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How To Create And Sustain Bonding In a Family Relationship

The family is the basic unit of society. No nation, they say, can be greater than the quality of its families. Family life, which had hitherto been revered, is facing a ferocious corrosive attack from various elements in the evolutionary process of man. Religious people believe it is the handiwork of the devil that the family is under attack these days.
We know that divorce rate is rising rapidly worldwide. In addition, delinquency among children is becoming the norm rather than the exception. There are no easy answers available. The inspiration and call for family activities that would grow bonding in the family is one way to assist in this effort.
Most people, when they look into the eyes of their spouse on their deathbed, realize that it is their marriage, the primary relationship in their life, which is eternally meaningful. Too many people realize in those parting moments that they should have done things differently. Intrinsically, we all know what is really important. However, we forget and get distracted.
The following activities were collected from a survey and have been found to be helpful:
• Taking Long Walks In The Evening Together: This is a crazily busy world. Some couples are all out there working to make a living. They have to rush out early in the morning and return home in the evening. A couple has reported that they have found taking a long walk in the evening around their neighborhood, holding hands, talking, sharing thoughts and plans about the future has helped them bond, sweeten their relationship and grow their friendship.
• Family Physical Fitness Activity: A couple credits coming together in the evenings to exercise and do other physical fitness activities as having been healing and supportive of growing their relationship. Physical fitness together as family or with spouse creates opportunities for communication, which has in turn enhanced bonding and improved emotional attachment. A couple has credited it with power to arouse sexual attraction as well as providing opportunity for the children to pay attention to what their parents are saying. Exercising as a family is a great way to stay in shape and spend time with the kids.
• Family Prayer: A family that prays together stays together. Several couples contributed this point. They have found out that doing everything they can to have the whole family coming together morning and night for family prayers and sometimes scripture study has helped them to see things the same light. This, they note, has helped in building up their connectedness.
• Family Home Evening: This is an evening in a week set aside for the family to come together to learn and to play. Family Home Evening is a program of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints which members believe is revealed to modern day prophets to support families in these trying times. The latter-day saints hold their program every Monday evening. The program of activities in a typical evening include singing, dancing, studying the scriptures, sports, cooking, a special meal together. Activities can be indoor or outdoor or both. A tradition of family home evening has greatly enhanced family ties and made our hearts desire the things of eternal life while finding great joy in spite of the challenges of family life.
• Eating Together: In a fast-paced world, this tradition is also fast fading away. However, several couples reported a growing attachment with each other as they assemble at meal tables at least once a day to share their meal. Family members are enjoying it so much that each time one member is not around, he or she is greatly missed.
• Doing Chores Together: Chores are chores. Nobody really likes them. Nevertheless, chores are chores and need to be taken care of. Couples have reported that coming together and taking care of family chores as washing dishes, cooking meals, cleaning up the rooms and compound has created fondness among them. In African societies where chores are seen as a woman’s beat, a number of wives report feeling so tender each time their husbands assist with chores that they are aroused sexually and have ended up obtaining mind blowing sexual intimacy afterwards. Men, if you have been missing getting your wife where you want her, why not try joining her next time out.
• Always Telling Your Family The Truth: A female contributor suggested that telling your family the truth even when it hurts is very helpful to building up bonding in the family. No matter how it hurts at the time, it is usually appreciated afterwards. It creates trust, which is supportive of family unity.
• Keeping The Commandments of God: Parents learning and keeping the commandments of God have been found to keep the family united. The children learn in the …

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Establishing a Loving Relationship With Your Baby

Your newborn baby will just love to be touched, picked up, held and cuddled. It is also important to talk, laugh and sing to your new child in order for them to recognize your voice. In fact, your baby will have been listening to your voice while even in the womb.
Around 10-12 weeks, your baby will respond by smiling for the first time. This is very rewarding for you and the father. It’s all about letting the baby know that he or she is loved and that you are there for them.
Bonding and attachment are normally instinctive, but sometimes your inability to cope with stress can be picked up by your baby and begin a vicious circle. It’s essential that you can learn ways to relax.
When your baby cries, it is not always food that it wants. In fact, your baby has no other means of communication apart from crying for attention. Some mothers instantly “shove” a bottle of milk or a teat into their baby’s mouth to stop it crying. Unfortunately, if your baby is crying because it has wind or colic, this can make it worse. Your baby may cry because of a wet or dirty diaper or just to know that you are there. Clearly, a pick-up and cuddle will suffice.
After a while, you will be able to tell the difference between a “pain” cry, a “hungry” cry, or just an “attention-seeking” cry. Then you can respond accordingly and try not to let the baby sense any agitation.
Cuddling, talking, and singing, humming and making your baby laugh by repetition are all ways of establishing the beginnings of a loving relationship. Many parents read simple repetitive stories over and over again, which help to develop this relationship.
Try not to leave your baby in an uncomfortable position with wet or dirty diapers for too long. Both you and the baby’s father need to help develop loving relationships so that the father needs to change diapers, hold and cuddle his child and talk as well.
Reading or reciting nursery rhymes is helpful for your child’s development. The sound of your voice, your tone and facial expressions all help with the bonding. Playing games like hide and seek, peek-a-boo and anything that’s fun all help in establishing a loving relationship.
A loving relationship is what makes a child’s life happy and secure, and will go far in establishing a permanent and loving family relationship into adulthood.
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