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A Happy Mom Is A Happy Family

Moms are so much more powerful than they realize. How they are feeling on a particular day can have significant effects on the entire family. A Mom can and does influence so many things in her environment. And that can affect how she feels, and in turn how the other family members feel.
When she is feeling good, happy, relaxed so are her kids. They have more energy, laugh more and get along better. On the other hand, if she is feeling frustrated or bogged down by all the things going on, the kids seemed to know that, and they argued more, were hard to keep busy and were less focused.
What Mother hasn’t felt at her wits end with her kids? The colicky baby who won’t stop crying, the kids who won’t stop arguing, the lack of time she has to herself and the limited adult interaction. She’ll call a girlfriend or her own mother to talk for a few peaceful minutes to vent or to get advice. She will put the kids’ favorite movie on so they’re occupied and we can have a few minutes to ourselves. It would never fail, after a few minutes into a conversation the kids will start to call for Mom. They need to ask a question or they need a referee because, “he hit me,” or they want some juice. On it goes when a few minutes ago, they were fine. We try to appease them, even leave the room or multitask in some manner. When nothing seems to work we hang up feeling irritated and frustrated. Low and behold, all’s well and the arguing stops. It’s as if that big white device in our hand was a signal to start vying for mom’s attention, and in a way, to our children it was. Yet the feeling of frustration lingers for the mom, long after she has hung up and peace is restored. It can affect the rest of the day, and by the time our spouse comes home, she’s more than ready for them to help, even takeover.
It only makes sense then that our thoughts affect our relationships as well. Take this example, with a stay at home mom in mind. Their husbands are off at work, and their kids are off at school, so these moms spend their time doing as much as they can around the house. They will straighten, pick up, put away, clean or whatever needs to be done. If they walk around with negative thoughts, such as; “I am always picking up after everyone else,” and “no one puts anything away,” and “I always have to do everything myself” and “this house is such a mess” and “I never get to do anything I want” and on and on. By the time these people get home, they will be so worked up and upset, that they might yell about it, or want nothing to do with them. Either way it affects the entire rest of the day, for the whole family and in a very negative way. The frustration produces more frustration in others, spreading it around and bringing more of it into the home.
Being a mother and raising a family is one of the, if not the hardest thing a woman will ever do. It would be helpful if kids came with instructions, but they don’t. Therefore, a solid support system is essential for every mother because taking care of your home and your family is hard enough without leaving much room for self care. There are often feelings of frustration, isolation and an inability to do what they want. There are simple and effective things you can do to make all this easier and to feel more like ‘a happy mom.’ I have listed three of those ways below:
1. Schedule me time in to every day. Time for yourself is so critical because moms are called upon to give so much and to sacrifice so much that we need to replenish our energy ‘supply.’ We can be very quick to drop what we are doing for someone else that having ME time scheduled in to our day makes it more likely to happen. It is important for these activities to be quality, things that bring us joy and nurture our spirit.
Treat this time like a doctor’s appointment, one that you wouldn’t cancel on a whim. It is okay to say that you are busy or that you have other plans when others make requests during this time. I would also like to promote that moms don’t feel guilty for taking time for themselves either. You need to be cared for and nurtured in order to fully care for others, and feel good about it.
2. Connect with friends every day …

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5 Common Habits of Happy Families

What makes some families more happy than others? The short answer is they are aware of doing things that make them happy. They have probably taken the time to explore what they like to do, what makes the members of the family happy and importantly make the time to do those things more regularly than the things that they don’t particularly enjoy.
It sounds simple and it is. It is about not being lazy! People who are happy are more aware!
Aware of what you may ask, and that’s a great question. Individuals in the family are aware of what they like and actually go out regularly and simply do those things. Most importantly, they do those things together. Hence the saying has arisen that the family that plays together, stays together!
Here are 5 common habits of happy families.
1 Being Grateful for everything in their lives. Having gratitude for the things that they have. Gratitude comes from an awareness of acceptance of what life is offering to each of us at any given moment. If you do not have acceptance in the present moment, than it is more difficult to be grateful. Acceptance and gratitude are the foundations for enthusiasm which brings for the feelings we all desire which is happiness.
2 Acceptance of the consequences of our choices and finding an appropriate level of satisfaction leads to happiness. When you have the habit of acceptance or satisfaction of what happens, you enjoy life more. People who try and “maximse” everything that they engage in are usually to wrung out at the end of the day to enjoy anything. They are never satisfied and are continually chasing their tail, so to speak. Simply limit the number of choices on offer to you is helpful.
3 Focusing on one thing at a time is a habit for happy families. The power to pay attention to what you as a family are wanting is a great habit to engage in because it limits the choices, focusses each family member and everyone can take some ownership of the family experience.
4 Simply being together and hanging out together. Being comfortable with not doing things all the time.
5 Love yourself first and then love your family by spreading the magic of love in each moment. Human beings thrive on close personal relationships. Human beings do not like to be on their own most of the time.
So it is in the understanding and being aware of the things we do regularly as a family unit that offer the level of satisfaction or happiness of being part of a happy family. From here you can live a rich life.…

