Sometimes we are very fortunate to be backed by a strong support team. Ironically, though it is sometimes those closest to us who succeed in derailing our attempts to unlearn destructive lifestyle habits.
Parents often exhort children to “eat up, it is good for you”. Thereby you establish a vicious cycle where food intake is equated with love and approval. The implication to this is that if your child does not eat all the food that has been prepared, he is made to feel ungrateful and unloving. If you see food as a reward and a substitute for love, you will probably be one to use it as a source of comfort every time you experience a crisis, with disastrous consequences for your weight and health. Let them be when they do not want to eat anymore, and build a healthy family.
Then there are also the loving parents, who discourage their beloved ones slimming attempts. “I love you just the way you are, you do not need to lose weight” they would say. These people might be trying to manipulate you psychologically, out of some sort of feat that if you lose weight you will be more difficult to control. A slim, healthy attractive part might be viewed as a threat. The particularly happens when your partner has also steadily gained weight over the years. Get your partner to join you in your weight loss efforts and build a healthy happy family.
Once you have made up your mind to achieve optimum healthy, and to gain control over your weight, it is vital that you let “diet detailers'” know you are wise to their tricks. Those who love you dearly may not even be aware that they are attempting to sabotage you, and they could be very hurt if you confront the issue with them too forcefully. Take it gently yet firmly and explain to them how much it means to you to lose weight and also to get the whole family to join in order to build a healthy family. Try to turn this into an opportunity to spend more quality time together. Ask them to be your weight loss buddy and build a healthy happy family. This will provide you with the vital back-up support system that you need. And it will also eliminate any feelings of insecurity they might experience as you begin to reveal your new slimmer sexier healthier body.
When you reach a milestone in your weight loss journey, do not be afraid to shout if from the rooftops. Chances are good that when your friends and your family see your enthusiasm and your happiness, they will begin to provide the much needed support you crave.
Your remarkable achievements will be as much a tribute to your loved ones as it is to your own determination.
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