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Parenting Awareness

There comes a time in everyone’s life where they stop and look back at past events. When doing so, they shock themselves by thinking what their past self would react seeing where they are at the moment. They might start to wonder what life would have been if they hadn’t gone to that party, or if they did volunteer at that hospital. Sadly, there are times when we wish we could’ve done something different or wished we didn’t do things that we did.

We often ask the question “Where am I”. Whether it’s when we are looking at the mirror at ourselves or cleaning up our rooms or looking at the clock when you just awoke. Buddhists have a very simple answer to this question. The present moment, that’s all that matters. When it comes to parenting, it’s very important.

Not many of us are in the moment when doing certain activities, however the option to choose so is always available. When was the last time you washed the dishes or cleaned the house and actually thought about what you were doing in that moment? Some of us just turn on the radio and listen to the music as we clean. Others just space out or day dream. Some might turn on the T.V. and glance every now and then.

If we resist the temptations of thinking about the past or what if scenarios, we’ll greatly reap the many benefits of the present and what is happening at the moment. Understanding what is around us, who is around us and what we are doing here and now is important. It is also important to be aware of what you say and how others react as well as vice versa. Buddha himself has a great poem dictating the present moment:

Do not pursue the past.

Do not lose yourself in the future.

The past no longer is.

The future has not yet come.

Looking deeply at life as it is

In the very here and now,

The practitioner dwells

In stability and freedom.

We must be diligent today.

To wait until tomorrow is too late.

Death comes unexpectedly.

Awareness in Parenting and Children

When it comes to parenting, it is vital to be in the present moment. When the time comes when we have children, many of us will be put under stress. Whether this stress be that we have to constantly take care of the child or how much harder we will have to work to support the child. Focusing the mind on the present during these days is vital for the happiness of your children as well as yourself.

Living in the present allows us to be more relaxed and calm. Children have the great ability of being guides for us. They guide us to see who we really are and how we act. All children live in the present moment. They don’t think about the past as much as we do and they don’t worry about the uncertainty of the future. Their mind is focused on what is happening now. If we observe how they act more and more often, our children can teach us how to live a life (or live in moments) where we are emancipated from worry or fear about the future and be happy with what is happening now and where we are.

There are many parents who go through their parenting life who are on “auto pilot”. What this means is that they go through their days, weeks, months and years going to the store, buying groceries, buying diapers, baby formula and so forth, then return home, take care of the child and wait till they go to sleep, then they go off to do their other stuff.

Then, there are those parents who realize that what they’ve done, they weren’t really in the moment. They were always thinking of what to do tomorrow, or next week, or sometime in the future. They never really stopped and focused on the now. These parents begin to focus on their children and they become aware of what is happening. In the end, these parents are the happy ones because they get the delight of truly seeing their child grow up right in front of them and how they’ve changed because of the child.

Benefits of Awareness for Parents

With the ability to become more calm and relaxed when becoming more aware, awareness allows us to understand perspectives more efficiently and understand more about ourselves. A lot of times, we judge. We judge how we look, how other people look, how they act and so forth. Judging can sometime bring forth negative emotions that’ll add necessary stress in our lives. Applying Buddhist awareness allows us to understand our emotions and our judgments without actually standing behind …

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Feng Shui Made Easy – More Prosperity Areas of the Bagua