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Seven Tips To Get You Ready For A Happy Family Vacation

If you are getting ready for a family vacation here are seven tips to make certain that it will be a happy family experience, with as much joy and little stress as possible.
Travel Tip #1: Do your research ahead of time. Have you researched any towns or cities, parks, or points of interest that you may want to explore, either along the way or at your destination. A point of interest depends on your family’s interests. Areas of interest could be related to a sports venue, a natural feature such as waterfall, historical monuments, a facility related to the arts or music such as a museum or performing arts center, or could involve local cuisine or arts and crafts. This research should not fall to one family member, everyone can get involved.
Travel Tip #2: Know the directions for getting to your destination. If you are reaching your destination by plane and need to rent a car, have you packed a GPS or do you have a printout of the directions that will get you from your rental car pickup point to your first destination? If you are driving, have you selected your route and again have a GPS, maps, or a printout of directions.
Travel Tip #3: Prepare your kids ahead of time for the vacation. Let them know what to expect. Find a book from the library which is related to where you are going and read it together. Have your kids draw pictures about what they expect to see on the vacation. Let your kids pack a boredom bag that they can carry with them. It should include items that will keep them occupied and that they find comforting.
Travel Tip #4: Give your kids instructions for what to do if they get separated from you. It’s very important to discuss what you expect your children to do if they get lost. Each child should have a small card that they carry in his or her pocket which includes your destination’s address and phone number and your cell phone number.
Travel Tip #5: Make certain to pack essentials for the trip. These essentials include a first aid kit and water for the trip. Also, if you will be on a plane, pack items such as medications that you can’t be without in your carry-on bag in case your checked luggage takes longer to reach its destination than you do.
Travel Tip #6: Use your packing checklist to make certain that everything is packed. Now is a good time to create a packing checklist for this vacation and all future ones if you haven’t done so already. Such a list ensures that nothing critical gets left behind. Make certain to include sun protection items such as hats, sunglasses, and sun tan lotion.
Travel Tip #7: Pack items to chronicle your vacation. It’s fun to look back on your family vacation and reminisce about all the adventures planned and unexpected. Taking photos, sketching scenes, or writing journal entries will ensure that those memories are preserved.…

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How to Have a Happy Family Holiday With Your Teenage Children

The planning of last year’s family holiday brought me to despair.
The New Year has barely begun when my husband Steven starts planning the upcoming summer holiday. The internet is surfed for hours, plenty of the latest holiday brochures are arriving at the house and Stephen is in heaven.
We are a family of three and our ideas of a happy family holiday could not be different. The only thing we can agree on is a warm holiday in the ‘sunny south.’
Our first task is to find the right accommodation. A hotel is not suitable for my 18 years old daughter Caroline, because breakfast is not served after 11am. A picturesque little cottage in the countryside? This is also a definite no, because spending time with your parents in the middle of nowhere when you are young does not appeal. There are no activities, sports or a night life.
Stephen is happy with a tennis court and a good tennis coach. I would love some time to myself and a golf course nearby.
After several family dramas, we came across this place in the South of France. At first sight this place was not my idea of bliss. More than ten thousand people would stay there during the high season. The good news was that there were more than 16 tennis courts with very good coaches. Stephan was happy. There was a little golf course with wonderful views over the mountains and the sea. I was happy. But most importantly there were five pools, a beautiful beach, several bars and pubs. Now guess who was happy?
We managed to book a cute semi-detached house with the most wonderful sea view. Caroline suddenly decided to bring a friend which made the family complete.
After an early morning tennis lesson, Stephen brought some fresh croissants home and we started the day with a lovely family breakfast. The girls enjoyed their day at the beach or lying by the pool. Stephen and I had a relaxing game of golf and I managed to find some time reading a book in our tiny but very enchanting garden. We all met up in the evening for diner and the girls then enjoyed some time in a bar where they met several other young people of their age, while we sat on the terrace and had some delicious French wine.
This was one of the most relaxing, peaceful and happy holidays we ever had!
Would we do the same thing again? Most definitely, if of course Caroline wants to spend another holiday with us. I bet she will, because after all it is the cheapest holiday she will have and everything she wants is on the door step.
Yes, you can have a happy holiday with teenagers. We definitely had.…

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Tips to Form a Healthy and Happy Family

