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De-clutter Your Life Inside and Out and Create a Happier Life

Reflect on your families’ present state. In many cases you know that  you need to change the way you are managing your family. You can’t always put your finger on what is making you frustrated, unsettled or down. Your own desires can be muddied by concern for your children or spouse and by simply being out of touch with your feelings.

I find that the best way to do this is to write down my thoughts, concerns and desires. 

I know that this is not easy for everyone so, you may want to follow the following strategies;

Make a diary of a day in your life. Write down from the moment you and your family wake what happens and how it makes you feel. Pretend you are talking to a close friend at the end of a hard day.

Sum up the present state of your life as though you are writing a letter to a very close friend and catching them up on what is going on in your life at this time. Limit this to one or two pages.

Create your own wish list. Be outrageous. It would pay to divide it up according to what is possible, likely, requires a miracle then short and long term goals. Be positive, as what limits us most in life is our thoughts and fears of failure.

‘What if I only had one year to live?’ I ask myself  this question when I need perspective in my life, as should you. Map out what you can do to ensure your families future and the direction that you desire for your children.

Personal values. Write down what you care most about and what your philosophies are. How does it relate to the family as a unit and each member individually. Evaluate your children’s responsibilities to themselves and others? What motivates each one of you most? What is the balance you believe should be for work, family and friends?

Once you have had a chance to review everything that you have written down it will be time to come up with a plan of action. When listing your final plan and goals, make sure your plan has the following:

Specific time frames. Put specific times in which each undertaking should be completed by.

Attainability – Your goals should be in sink with your personal strengths and weaknesses.

Measure it – Don’t be general. Set a specific goal and its outcome…

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Basic Parenting Advice For A Happier Household

Being a good parent requires more than just fathering or giving birth to a child. Being a good parent means giving your child what they need when they need it. This is true whether their needs are physical or emotional. The tips delineated below will help you to do just that.

If you have multiple children, make sure you’re spending time with each of them separately, as well as in a group. Spending time with each child individually helps you bond with them and gives them a sense of uniqueness. You want your children to know that you love them all equally and that they all deserve time with you.

Remember to reward good behavior with praise and recognition. Children usually hear more reprimands for bad behavior than praise for good behavior and that might become discouraging to them. However, if you praise them for specific good behavior that they have exhibited, their confidence will be lifted, and they will exhibit the good behavior more often.

If your child is afraid of going to bed alone, do not encourage them to come and lie in the bed with you. Make sure that they sleep in their own beds and reassure them that they are safe. You can even assign one of their stuffed animals to be a “bodyguard.”

I know life is hectic, but take the time to play with your children. You don’t have to play their favorite games every time you play, but make sure to balance what you like to do with what they like to do. It will show them compromise, which is an important thing for them to learn.

Don’t keep junk food at home, where it might tempt your young child to eat it or beg you for it. If sweets are not an option, your child will eat something healthier instead. You don’t have to ban them for good, but try to save them for special occasions or holidays.

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As a parent one should make sure to set time aside specifically for the family. This is important for maintaining a happy and close family because with our busy lives it is easy to let other outside activities such as sports and work get in the way.

Good Relationship

As unfortunate an event it may be, divorces happen all of the time. In order for you, a divorced parent, to hold a good relationship with your college aged and older children you must never get them in the middle of your divorce. This will push them away for you and your ex-spouse.…