Another prosperity area is the Happy Family area. This area is in the middle left of the bagua in front of the Prosperity Corner. The element is wood, the color is green the shape is rectangular or columnar. They have an important inter-relationship. This area has to do with “every day” money, money for bills, food, rent etc. Pay attention to Happy Family.
Have lots of light and movement in this area. Don’t worry if the wrong properties exist like an object that has the element of metal and is white and round. You can cure it with the element of fire, the color red and pointed or triangular shapes. Candles also work well as a cure. This is a good place for a money bowl (my last article explains this).
In front of the Happy Family area on left is the Self Cultivation and Knowledge area. If your money is spent before it is earned this is a good area to concentrate on. This area is helpful in developing wisdom on how to create and use your money.
Place a picture of someone wise with money in this area. Put a bill or coin in this space. Money has pictures of wise men and it is money! It can be as simple as that. Have books that pertain to prosperity in this area. All of these things work to affirm your intention of prosperity. They remind you of your intention when you see them which enhances the feeling of prosperity.
Of course, the Career area is a big area of prosperity. It is next to Self Cultivation and Knowledge. Typically, the Entry falls in the Career section which is in the middle of the front of the house. The element is water, the color is black and the shape is freeform or undulating.
The entry to your home is a very important prosperity area in Feng Shui. Doors are the “mouth of Chi”. When you open your door you are inviting in energy. Therefore, it is important to make a point of opening your front door. That may sound funny but many people enter and exit their homes only through the garage and rarely use the front door. Try to remember to open it now and then and have something in that area that invites in Chi. Art, wind chimes, crystals and fountains are good Chi movers in an entry. Remember, water is a symbol of prosperity so add more water!
Doors are the “mouth of Chi” and windows are the “eyes of Chi”. Doors should be kept unobstructed and able to open fully so that Chi flows in. Windows should be kept clean. Add more lighting if windows are not sufficient. Add some red ribbon or tape across the window sill and at the base of the door to invite even more Chi in.
The last area of prosperity in today’s article is the kitchen, more specifically the stove. In china the more people you cooked for the more prosperous you were. So, the more burners on the stove the better. This doesn’t necessarily mean you have to upgrade your stove. You can simply place mirrors at the back of the stove to multiply the burners. The mirrors also allow you to see behind you if your back happens to be to the door when you are cooking. Always keep the stove clean and clear. Also, keep the countertops uncluttered so they are a functional clear space where you can cook, create and prosper.
Namaste’
Watch for my next article: The Power of a Vision Board…

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Stress – Different Ways On How To Deal With It

Feeling like the world is putting too much pressure on you? Do you experience sleepless nights because of your worries? Do you always eat on the go to beat your busy schedule? It is not just you who experiences these things. Most people experience stress at some point of their lives. But, there are ways to cope up with the unavoidable stress in life.
Stress is the body’s way in adjusting to a high demand. It is often caused by pressure from the outside world. It is the body’s way of preparing in facing tough and demanding situations with stamina and focus. If unmanaged, stress can bring about negative results to a person’s body. Too much stress can cause anxiety or panic attacks, overeating and depression. Moreover, experiencing too much stress may lead to drinking alcohol, smoking and drug addiction. However, there are creative ways to handle and cope up with stress.
The proper way to deal with stress is to identify the source of stress in your life. Although it may sound that easy, identifying the root cause of stress is a bit difficult to do. More often than not, the source of stress is not that obvious. You may be constantly stressed with beating deadlines, however, deadlines are not the main problem but it is your habit of delaying your tasks.
After you found out what causes you to feel stress, identify how your body responds to it. Stop telling yourself that you are alright. Instead, take time to observe the how your body reacts to different situations. Notice your muscles and observe your breathing.
Once you already identify the cause of stress in your life and how your body responds to it, find ways to cope up with stress. Slowing down is one of the best ways to cope up with stress. Surround yourself with sights that comfort you. Listen to music that makes your muscles relax. Look for scents that are comforting and calming.
Knowing how to deal with the pressures from the environment helps you cope up with stress. The ability to manage stress keeps you focused and healthy.…

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Find Your Happiness by Working on Your Family

Today’s fast pace environment just doesn’t give couples the ability to sit down and enjoy each others company. We have to worry about the kids schooling, the soccer practices, dance classes, karate classes and the million other things that we all feel we need to do for our families in order to make us as parents feel that we are doing all that we can to help our children live normal and productive lives. But in reality, we are only burning ourselves out.
How do I go about changing my life?
Parent needs to come to the understanding that children will develop at their own pace. There is really no need to have your child signed up for 2 different sports and a class in order for them to fell accepted by society. They get all their time socializing and connecting with friends at school and playing in their local neighborhood. Sure a sport could be beneficial to your child, but only in the case that they want to play the sport. Not because you feel it would be good for them.
Sit down and have dinner together
Having a meal together is a great way for you to reconnect with your spouse and your children. It is common in many cultures that all dinners would be around a simple table without any distractions. No TV, radio, or gaming systems. Talk with other about your days. Sharing your activities will help your children see that you have an interest in what they do during the day.
Set up some family time
Running around like a chicken with your head cut off is not healthy for you or your family. Organize yourself with a planner and make sure to set up some family time a side in your schedule. Use this time to take the family to a move or out to a park. Have some fun. Think back to how you felt when you got to go to the park and spend time with your dad fishing or with your mom at the playground.
We all want what is best for our children in the future and feel obligated to do everything that we can to make sure they have those opportunities that we never had. But how would you feel now if you would not have had those special moments with your parents when you where growing up. Those are memories that will always stick with us throughout the rest of our lives.…

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Solid Advice For Being A Great Parent

Parenting is an extremely difficult thing for most people. Babies don’t come with instruction manuals when they’re born, so many people are stuck fumbling around in the dark as they try to raise their children to be respectable adults. The following tips should give you direction when it comes to raising your children.

