge can or likely should be part of your foundation or basic. But, it will only get you to not so far. It’s the ability to really understand something and how it works that will help you solve issues that just aren’t solvable with memorized facts alone.…

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3 Ways to Combat Against Childhood Obesity

3 Ways to Combat Against Childhood Obesity

When I think back to my childhood, I realize that the lack of technology allowed me to grow up at a healthy weight. The school didn’t have any computers until my senior year, and even then all it could do is play blackjack. If we were lucky, we had three channels, and we grew most of what we ate.

That meant that we got a lot more exercise (though we called it “play”), ate a lot of vegetables and didn’t spend a lot of time staring at a screen. If you look at the way we live today, is it any wonder there is a problem with childhood obesity? However, with a little help, it can be prevented and the kids can get to a healthy weight.

1) Educate: First, educate yourself. Find out what you need to do to help your child. You’ll need to study nutrition, how much exercise your child needs on a daily basis. You may want to find out if there are any organized sports in your area that would interest your children. One of your best resources in educating yourself is your child’s pediatrician. He or she can also help you understand what your child’s ideal weight would be for his/her age and body structure.

Once you’ve educated yourself, it’s time to educate the kids. You don’t have to do it in a boring way, if you can make it fun and interesting, you’ll get much better cooperation. Take the kids with you to the supermarket and let them help you pick out fruits and vegetables they actually like. Explain to them that exercise is important, but it doesn’t have to be boring. Also, remember that vigorous play is still exercise.

2) Encourage: If your child is already overweight, he or she is going to need a lot of encouragement. Not only will the child have a poor body image, he or she is likely to be the constant target of schoolyard (and schoolroom) bullying. It’ll take a lot of encouragement to help your child overcome these obstacles, but it is very important. These two problems feed on themselves quite literally, as your child turns to food as a source of comfort.

3) Example: One of my favorite sayings is that “kids will do 80% of what you do right, but 100% of what you do wrong.” If you don’t eat healthy when they aren’t ‘re not likely to do so. If you don’t exercise, they will resist it also. Leading by example is one of the best methods of gently nudging the reluctant child in the right direction.

In case you’re thinking that there is too much fuss over this issue, let me point out what someone in the upper ranks of the military mentioned a short time ago. Childhood obesity is becoming a national security risk. More and more of our young people are rejected by the military because they are not healthy enough to endure it.…

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EMDR – Breaking the Cycle of Abuse – Treating Adult Victims of Childhood Abuse

EMDR – Breaking the Cycle of Abuse – Treating Adult Victims of Childhood Abuse

As children, we are innocent. We have no power and are therefore, unable to protect ourselves. We look to our caregivers to nurture, care for, guide and teach us about the world. Unfortunately, due to their own issues and problems, many parents and caregivers are adequate custodians but they are not always able to provide all the best parenting. Then there are those parents who are abusive to their children or are unable to protect their children from abuse.

In any case, most of us come out of childhood with some hurts, but other children experience more than hurts. They are left with deep wounds and scars that affect their ability to trust, relate, engage and function in the adult world. Verbal abuse, neglect, physical abuse, emotional/mental abuse and sexual abuse come in many different forms, and these assaults on the child may result in adults who experience symptoms of depression and anxiety, or PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder).

The extent, the frequency, the severity, and the longevity of the abuse all affect how and to what extent an individual may be affected by childhood abuse. The stress of living with, denying and trying to overcome causes different reactions in different people.

In his book, “When the Body Says No”, Dr. Gabor Mate draws on a wide range of scientific research, to illuminate the interplay between the body’s emotional, nervous, hormonal and immune systems. He shows how people whose lives are marked by suppressed emotions and excessive, unacknowledged stress, especially the buried stresses we all carry from our early childhoods, can become physically and mentally ill. Dr. Mat explains the importance of assessing and treating not only the body but the mind.

This mind/body connection is essential to EMDR treatment and especially the treatment of early childhood traumas such as physical and sexual abuse. EMDR essentially “targets” childhood traumas and disturbing events, and uses all the five senses to “activate” and reprocess the disturbing and traumatic thoughts, feelings, body sensations and memories.

Although it is sometimes difficult to comprehend how our present-day problems and issues are rooted in our childhood hurts, my experience has been that the connections begin to present themselves during the therapy. With EMDR, there is a connecting of the dots, so to speak, and sometimes the “capturing” of those hidden stresses. Once these hidden stresses are remembered, they can be processed and released. This allows for a natural “letting go” process to occur. Once we begin this healing of childhood wounds, there is rapid emotional and psychological growth, acceptance and peace of mind.

