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Save Your Marriage Alone – Make Up For Your Mistakes

Are you in the peak of divorce right now? Your world is starting to fall apart. You don’t have time for your wife and kids. There are new projects coming and you have to stay late at night in your office just to finish your work. You are thinking that after the project that you have made you would be able to bring your family into a grand vacation. What you didn’t know is that Right now you might have realize that money would not save marriage alone, that having a bog house and expensive car will not make your marriage.
your wife and kids are starting to hate you. Their father will leave early and will come back late at night. His phone is always busy. If you are inviting your daddy to have a walk at the park, he always refuses because he is saying that are important things that he has to finish.
Then the marriage is hanging on a thread. And you are asking yourself what would be the thing that you could have done in order to save the marriage. Right now you might have realize that money would not save marriage alone, that having a big house and expensive car will not make your marriage last for a lifetime, that having a grand vacation will not make them truly happy. What they needed is not money or any things- but you. They want to spend time with you. They don’t care whether you’ll go to an expensive resort or just at the park, what matters is that you are with them.
If you want to the save marriage alone what you can do is to prove to them that you are willing to change. You can win them back by spending ample time for them. You have to make them see that they are far more important than your work. Of course, the thing that you are spending most of your time would be your highest priority. If you are spending 14hours in your work per day and just 2 hours for your family, then you love your work more than your family.
To save marriage alone would be willing to make up for the wrong things that you have done. You already know what you did wrong. It is important that you are able to accept the fact that you did a mistake. You have to tell them that you accept your wrongdoing, and you are asking for a chance to patch it up. It would be hard at first especially to build up the trust again, because if the trust gets broken, it is not something that can easily be put back from the way it were before, You have to earn for it.
Once and for all, you have to prove to them that you are sincere to them. What you can do is to lessen your time in your work. Do not accept projects that would be eating too much of your time. You can accept projects that would just be enough to support your family. Ordinary house would be okay to them, as long as they will feel comfortable. What is important inside the house is that love, respect. Trust and understanding is there. These are the essential things that you have to remember to save your marriage and have a lifelong relationship with your wife or husband.…

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5 Tips for A Happy Marriage

I have been blessed to grow up in a happy family. My parents are now married for over 40 years. When I got married, I determined to ensure that I give my children the same gift that my parents gave me. I believe that one of the best gift you can give your child, is a happy and healthy couples today quickly rush to the divorce court, without ever seriously working for the success of their marriage. Marriage like everything else, requires great care and patience. It’s like a garden, you have to work on it every day, patiently removing the weeds, planting good seeds, watering and nourishing it. How is it, that we can tend our garden with so much care, but allow weeds to over run our most cherished possessions – our home.
Here are 5 tips that will help to nourish and bring fulfillment to your marriage:
1. TRUST: You must learn to trust your spouse. I found this especially difficult when I newly got married. You see, my wife is really very beautiful, and am quite jealous, so I kept bugging her every time I saw her with another man. Finally I had to learn to trust her or ruin our happiness. As a direct consequence, her own trust in me, also increased.
2. TOLERANCE: You must learn to tolerate. There are bound to be differences in your opinions, behavior, and general conduct. You must not insist that everything must be seen through your eyes. Always have a formula for conflict resolution, and believe me, you will have many conflicts.
3. FORGIVENESS: There is a concept I practice, for lack of a proper name, I will call it ” Advance forgiveness”, When I meet a person that I like, I give him/her an “advance forgiveness”. What this means, is that I believe that one day, this person must offend me in one way or another. So I make up my mind to forgive, even before I have been offended. The best person to give advance forgiveness, is your spouse. Make up your mind to forgive, even before offence comes, because, you will be offended, and you will be hurt. FORGIVE.
4. CARING: Every body knows that one should care for his/her spouse, but how many people actually care? We are too busy with our work, our kids, our Facebook friends, that we actually forget our spouse. We even care more for our boss, than we do for our spouse. Think of your spouse for a change.
5. TIME-OUT: We always talk about quality time, but what we really need to do, is just spend time with our loved ones. Go for Vacations, picnics, travel to Africa, visit that cave or valley nearby. There is something magical about such time-outs, it has a way of revitalizing your relationship.
So, go back and build your home. Wish you luck.…

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I Saved My Marriage Remembering My Parents Divorce