When breastfeeding, do not try to feed the baby on a strict schedule. Letting the baby eat when he is hungry will allow your supply and the baby’s hunger to develop as needed. If you try to feed him at a set time, he will not suck as hard and your body will not respond with letting down your milk. Your baby knows when he is hungry so follow his cues.

For mothers of newborn twins, it is wise to get a breast pump. By not getting one, your nipples may not produce enough milk at the time feeding. Also, your nipples could get very sore and painful. These can be purchased at online or any store that sells baby products.

You can make your disciplinary efforts far more effective, by trying to shift the focus of your words from only highlighting the child’s wrongdoing to using positive language. Children who are repeatedly criticized, have a natural tendency to resist discipline, which in turn, leads to increased instances of fits, discipline problems and poor conduct.

Don’t smoke in a home where your kids are living. It might be a good time to think about quitting once and for all. Secondhand smoke is worse than smoking. Children who are exposed to second-hand smoke experience a higher incidence of respiratory issues such as asthma, bronchitis and pneumonia.

Do not feel ashamed if you want to take parenting classes. These classes are made to help parents cope with the stresses and difficult decisions that come with parenting. By taking these classes, you are showing that you are willing to do whatever it takes in order to improve your parenting skills.

Close Family

As a parent one should make sure to set time aside specifically for the family. This is important for maintaining a happy and close family, because with our busy lives it is easy to let other outside activities such as sports and work get in the way.

Good Relationship

As unfortunate an event it may be, divorces happen all of the time. In order for you, a divorced parent, to hold a good relationship with your college aged and older children you must never get them in the middle of your divorce. This will push them away for you and your ex-spouse.

Mom And Baby

Look into slings and baby carriers designed for twins. They do exist, and they are fabulous. There is a learning curve for getting two babies into a carrier, but the benefits to mom and baby are enormous. Wearing your babies will allow you to get things done with your hands free, and the twins get the emotional connection and intellectual stimulation from being right with you.

Parenting may be a difficult and confusing, but it’s well worth it. These tips should help give you a starting point for raising your children. While it may not have covered everything, you should at least come out with more knowledge and a better plan than you came in with.…

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How You Can Have Healthy Prengancy

You know that the more information you have about pregnancy, the easier it will be to keep yourself on the right track for the better health of you and your baby. There is no mystery about using common sense and practical ideas to make this happen. Try some of these tips to start off right.

Start taking pregnancy belly pictures early. Many women like to have early pictures to compare against as the months pass. If you turn out not to want them, you don’t have to keep them, but you can’t decide later that you want to keep photographs that you never had taken.

Try taking your prenatal vitamins at night. These pills, while essential for the proper growth and development of your baby, can make some mothers feel nauseous. Taking them before you lay down or with food can help your body adjust to their effects. If you need to take them during the day, try chewing gum afterwards.

Pass off the cat litter cleaning duties to someone else once you have found out you are pregnant. Changing cat litter while pregnant can cause you to develop toxoplasmosis. While toxoplasmosis is generally mild to the mother, it can cause serious complications in the fetus. Be safe and just avoid it entirely.

Do not feel required to announce your pregnancy to everyone as soon as you know. All women have their own comfort zone regarding when they want to tell everyone. Some women wait until they have reached the end of the first trimester and the highest risk of miscarriage is over. Listen to your heart and share the news when you are ready to.

Shop around for a prenatal exercise class that you enjoy. You can take a yoga class that will teach you how to do exercises that are specialized for pregnant women. This will allow you to keep up your health and remain active, throughout your entire pregnancy. You could also make some new friends when you join a yoga class.

Baby-Sitting

It is important to learn how to take care of a newborn. Baby-sitting other people’s toddlers and newborns is a great way to learn this experience. Caring for other people’s newborns not only helps make some money on the side, but also gives you the life skills you need to take care of your own child.

Mom And Baby

Exercising in pregnancy is good for mom and baby. The benefits include decreased risk for gestational diabetes, less complaints of constipation and back pain and a quicker recovery from birth for mom. Stop exercising and see your doctor if you have signs, such as shortness of breath, dizziness, fluid leaking, uterine contractions or vaginal bleeding.

As you can see from the practical ideas and common sense advice in the article above, there is no mystery about what you can do right now to make your pregnancy the very best time for you and your baby. They will keep you on track so you can spend less time worrying and more time enjoying these exciting nine months.…