If more adults would take the time to deal with and resolve their own childhood traumas, more children would grow into their full potential… and fewer parents would have painful regrets.

Eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) is a form of psychotherapy that was developed to resolve symptoms resulting from disturbing and unresolved life experiences. It uses a structured approach to address past, present, and future aspects of disturbing memories.

The theory underlying EMDR treatment is that it works by helping the sufferer process distressing memories more fully which reduces the distress. It is an integrative therapy, synthesizing elements of many traditional psychological orientations, such as psycho-dynamic, cognitive behavioral, experiential, physiological, and interpersonal therapies.…

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How to Know If Your Kid is Really Smart

This is a question very common to parents, grandparents and even to aunt’s and uncle’s. So how would you really know if your kid or grandson/granddaughter or nice/nephew is really smart?

Determining if the child is smart is quite hard in the first one year and below since he/she can’t talk that well or express himself strongly, but as he/she grows you would know if he is really smart by observing the following signs…

Starts to reason out every time you correct him/her

Ask a lot of question and sometimes, his/her questions are something you can’t answer

Observes everything in his/her surroundings

Imitates you or whoever that he/she thinks is doing something cool or different

Loves to learn, you would find him/her asking you to teach him how to do something such as; read, write or spell

When you try to ask him/her a question you would find his/her answers pretty amazing and you would end up wondering where he/she got it

Understands your instructions and will never whine in front of other people

Always wants to take the lead and be ahead of other kids but also knows how to give way

You would see him/her educating other kids if that kid did something not really nice

Does what he/she is told but you would always see him/her doing something out of curiosity

Now these are just one of the many signs you can see from a smart kid, now let me just inform you that kids who are really bright tend to be really persistent on asking questions and would not stop until you give them an answer that will satisfy them. In this situation it pays to be extra patient and though they are getting into your nerves just think of the brighter side that you have a gifted child.…

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Spend Time Together and Build a Healthy Happy Family

The essence of a healthy happy family is in how they treat each other. This means that for them to spend time together as a family does not need to be expensive or a catastrophic event of any proportions at all. It is in the simple activities, these which we often take for granted, that we can connect with one another again. Try these timeless activities to rediscover your family and build a healthy happy family.
Build a healthy family by eating together. Families that eat together, stay together. By sharing a meal you create a time to relax, interact and enjoy your family’s presence. Include all family members in the process of preparing meals as well, and to set the table and to clean up afterwards. If this proves to be impossible, then find a different time to gather, instead of dinner make time for a late light dessert at a later time in the evening. At times we put so much emphasis on the preparation of the meal and the cleaning up afterwards, that the actual meal time is completely neglected. To prepare meals in advance are a good way to ease the evening scramble and to help keep the focus on family time. If the budget allows take the entire family out to dinner at least once a month, and let someone else worry about the cooking and cleaning so the entire family can sit back and relax and enjoy the evening and the meal. Dinner time is a perfect time to build a healthy happy family.
Families who sit and eat together tend to have lasting positive effects on children. It also has the ability to have children participate in conversation, to listen attentively, and to have patience and good manners. These qualities can be reinforced by members that are waiting for everyone to be served before eating and remaining at the table until everyone is through eating. Meal time is a fun time, and parents should be in a good mood and not let they day’s issues and stresses weigh down meal time. A meal time spend with the entire family, is quality time that the family spends together, and this helps to build a healthy family.
Play together, families that play together stay together. Just like eating together does, playing games together also brings the family closer together in an interactive and fun setting. For this you can use board games, guessing games, or even helping your children to color in or play with their toys. It may not be your idea of having fun, but the time spend with the family and the children are precious to them, and well worth it. And if your family is more of an adventurous one, then organize family outings and activities such as camping, bushwalking and outdoor games to play. Quality family time that is spend together playing is time invested to build a healthy happy family.
Walk as a family together to build a healthy family. By participating in sport is a good way for the family to spend time together and to also keep fit while you are at it. Walking is a simple and inexpensive sport, and a great way to get some exercise, that the entire family can and will enjoy. Incorporate walking together into your daily routine by walking the children to school or by taking a walk around the block just for the fun of it. Expand the range of the family walks by trying nature trails in parks, and by taking trips to interesting locations.
Use the power of ritual. In the context of the family rituals can be very meaningful, though rituals may seem rigid at times. They bring family members together because they are repeated over and over again over time. A healthy happy family has meaningful rituals and is not stressed out by them at all. Such a ritual could be taking walks, playing tennis on a Saturday or just going on a family outing every weekend. Find some ritual that every family member can enjoy.
Some points to remember when you build a healthy happy family are to make sure to make time for your family. No person ever lay on their death bed and wished that they spend more time at work. Make all family activities fun, not formal. And be creative with whatever you as a family do together. It is not the money that brings a family together, it is your ideas and creative activities and the time spend together that would build a healthy happy family.
Never ever should we forget that a healthy happy family is the most important unit in society, it is worth our time.…