I remember it like it was yesterday. My mom seemed to be in a big hurry, she was crying and throwing things into the trunk of the car. I asked her what was happening but all she said to me was, hurry up, get your little sister and get in, we’re leaving. Where are we going? I asked, but got no answer, she was not in the mood to talk. As I was getting my sister in the car, she saw that Mom was crying, so she started to cry as well. I didn’t understand what was happening, but I knew it wasn’t good, and I was afraid.
As we were backing out of the driveway, I saw Dad come to Moms window crying, begging her to please stay, please don’t go, and saying that he was very, very sorry. Mom just rolled up the window and ignored him. I had never seen my Dad cry before and the site of that happening terrified me. Dads don’t cry, even when they’re hurt, so I knew that something horrible had happened but I had no way of understanding what it was.
I didn’t know it at the time but my life changed that day. My parents ended up getting divorced and things like having a mother and a father around all the time never happened again. My sister and I went to live with mom, I don’t really know what Dad did, I don’t remember seeing him come around very often until some years later. Things were tough but we survived and managed to get by, but I know it was difficult for mom raising two children alone. I know she did the best she could but I always wished, and still do, that things could have been different.
Fast-forward twenty plus years, a marriage, and two young children later. I guess I hadn’t learned a damn thing because I found myself in the same position I remember my dad being in, as I flashed back to that fateful day. I was begging my wife to please stay, please don’t end our marriage, can we please try to make it work. And just like it was with my mom, my pleas just fell on deaf ears, she would have none of it. My wife and I were on our way towards divorce, and I felt helpless in trying to stop it.
I suppose I did learn something from my parent’s situation, and that was how I felt as a child going through a divorce. How much I missed my dad, how much I wished we were a family again. I wouldn’t wish it on anyone, let alone my own children. I didn’t want them to feel what I had felt, and how hard it was. There had to be something I could do, but what? I didn’t know anything about how to approach my predicament but I sure as hell was going to try.
It took everything I could muster; I stumbled many times and sometimes even thought it couldn’t be done. But I had to continue; I loved her and our kids so much that I had to make it work. I had to start all over again. I had to take her back to the time before we knew each other. I had to meet her again for the first time. I had to show her that I cared for her and wanted to be friends again. I asked her out on dates and courted her again. I showed her that I was 100% committed to her and our family and that she could trust and rely on me again. This process of starting over took time, but as the trust and caring between us grew we were drawn to each other again. The passion that we lost for each other reappeared, and we fell in love again. Yes it took time, but it was well worth it. You see, we are now a happy family again; dad, mom, two beautiful children and we plan on keeping it that way.…

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How to Save a Marriage

Psychological incapacity, physical abuse, incompatibility, lack of communication, lack of time for each other, and financial constraints. These are among the problems encountered in relationships, that’s why there are lots of broken marriages. It seems hard to solve these problems but I tell you, there’s one thing you can do to take away the burden of getting answers to the question: how to save a marriage.
God. He knows everything, even how you can start solving the problem in your marriage. It may be hard to deal with the marriage problem but you can always pray that God will enable you to change things for the better. You cannot change all things but God can. Apparently, you cannot change your partner neither yourself. You need to surrender it all to God and start listening to His instructions. It is not about your plan, it is about what He wants for you. He knows best.
It going to be too hard to fix a broken marriage when you both need to change things in yourselves, but only God can change everything. Do not expect that He will always do what you want because He has a great plan even for your marriage. Know what He wants and what He says about your situation by reading His word.
As you wait on God, learn how to listen to His instructions. Some things may be hard, but that’s the way it goes. You need to be strong. You cannot easily have gold for it needs to go through the process of extensive heating, melting, and evaporating. If you desire to save your marriage and your partner is not cooperative, don’t lose hope. God will make a way, when there seems to be no way. He has a perfect solution on how to save a marriage.
God may lead you to examine what is wrong with your marriage. It is always important that you speak to your partner as soon as possible but never force him/her. Wait upon God. Meanwhile, if he/she is not available to talk, you can try doing things that will please him/her.
It may take a lot of sacrifices to win your partner’s heart again but it is possible that your spouse will come to realize that the marriage should have to work out. In God’s time, you will just see that it is not just you alone who is making things work out. It will be a partnership between you, your spouse, and God.
Face changes with not turning back. You need to make sure that you have been renewed genuinely and be brave enough to take the challenge to keep the long-term changes. All these will be seen by your spouse for sure, and it may drive him/her to face changes as well.
The problem in how to save a marriage is not hard at all. What is difficult is surrendering it all to Him. Once you have less of you and more of God, you will see that His control is perfect. He has great plans for you and your spouse. God is good.…

