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A Conversation With Dad – The Shock That Rocked My World

When you show up with love in your heart, what is returned to you is pure love.
While I knew this piece of universal wisdom to be true, I never experienced it so profoundly as I did the other day. I flew to Miami to see my aging ailing Father. I have a good, although not very close, relationship with Dad.
My childhood was tumultuous. My parents went through a long drawn out battle of a divorce that left a lot of emotional debris. My father, who was a renowned neuro-psychiatrist went on to make some horrendous decisions in his personal life. His misguided thinking and its outcomes were splattered across the media headlines on more than one occasion. Other bad choices liquidated the wealth he had built up over his lengthy career.
I defined my Dad by these life-altering choices. Taking the lessons I learned with my as I watch his life experience crash and burn, I made different decisions – took different paths – in my own life. What I didn’t know, until the other day, that the greatest gift I would ever get would be from my Dad.
This week my Dad taught me the following:
You do not know what you do not know
The natural human spirit creates life and faces the end of life with grace and dignity.
As long as there is breath in our lungs there are gifts in the lessons that can be learned – we continue to grow.
When you show up with love in your heart, what is returned to you is pure love.
In earlier visits with my Dad I showed up as if I was fulfilling a family obligation. I had my expectations about what the short time we spent together would be like and got exactly what I expected. Year after year. All I did was reaffirm what I thought to be true about my Dad and my relationship with him; Dad was a selfish SOB and he never knew or cared much for me.
This time I knew it might be the last time I would see him while he was still lucid. He’s bedridden and cannot see or hear very well. I prepared his tiny meals and fed him as I would any infant. Sitting at his bedside I decided that I would give him the gift of closure, peace of mind, so that he could let go comfortably. I decided to arrive in a state of love instead of expectation.
I wasn’t prepared for what I experienced. Here was a man who I thought was devoid of emotional tenderness, any interest in who I am as his daughter, and full of himself. Who I experienced was a man stripped of all ego, all parts of him that he used to cope with his own inner pain, freely expressing his truth. It was the most profound awakening I have ever witnessed. The awakening wasn’t within him. This new perspective came from within me. I woke up to who my Dad really is at his deepest core and it rocked my world.
Dad expressed the lessons he learned, his love for me, my siblings, his wife whom he was once estranged and his love of life. While his Alzheimer’s made it difficult for him to fully communicate what he wanted to say he spoke of his appreciation for life and all that it had to offer.
When his memory failed he would fill in the gaps with a little joke, a rhyme or pieces of an old song that surfaced out of nowhere. I was captivated and engaged as an observer and witness to the joy and delight that is my father. My time with him flew by and I longed for more. I kissed him goodbye when I left.
The flight home was tearful as I felt a wave of stuck toxic energy within me release itself. The resulting hole in my inner being was filled with love and appreciation for the resiliency, enormous power and inner wisdom that is the human spirit. I am grateful that I had learned enough of my own lessons to get out of my own way so that I could experience what I never thought know and love and be loved for who I am for and by my Dad.
I was completely wrong about who I thought my Dad was. His actions were always well intended yet his choices of execution were woefully misguided through his own Inner Critic, his own pain. Dad is a man filled with love for his children and his purpose in life, to heal others in pain. He never gave up his quest to become the man his heart longed to express. I was blessed to be a witness as he revealed …

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Build a Healthy Happy Family With Love That Makes the World Go Round

Robert Browning said, “Take away love, and our earth is a tomb”. Love changes everything, call it what you will, tender, passionate, warm personal attachment, deep affection, sexual passion, or desire. Love makes life meaningful for us, and love improves our quality of life and our general health and well being. Build a healthy family with love, as research have shown that unmarried people are being outlived by married people. Lower cancer rates are found in married people, and they are also more unlikely to suffer pneumonia than single people do. It also holds true that ovarian cancer patients with happy and gratifying relationships develop more white blood cells, which are desirable in killing cancerous cells. Happily married woman also have a much lower risk of developing cardiovascular disease than those in stressful and troublesome relationships. With love we can build a healthy happy family, and it gives us all the more reason to get involved in those loving feelings amongst each other.
Over time words tend to lose their meaning, and often do little to show the depth of your feelings. But if you constantly reinforce those worlds with small loving gestures, that special person will be subtly reminded of how much you love them every day.
In almost every success story you come across, you are bound to hear that without the support of family or friends, they would have struggled to reach their goals, or even may not have reached their goals at all. That is how important a family support system is, family love amongst one another, therefore it is crucial to build a healthy happy family. Family plays a vital role in anyone’s success with anything.
There is nothing like the support of a loving family. It is very important for your friends and family to understand and support you. Your goal achieving program will run smoothly when everyone around you is sensitive to your needs. Family support will do all of you a world of good.
Your family plays an integral role in your success with any goal. Family should be a close knit unit, and should always be there for each other not matter what. To build a healthy happy family should be a way of life, a long term goal. Be brave, give it a try, build a healthy family, I guarantee you will never regret it. Start today, do it today. Give yourself and your family a new lease on life, and be proud of each other’s accomplishments. Love your family, and love each other and build a healthy family.…

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Top Tips For Parenting In The Modern World

Some parenting problems can be as old as the hills and some can be new, uncharted territory, but no matter what kind of parenting situations are causing you stress, these tips can help you get through them with confidence. New or old problems, the sound advice in this article can jump start your parenting skills.

As unfortunate an event it may be, divorces happen all of the time. In order for you, a divorced parent, to hold a good relationship with your college aged and older children you must never get them in the middle of your divorce. This will push them away for you and your ex-spouse.

Feel free to breastfeed your baby for comfort. Many believe that breastfeeding for comfort will make the baby associate food with emotional comfort. Offering the breast actually encourages your baby to turn to you instead of things for support. The breastfeeding is just one component of the bond that helps your baby feel better. This will provide crucial emotional security and stability as they develop.

Use your smart phone as a baby monitor. If you are visiting someone’s home or you are on vacation and do not have your monitor, you can download an application that will let your phone function as a monitor. If the baby makes a noise, your phone will call a number that you put into the application.

A key parenting tip is to become active in your child’s school environment and activities. Becoming acquainted with the instructional staff and their curriculum goals can greatly help your child fulfill their true potential. This will enable you to work alongside your son or daughter and assist them when needed.

Make sure you have your child’s password for any social media sites so you can easily monitor on-line activities. Whether you ever log on to their account or not, knowing you can encourages your child to be more responsible with the information or photographs shared and their interactions with others.

Close Family

As a parent one should make sure to set time aside specifically for the family. This is important for maintaining a happy and close family, because with our busy lives it is easy to let other outside activities such as sports and work get in the way.

Good Relationship

As unfortunate an event it may be, divorces happen all of the time. In order for you, a divorced parent, to hold a good relationship with your college aged and older children you must never get them in the middle of your divorce. This will push them away for you and your ex-spouse.

Mom And Baby

Look into slings and baby carriers designed for twins. They do exist, and they are fabulous. There is a learning curve for getting two babies into a carrier, but the benefits to mom and baby are enormous. Wearing your babies will allow you to get things done with your hands free, and the twins get the emotional connection and intellectual stimulation from being right with you.

The tips in this article are just what you need to make sure you handle any situation that you come up against as a parent. There is no need to be stressed about your parenting skills. Using this advice is the best thing you can do to solve your parenting problems now.…