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Obesity: A Real Health Concern That We Need To Consider

Obesity: A Real Health Concern That We Need To Consider

How many times have you heard somebody say complacently, “you know that I cannot help being fat, because it is in the genes!” as he tucks in a huge platter full of french fries and fried chicken, washed down with beer. Well, obesity is definitely a real health concern that we need to consider right now. Obesity is an epidemic which can be controlled. Some people are under the impression that just because their parents were fat and they are fat, they are going to gain more weight even if they eat a healthy diet.

So the excuse that you are genetically predisposed to obesity and that is why, you have full leeway to eat junk, because what is bred in the bone is going to come out in the flesh or spirit, is nonsense. There is absolutely no reason why your child should be considered obese when you can control this health condition and state with a little bit of responsible action on your part.

Firstly, parents with obese children need to take the responsibility of that particular state on themselves. They cannot act like ostriches and say defensively, “well, I have been feeding him a healthy diet four times a day. He is allowed to eat whatever he wants, and he is getting his proteins and carbohydrates from chicken and potatoes, is not he? What more do you expect from me?”

Well, one expects more, a lot more, especially if the child has grown all obese due to the negligence of the parents. Yes, negligence. Feeding a child because he needs fattening up to show your love and affection for him and not making certain about what you are feeding him is the easiest way in which you can destroy a state of good health. Grandparents, unfortunately have a tendency of doing that because they consider their grandchildren not well-nourished enough! A child need spoiling is another excuse which they are going to use, to feed children fatty foods, foods high in sugar content, and other such food items, which you definitely cannot count in the healthy food category.

So remember that proper nutrition and a proper diet along with an active lifestyle is going to keep your child fit and healthy, instead of making it look like an obese porcupine. A fat child is not cute; any mental attitude which says that a well covered child is healthy and strong needs to be changed immediately. In the same manner, the idea that he is going to lose his puppy fat when he grows up and children look good if they are chubby needs to be reconsidered right now.

If a child grows up to be obese, there is a chance that he is going to be an obese adult. He is also going to suffer from a number of diseases like diabetes, stomach problems, blood pressure problems, hypertension, and heart problems. He is definitely not going to thank you for feeding him indiscriminately when he was a child and thus being the direct cause of such health problems. So obesity is a real health concern which we need to consider and tackle right away!…

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Be Guided By The 3 Most Effective Parenting Tips

A lot people still believe that there are such things as perfect parents ? a soft-spoken, gentle, loving mother and a hardworking, firmly disciplined father who raise trouble-free, happy children. However, the truth of the matter is that there is no such thing as perfect parents because there are also no such thing as perfect children.

Becoming a parent may be a couple?s ultimate dream. Their hearts may be filled with gladness and joy; however parenting is not all about the good of it. Although, majority of the feeling is rewarding, a good part of it is also hard work. However, if you think that your parenting skills are entirely messed up and would need counseling. You may want to examine and take a closer look at these parenting tips to compare your own values and how you raise your kids.

Actions speak louder than words

Statistics has already proven that parents give more than 2000 compliance requests to their children a day! This is also the main reason why our kids become relatively parent deaf. It is time to ask yourself what action you would do instead of plainly nagging the whole time. For example, if you continuously nag about his dirty sock not placed on the laundry basket, then just wash those who are placed in the basket.

Withdrawal from Conflict

If your child is testing your temper through back talks and continues to be disrespectful to you. Take a deep breath and leave the room Tell him that you don?t listen to these kinds of talks and you will be in the other room just in case he is ready to talk with respect. Do not leave the room with so much anger or the feel of defeat. Let him feel that he is not getting your attention from his silly, useless disrespectful back talks. Subliminally, one of the best parenting tips is merely not showing interest your child?s rudeness.

Be consistent

If ever you had an agreement with your kid not to buy him anything until you get to the toy store, then do so. Don?t give in to his tears, pleads, pouts, or demands. He will learn to wait and respect your decisions if you constantly mean what you say.

It is important to follow these parenting tips because it is also important to instill discipline and respect to your child. One of the best parenting tips amongst all is by motivating your child internally in such a way that he will still feel loved.…