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Marriage and Family Tips: Financial Involvement on Both Sides

In wedlock, there is usually one person who is responsible for managing the finances of the family: paying bills, savings accounts, budgeting, etc. Often, the other spouse even does not know very much about the financial state of their family. As long as he or she can shop as usual, there would seem to be no problem. However, this approach can backfire especially if some problems arise in the family’s finances. Blaming the problems on one party would not be fair. For better money management and family bonding, involvement of both the husband and wife is important. Here are some tips you can do to get your spouse involved in your family’s money management.
1. Hold regular financial meetings – Discuss your spending and saving activities with your spouse regularly. Once a week is an ideal periodic schedule. During the meeting, you both will review the budget, consider new purchases, expenditures and income, and adjust them to suit the balance report.
2. Decide the budget together – Once a month, it is important to agree on the family’s budget together. Generally, a family will have a fixed budget that is more or less the same every month. However, you or your spouse may have certain unusual needs he or she would like to plan to do in the next month. Taking input from both sides in this case is central for making financial decisions for your family.
3. Take turns in paying bills – If previously your husband or wife is the only one who handles the bill paying, sharing the responsibility is very beneficial. You can do it by taking turns paying the bills once in a month (e.g. you pay the bills this month, your spouse does then the next month) or you can delegate your spouse to pay some of the bills while you do the others, thus splitting the task.
4. Let your spouse manage some area of the budget – Although working together, one spouse will still be a “leader” in the family’s management. This means that he or she will have a larger responsibility in managing the budget. Sharing the burden won’t hurt at all. Let your spouse entirely manage one or more of the budget categories.
5. Be transparent in using financial software – Often, a husband or a wife use specific software to record the family’s financial records such as savings, spending, and budgeting. Sharing the password will permit the other spouse to log into the account and the resulting transparency is significant. Not only can he or she learn about the family’s financials, he or she can also determine the budget for the family.…

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Save the Sweetest Kiss – Learn How to Save a Marriage

Can you remember the days when you and your partner are having that firing emotions of love and happiness deep in your hearts as you would deal with each other? Or can you still remember the exciting feeling whenever you would hold each other’s arms? Or do you still remember the sweet smell of the day’s perfume as you exchange vows until death do you part in the holy matrimony? I believe you have that sweetest feeling as happiness and thrills would manifest inside you that time. Who could blame both you for that?
Taking the first step for you and your true love to live a life together for a lifetime would really give you that unexplained feeling, yet best of what you had. So what’s up with your decision of considering divorce? Naturally, you would encounter different problems and circumstances along the way with your partner, but that shouldn’t affect the promises you’ve made with each other. Marriage is supposed to be a lifetime commitment and is obviously not one of those jokes which you could play around. In here, you and your spouse’s feelings are involved making everything complicated and, worse, difficult to work on. But though that would be the case, there would still be ways on how to save a marriage. So better don’t give up too easily, grab each other’s hands and try not to let go of it, as you do everything for your relationship to work still.
Here are some of the tips which both of you could take the opportunity of trying. Working on how to save a marriage is better than doing nothing at all. Just make sure to give your best forward for it or else you might find yourself losing the things you could do for a second chance.
o Try to think of some moment which you can spend time together. Give you focus on it and let go of the things that could possibly hinder you of doing it. Turn of your televisions, cell phones, or even your instant messenger, as you sit and spend time together. Listening to each other’s feelings is great, because in that way, you could understand each other and through that you’re relationship would become mature.
o Put your feelings through letters. Though there would be other ways on how to express your feelings, I still consider writing letters as one of the sweetest. Because of the fact that it is really one of the classical ways of expression of love, not a single thing could erase that address to it. So why not try the manner and see for yourself how effective it is.
o Don’t forget to have at least one date per week. Usually, couples would be very comfortable with each other that they tend not to dress up beautifully for their partners. With this date on scheduled, it would be like a glitter on top of your partnership life. Without any choice, both of you should dress up properly for this event and with that, sparks of love for each other will surely illuminate.
Though it is often said that doing ways on how to save a marriage would really take a lot of time, effort and money, once you’ve become successful on it, everything is assured to be worth it as you and your spouse would be sharing the sweetest of your kisses once again.…