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Obese Children Are Often More Obese Adults

Obese Children Are Often More Obese Adults

It has been long thought that there is a direct relationship between childhood obesity and one’s tendency to carry that obesity into adulthood. Not only are one’s eating habits and proclivities established at a young age, but certain physiological changes are established during childhood as well. Both habits and physiological tend to follow a person from childhood into the adult years.

William Dietz, Jr., MD, PhD, Director, Division of Nutrition, Physical Activity, and Obesity recently testified before the U.S. House of Representatives Subcommittee on Health and Committee on Energy and Commerce. In his testimony he quoted John F. Kennedy as saying “Children are the world’s most valuable resource and its best hope for the future.” He went on to further testify on the “tragedy of millions of children lacking… proper nutrition”. Further he laments the fact that today, improper nutrition, together with a lack of physical activity and extended time spent in front of the television, are fundamental factors for the roughly 12.5 million cases of childhood obesity in the U.S.

He has concluded that three crucial stages can be identified relating to the development of obesity. These three stages are pre-adulthood and span the years preceding. These stages are defined as the prenatal period, childhood between the ages of 5 and 7, and adolescence.

The prenatal stage: Even though additional study is necessary to thoroughly comprehend the relationship involving nutrition throughout gestation and birth weight to the beginning of obesity down the road in life, a number of studies indicate a relationship. For instance, studies have shown that a larger occurrence of adult obesity is present in babies born to diabetic moms who have a tendency to put on an above-average amount of weight throughout pregnancy and have bigger babies. An additional piece of research indicates that babies who are undernourished throughout the first two trimesters in uteri experience an elevated risk of obesity as they get older.

Childhood (ages 5 through 7): In typical development throughout the initial 12 months of life, an infant’s body weight, particularly the amount of fat or adipose tissue, is greater in ratio to the baby’s height. Progressively, the weight-to-height ratio diminishes. Subsequently, between 5 through 7 years of age, children naturally build up their fat stores. Health professionals refer to this phase as adiposity rebound. Several longitudinal studies indicate that children having their adiposity rebound occurring earlier, before the age of 5 1/2 for instance, tend to be fatter and heavier as adolescents and adults. The theory holds that children who experience their adipose rebound earlier than normal grow fatter for an extended period of time.

Adolescence (ages 10 to 13): Further research indicates that upwards of 80 percent of kids who are defined as obese throughout adolescence continue to be obese as adults. Unfortunately girls have an increased risk than boys for becoming and remaining overweight. For that matter, several research trials indicate that upwards of 30 percent of all overweight adult women were overweight as adolescents.

Read more about the testimony of Dr. Dietz before the U.S. House of Representatives Subcommittee on Health here: …

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Emotions, Family & Business

Thinking about starting a business? Well before you do it, make sure you have a conversation with your family and explain to them what you’re looking to do. This is especially important if a spouse or other family member is going to provide financial support while you work to get the business up and running.
Some of the steps you want to take to get them involved include:
• Going over the business plan • Involving them with the actual business planning• Having an uninterrupted conversation explaining your plans
Here’s the reason why you want to get them involved. In operating the business you’ll need emotionally and psychologically support. If they aren’t fully on board with the idea, that’s another battle you’ll have to fight.
When you talk with new or existing business owners, they’ll all tell you that it is an emotional process starting and running a business. In many cases they’re risking time and money on an idea. A scary proposition when they’re not sure how it’ll turn out. Also, they and only other people who have the same business truly understand what’s involved.
As a financial advisor some of the business owners I’ve talked with include programmers, story book writers, lawyers and commercial cleaners. The common thread with all of them is that it’s tough on them but they wouldn’t have it any other way. They knew when they opened their doors they had to compete. They also knew that sales would be tough. However, when they started to actually run the business they got to see how tough it was.
Why? Sales on a daily basis can be physically and emotionally draining. Not ever sales pitch generates a sale. To deal with that and the idea that a family member is not supportive can be a lot for a business owner to deal with.
That potentially negative sales energy can affect short, medium and long range planning for the business. Maybe even its overall ‘s what it can affect:
• Sales presentation• Interaction with business partners• Family functions
There may be some salesmanship involved with getting family on board. Keep in mind that they love you. Also understand that for many people starting a business is a scary thing and they can’t imagine it. So because they care about you, they don’t want to see you have any potential hardship.
Here are a few suggestions on how to get your family on board with the business:
• Have them ask how they can help• Have them be able to explain your business• Avoid non supporters• Tell them not to ask how the business is doing expecting to hear the worst• Work out a schedule for life and work
Starting a business is tough enough but not having the emotional and psychological support of family and even friends can make it tougher. Do the best that you can to get them on board. If you can’t, try to minimize the effect it has on your business and family relationship.…

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Easy Ways You Can Help to Prevent Childhood Obesity

Easy Ways You Can Help to Prevent Childhood Obesity

Did you know that our military is threatened because of the childhood obesity epidemic? That’s right. Not enough of the applicants can pass the physical required after recruitment. This should point out how severe the problem has become.

It’s easy to point fingers and blame everyone around us about this menace. However, the time has come for action, not finger pointing. It means that all of us have some responsibility to deal with it. What can we do?