It is not easy to meet all of the needs within a family. What can make one person happy may not satisfy the other family members. It can be very stressful for trying to meet everyone’s needs. However, there is a lot at stake. Usually, the health of the entire family is generated by parents, but families are dynamic and the balance can be delicate. Over time the needs of young children that usually are in forefront may shift, if the parental relationship particularly is not healthy. All of the members in family are important, so this can be difficult to stay targeted on the health and happiness. At this time, this article is going to give you several tips that will guide you to form a healthy and happy family.
This can be very useful for having family meetings since it presents the opportunity for all of the members for getting their needs met. Besides, it can also offer the opportunity for every family member for talking about what makes them happy.
Moreover, families can change across the development. The developmental stages of the children are clearly delineated as they progress through the life stages, physical changes, and the school grades. Also, parents and relationships go through the developmental stages, even when they are not as evident or clearly delineated.
Furthermore, families operate in the “homeostasis” or the natural balance. Even when the changes occur, the family will try to regain balance naturally. The balance is a familiar way of behaving, whether this is healthy or unhealthy. The family is drawn toward the familiar patterns of relating, and it can take awareness and also a plan for changing the behavior to make the shift in the homeostasis.
The parental communication which is open and respectful will allow for the each adult to disagree yet still parent in the cooperative manner. The key to the happiness and the healthy family is for respectfully behaving toward all of the family members regardless of the age, the role or the position within the family.…

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5 Tips for A Happy Marriage

I have been blessed to grow up in a happy family. My parents are now married for over 40 years. When I got married, I determined to ensure that I give my children the same gift that my parents gave me. I believe that one of the best gift you can give your child, is a happy and healthy couples today quickly rush to the divorce court, without ever seriously working for the success of their marriage. Marriage like everything else, requires great care and patience. It’s like a garden, you have to work on it every day, patiently removing the weeds, planting good seeds, watering and nourishing it. How is it, that we can tend our garden with so much care, but allow weeds to over run our most cherished possessions – our home.
Here are 5 tips that will help to nourish and bring fulfillment to your marriage:
1. TRUST: You must learn to trust your spouse. I found this especially difficult when I newly got married. You see, my wife is really very beautiful, and am quite jealous, so I kept bugging her every time I saw her with another man. Finally I had to learn to trust her or ruin our happiness. As a direct consequence, her own trust in me, also increased.
2. TOLERANCE: You must learn to tolerate. There are bound to be differences in your opinions, behavior, and general conduct. You must not insist that everything must be seen through your eyes. Always have a formula for conflict resolution, and believe me, you will have many conflicts.
3. FORGIVENESS: There is a concept I practice, for lack of a proper name, I will call it ” Advance forgiveness”, When I meet a person that I like, I give him/her an “advance forgiveness”. What this means, is that I believe that one day, this person must offend me in one way or another. So I make up my mind to forgive, even before I have been offended. The best person to give advance forgiveness, is your spouse. Make up your mind to forgive, even before offence comes, because, you will be offended, and you will be hurt. FORGIVE.
4. CARING: Every body knows that one should care for his/her spouse, but how many people actually care? We are too busy with our work, our kids, our Facebook friends, that we actually forget our spouse. We even care more for our boss, than we do for our spouse. Think of your spouse for a change.
5. TIME-OUT: We always talk about quality time, but what we really need to do, is just spend time with our loved ones. Go for Vacations, picnics, travel to Africa, visit that cave or valley nearby. There is something magical about such time-outs, it has a way of revitalizing your relationship.
So, go back and build your home. Wish you luck.…

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Tips To Help Achieve A Happy Family

It is a New Year and as 2012 starts we are left wondering how we can improve our lives. In this article I will take a look at how we can improve family life and provide you with tips on how to be a happy family.
If you look around you, you will see that yes some families are happier than others. One way in which you can improve your family life is to take a leaf out of their books and observe the way in which they interact with one another.
Some of the most common behaviors that prevent us from living as a happy family are listed below.
First off you should remember to be a couple as well as parents. Many parents fail to remember that they are still a husband and wife, and fail to be a couple once they have children. It is important for couples to remember that quality time as adults is still needed. It is recommended that mums and dads take time out and spend it together without the distraction from children. It is common knowledge that many unhappy families are a result of the parents neglecting one another, and focusing too much on being a mother or father as opposed to a husband and wife. There needs to be an equal balance between the two. Once the children are in bed mum and dad should dedicate time to one another.
Communication is the key to a happy family. It is crucial that family members talk to each other and make the time to do so. Unhappy families often fail to listen to one another and do not express their feelings. Instead they bottle things up and keep themselves to themselves. A family should always communicate. If a member of the family is withdrawn or upset then it is important to encourage him or her to open up and express their feelings, otherwise it can have an impact on the happiness of the entire family.
Parents should develop and follow family traditions. Having something to look forward to as a family is a great way to bond and therefore create a happy family. These family traditions could be annual holidays, day trips or regular family meals.
Having suggested the above tips, it is also important to point out that successful families need to establish rules, consequences and boundaries. In many unhappy families there are no rules and consequences, so therefore children do not know what is expected of them. They are quick to be punished but rarely praised. It is therefore important to develop a clear picture of what is allowed and not allowed. Parents should clearly state things such as night time curfews in order to avoid conflict.
Through following the tips listed above we can help to establish a happy family, and therefore improve the time that we spend together.…