While there is plenty to do for all of us, we parents have the primary role. We’re the ones that choose what our children eat for most meals, and we decide what they can and can’t do in our homes. Despite the exhaustion that can come from a full time job, we can’t give in to what is easiest. Here are a few ways we can do to deal with the crisis:

Examples: Children look to adults for guidance. Parents and teachers are always setting an example for the kids, whether they intend to or not. If we try to make sure we eat properly and get enough exercise, this will encourage the kids to do the same thing.

Join In: It’s not just about what kids eat, it’s also about what they do. Growing up, my parents encouraged us to play by playing with us. We’d play softball, badminton and other active games. This showed us that exercise can be fun and that everyone needs to do it, not just kids.

Limit Screen Use: Due to our technology laden lifestyle, children spend between six and eight hours a day staring at one screen or another. Cell phones, iPads, computers, game devices and the television are constantly in use. This does two things. First, most of them are passive pastimes. There’s little to no movement involved. Second, it can seriously damage their eyes, neither of which are good.

Support: If you’re not a parent, you can help by supporting the parents around you. Your relatives and neighbors could use help in this area. Parenting isn’t easy and changing set in habits is going to be frustrating for both parents and children. Parents can always use a sympathetic ear.

Talk: Talk to your children about choices and show them that this is an important issue. Take them to the supermarket and have them help to pick healthy foods to snack on. Also, talk to your school district about having healthy lunches served in the cafeteria. This is one of your biggest assets.

Preventing childhood obesity is an issue we should all care about. While parents have the biggest burden, we should all do what we can to help.…

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What Is the Best Age to Start Piano Lessons?

What Is the Best Age to Start Piano Lessons?

If you have a young child and have been thinking about getting him or her started in piano lessons, you have probably heard many reports about the benefits of starting at a very young age. It is true that crucial musical development takes place in babies and toddlers starting at birth, and that children need musical stimulation from very early on in their lives.

But when you take a look at your two-and-a-half-year-old, it might be hard to imagine him or her sitting patiently on the bench through a thirty minute piano lesson. And you are probably right.

Traditionally, most piano teachers have suggested waiting until a child has started learning to read before starting them with piano instruction- around the age of five or six. The reason for this is that most methods of piano instruction have centered around teaching children to read notes off of the page from the very beginning. Younger children tend to get frustrated very quickly when faced with understanding musical symbols and trying to make their little fingers cooperate all at the same time.

But this does not mean that you should hold off on your child’s music education until they start school. Enrolling your son or daughter in an early childhood music program such as Music Together or The Music Class is a great way to offer them a fun introduction to music. At the same time, they begin to develop fundamental skills in areas such as pitch and rhythm that will give them a much greater chance of success when they start formalized instruction.

The absolute earliest age I would recommend starting a child in piano lessons would be three-and-a-half years old. This should be considered only with a teacher who has lots of experience working with children at this age. A child this young will have a much shorter attention span and will need a variety of activities, both at and away from the piano, to keep that young mind interested and involved during the lesson.

The worst thing we could possibly do is make music study into a chore. For the pre-school child, music making should be a creative and fun activity. The discipline and persistence needed to succeed will be developed over time. For now, it’s enough to concentrate on kindling in them a love for music and helping them to master basic musical concepts that will set the groundwork for future success.

So, what is my final advice on this subject?

First, start by exposing your child to music from the time they are born. Sing constantly to them. Play your favorite music (in all styles) on the stereo. Dance with your child. And as he or she gets a little older, around the age of one year, look for an opportunity to start an early childhood music program.

Piano lessons can wait until the child is five and he or she will do just fine. However, if you are adamant about starting at a younger age, look for a teacher with experience and training in working with younger beginners.

And most of all, for you the parent- be patient. Learning a musical instrument is a lifelong pursuit. Take your time and enjoy the journey.…

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Are You Letting Your Past Sabotage Your Satisfying Senior Sex

Are You Letting Your Past Sabotage Your Satisfying Senior Sex

One of the questions I’m often asked is some version of “Dr. Pat, what can I do so the sexual abuse I experienced as a little kid doesn’t still get in the way of the intimacy I want with my honey?”

It’s not uncommon to start to uncover an awareness of, or reawaken feelings about, past traumas, especially sexual trauma or abuse, when you are working making things better.

Does this mean it’s time to give up on having a loving, intimate relationship with your honey? Not necessarily.

However, it also doesn’t mean you can just ignore what happened in the past. Ignoring your past can include refusing to admit it really happened, minimizing what happened or the impact of what happened, or pretending to yourself that you haven’t let it bother you.

No matter how you ignore what’s happened, it’s at your own peril, and you can put both your relationship, your intimate life, and/or your own mental health in jeopardy.

For many couples, this experience of past trauma can get in the way, not only for having a satisfying sexual life, but also for enjoying other aspects of their relationships.

If this is you, be sure to seek professional help or join a support group for people who have been through a similar experience. This means you will have to talk about experiences or events that are uncomfortable, and even shameful, but you will have the support you need to get past letting this continue to run your life.

While it is impossible to go back and change what happened, or even get the person who hurt you to take responsibility for what he did, you don’t have to continue letting this stop you from disengaging from what happened to you.

Keep remembering: this was something that happened to who you are. Children are never responsible for inviting abuse or being abused.

It comes down to making a decision about how much who did what when will impact your ability to have a close and satisfying relationship now.

Only you can make that decision.

Here’s hoping you’ll decide for yourself. Not the person who hurt you.…

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Ladder Of Years by Anne Tyler

Delia, short for Cordelia, is the central character of Anne Tyler’s Ladder Of Years. As usual for Anne Tyler, Delia is a Baltimore resident, a wife, a mother and probably, at least from the outside, a pillar of strength and dependability in both family and community. The children are growing up. Which children don’t? Bet then it’s how they grow up that matters, isn’t it? Sam, the husband, is doing moderately well. Moderate seems to be the word, as far as Sam is concerned. He’s hardly made a success of the business he inherited from Delia’s father, but the family survives to inhabit a middle class, rather liberal niche in the common psyche. As Ladder Of Years opens, the family is holidaying by the sea and Delia is dressed, mentally, for the beach.
And then, without warning, even to herself, she takes off. Just like that, whatever “that” might be. She absconds. Goes missing. Disappears. There’s suspicion of drowning. A report appears in a Baltimore paper. The family fears she has come to harm. But no, she hasn’t. In fact, still dressed for the beach she is heading off to a place she doesn’t know with a stranger. It’s no particular stranger, just a stranger.
Quite soon, and with new clothes, a new address and a changed life, Delia takes on a new identity. Though Baltimore wife and mother still lives in her head, she’s become a new Delia, single, independent and employed. In this new guise, she inter-reacts with her new community and gradually becomes part of it. Why did she leave the apparent safety, security and responsibility of her family? Not even she can answer.
What slowly begins to emerge, however, is that Delia’s choice of opting out becomes increasingly one of opting in. By degree the characters in her new life start to become more demanding. Without needing to state everything explicitly, they start to assume Delia’s support and claim reliance upon her. She, of course, responds and finds that she now has two levels of responsibility created out of the demands of her new life and continued contact with her family. Interestingly, Delia, this pillar of support, never feels either at home or secure in either role.
And so it is via this scenario of identity change, relationships of dependency, insecure self-image, alongside a fixation of demand that Anne Tyler relates how Delia’s life unfolds. Delia notices a lot about people, but she’s no great analyst. Surely she’s the type to apologise before expressing an opinion, but would harbour unspoken bigotries like the rest of us. At the start of the book she seems confused. By the end, a few more rungs along the ladder of life, she apparently remains so. Perhaps the ladder is horizontal… and with irregular spacing… But then Delia has little time to consider such arcane ideas. After all, there are things to do, people to talk to, arrangements to be made, jobs to be done……

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Self-Esteem – Part 3

Self-Esteem – Part 3

Take heed what you put in your minds & who you surround yourselves with

Do you have your inner armor on so that when someone speaks negatively against you, it doesn’t pierce you?

Do you speak negatively to or about yourself to others and do you allow others to speak negatively to or about you?

i.e.: you make a mistake and say to yourself, “Stupid! How’d you do that!” This is a negative affirmation.

Never should that word come out of our mouths in dealing with anyone, especially ourselves! And never allow anyone to belittle you.

Instead, retrain your mind how to think and retrain yourself how to speak. When you call yourself “stupid”, you are demeaning yourself and disrespecting yourself in your own eyes and in other people’s eyes also. As you continue saying things like that, you will begin to believe it.

Instead say, “wait a minute, I am not stupid… I am a very smart person who just made a mistake!”

Tell yourself positive things. Just as you would encourage your child to do better, encourage yourself the same way with kid gloves.

Tell yourself that you are handsome or beautiful; tell yourself that you can get that job that you are interviewing for and that you are just as qualified as anyone else if not better; tell yourself that you can do the public speaking that you are afraid to do; tell yourself that you can get the A’s and B’s for your grades that you studied so hard for; tell yourself that you are going to ace your exams; tell yourself that you can do it.

Tell yourself positive things whenever doubt arises in your heart about who you are and what you can do. Never give in to your doubts and fears. Always fight against them with a new way of thinking and a new way of speaking positively. When you change your way of thinking and your way of speaking, you change your state of mind thus changing your actions and your way of life.

Also, negative thoughts effect you physically negative. With cancer patients, they have them get rid of unnecessary stress out of their lives as much as possible. They have them get rid of any negative way of thinking.

If you think you’ll lose the battle… you just did!

So, doctors always have cancer patients trying to think in positive ways of their healing and progress.

Negative thinking does the same thing. It is a cancer that eats away everything that you are and your hopes, dreams, and faith until you think that there is nothing left to fight for. Join me again at ” Living Victoriously ” for additional self-help articles and posts. Also, please feel free to comment or ask questions. If you become a follower, you will have the option of requesting specific self-help articles and you will also have the option of adding your own self-help articles to the blog once approved. So, become a follower today!

Don’t let fear win today or any day!…